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AIBU?

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to feel slightly used? Long...

56 replies

strawberrylion · 17/02/2011 18:05

One of my closest friends got married almost six months ago...

I got over the fact that she didn't ask me to be bridesmaid (she asked someone else who she later said she regretted because she caused nothing but grief over dresses etc)...instead I helped out and I did all the flowers...she then asked me to do a reading during the ceremony, which I did...I got over the fact that I ended up out of pocket for the flowers...I got over the fact that I never got a thank you in the speeches...I got over the fact that I was the one (not her family or bridesmaids) who was expected to travel a 40mile round trip the day after the wedding to sort a problem with the hotel...

THEN I saw photos on facebook of an apparent second hen night that I wasn't invited to, or told about...the straw that broke the camel's back...I've kept my distance ever since because I didn't want to mention it and be accused of ruining her wedding weekend and I've never really known what to do about it since so we haven't seen each other (she has drunkenly asked me via text if she's done something to offend me but when I suggested going for a drink to talk she brushed me off)

AIBU??!

OP posts:
chickenlittlee · 17/02/2011 18:07

YANBU. You could do well without such 'friends'.

strawberrylion · 17/02/2011 18:09

I have selfish friends but she's genuinely not usually one of them...I don't think she thinks she was in any way wrong?!

OP posts:
FabbyChic · 17/02/2011 18:10

No you are not being unreasonable, you have been used, she really don't give a shit about you.

You can see that, drop her.

janiesmum · 17/02/2011 18:14

why not just actually tell her why you are upset

pick up the phone, sod fb and texts and all that malarky

Monty27 · 17/02/2011 18:18

LOL, just seeing if this stops it!
Grin

GeekLove · 17/02/2011 18:20

I have reported this post - and it would seem that others posting did not stop it

RJRabbit · 17/02/2011 18:20

You finished, Janiesmum? :)

susall · 17/02/2011 18:20

Could this be the friend???

princesspuds · 17/02/2011 18:21

I think Janiesmum is a favourite of MN Grin
I agree that you should clear the air preferably face to face.

susall · 17/02/2011 18:22

God and I thought this only happened on Bounty!!!

LoveBeingAKnockedUp · 17/02/2011 18:22

Pmsl we get the point!!!!

Who was actually invited to the hen party, what sort of do was it? I had two and didn't invite everyone to both.

RJRabbit · 17/02/2011 18:22

Clearly not Hmm

CoronaAndLime · 17/02/2011 18:22

janiesmum seems to think you should phone her..

Grin
ilythia · 17/02/2011 18:22

This is the best mispost I have ever seen.

But agree. Just forget her. If she insists on knowing, tell her, and hope she has teh decency to feel ashamed.

atswimtwolengths · 17/02/2011 18:22

Is Janie's Mum the bride?

JaxTellersOldLady · 17/02/2011 18:23

janiesmum we heard you the first 18 pages!

Grin
StealthPolarBear · 17/02/2011 18:25

say I have an idea...

merryberry · 17/02/2011 18:26

lol jamiesmum, finger off the send button

merryberry · 17/02/2011 18:26

does it involve picking up the phone, spb?

MummieHunnie · 17/02/2011 18:26

Grin still not finished

MrsPresley · 17/02/2011 18:26

Is this a glitch or is janiesmum an arse Grin

Do you think op will take all this good advice? Grin

susall · 17/02/2011 18:27

Has it stopped yet? My page crashed!

spikeycow · 17/02/2011 18:27

WTF??!!!

ljgibbs · 17/02/2011 18:27

Bloody hell! how many times did you press enter Grin

MummieHunnie · 17/02/2011 18:28

yeah, Janiesmum has finished! Grin

I hope op got all of that advice!