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Original poster

to think wtf is going on with all these long long long and needy ops?

38 replies

bibbitybobbityhat · 17/02/2011 14:57

We don't need to know every last detail!

Feel like offering out my services as a freelance op editor.

I don't have time to read a 500 word essay on why you've gone off your mate/don't trust your dh/want to break contact with your sister.

Sheesh.

OP posts:
MadameDefarge · 17/02/2011 15:01

Dear Bibs,

Please bear with me, my hamster died when I was five. and since then I have found it hard to love other people. perhaps I feel not worthy of it? Anyway, my DH often disappears to the woodshed, whiich also makes me anxious as when I was a child I was frequently threatened with nasty things in the woodshed. I think he might be having an affair as my SIL saw him Tescos last year smiling at the checkout girl and since then he has barely said a word to me. I am also worried about the But My MIL who always stays four weeks at a time and moves into our bed says he has always been secretive....however he was once made redundant about 12 years ago and I wonder if he has ever recovered. The cats are a bit fraid of him to, but they are rescue cats, and maybe they also were locked in woodsheds.

Anyway, my question is, should I get a Kenwood mixer or a kitchenAId?

xxx

fracturedrainbow · 17/02/2011 15:01

So don't read it :) Can't speak for everyone, but for myself I tried to make my long needy post short, but rambled a bit - I am new to this so bear with me. Surely though you can tell from the title whether it's a post you want to read or not and if it is, then it doesn't matter how long it is because you'll read it and if it's not, then chances are you won't even have clicked on it in the first place Wink

JamieLeeCurtis · 17/02/2011 15:04

Aw - don't be mean. It's a big deal for some people and they want to get all the details down - for their own benefit. To get things clear, and ALSO because they don't want to be accused of the heinous crime of "Stealth"

Having said that, I can't be doing with no paragraphs.

HecateQueenOfWitches · 17/02/2011 15:04

people can't really win.

If they give all the information they think people might need, they are wrong

If they keep it brief and obviously end up giving more information in response to posts, they get accused of changing the story or "AIBU By Stealth"

So what are they to do, Bib? Grin

Keep it short while giving lots of information so they aren't drip feeding? Grin

JamieLeeCurtis · 17/02/2011 15:05

X post - Hecate - I seem to be agreeing with you again

fracturedrainbow · 17/02/2011 15:06

sorry, what's AIBU By Stealth?

HeathcliffMoorland · 17/02/2011 15:07

Agree with Jamie and Hecate.

hymie · 17/02/2011 15:07

Sometimes people write like they think.

If they are suitably annoyed or frustrated their fingers can hammer out a long winded essay.

But in the grand scheme of things sharing is good for the soul :)

SlobbyBOB · 17/02/2011 15:07

MMaybe to head off the " we need more info OP"

"This is rubbish all were are getting is drip drip info on the problem."

bigTillyMint · 17/02/2011 15:07

I have to agree Bibbity - I just click off threads with a long OP. Especially if it is not broken up and spaced apart!

JamieLeeCurtis · 17/02/2011 15:07

fractured - It means giving some information, then getting a reaction back from that, sometimes getting a bit arsey, then revealing more info which it would have been useful for everyone to know at the beginning.

tethersend · 17/02/2011 15:07

It's like ninja AIBU.

PomonaTodd · 17/02/2011 15:09

I do agree that when people don't use paragraphs, I stop reading.

But having a long needy OP is just what happens sometimes. People don't intend to be needy but life sometimes goes like that I have found.

SlobbyBOB · 17/02/2011 15:09

Does help if the OP uses paragraphs however.

CaptainNancy · 17/02/2011 15:11

Don't read them if you don't like them- plenty of other threads around.
People will be accused of doing wrong whatever they do tbh.

fracturedrainbow · 17/02/2011 15:11

@JamieLeeCurtis - Thanks :)

KazBarTheFriendlyGhost · 17/02/2011 15:17

What's your top tips for good OP's

  1. paragraphs
  2. punctuation
  3. ...............??

I'm actually in agreement here btw.

Some OP's are very long and drawn out, I tend to skip past them

Original poster
bibbitybobbityhat · 17/02/2011 15:19

I don't mind long.

I do mind irrelevant!

This is my stepmother talking:

"So I took your Dad to the doctors and the appointment was half past, no actually it was quarter past, and we got there at ten past and had to wait ten minutes so we were five minutes late going in ..."

and it is all waffle that makes me switch off!

OP posts:
kingprawntikka · 17/02/2011 15:21

Madame defargeGrin

KazBarTheFriendlyGhost · 17/02/2011 15:22

I especially hate it when you mistakenly get a word wrong, or figure round the wrong way, whilst telling a story and someone pipes up - er, did you not mean ?

They knew what I meant, so why interrupt??

Perhaps just me, sorry for going off the thread here...

Original poster
bibbitybobbityhat · 17/02/2011 16:04

Heh heh heh MadameD. Kenwood, every time Grin.

OP posts:
LadyThumb · 17/02/2011 16:43

Ha ha MadameD - but you spoilt it by putting punctuation and capital letters!!!

MadameDefarge · 17/02/2011 17:13
sethstarkaddersmackerel · 17/02/2011 17:16

It's very therapeutic writing long needy OPs, I find.

But you do then get a better response if you then go back and edit it to two sentences, beginning 'I am enraged because....' and 'Should I....'

noddyholder · 17/02/2011 17:17

I like the long ones I can't afford magazines