to be cross at myself for not responding more robustly to this comment?

[mangotoo]

(sorry - namechanged)

Came across an old schoolfriend yesterday who asked about my DCs.

She asked which school DS has gone to.

When I replied the local grammar, she asked if he was the only white face in the class.

Not one for confrontation, I replied honestly that there's a fantastic mix throughout the school and he's made some great friends.

I swiftly moved on, but now feel crap that I didn't challenge her attitude.

It makes a bit better sense to me now I've read Kerstina's post. Thanks. I really wasn't quite understanding why it might be racially derogatory.

I'm still a bit confused about exactly what the OP's friend was implying.

Is the OP's friend white? Does she have dcs? If so, do her dcs go to comp or private?

Hi I'm the OP (just not very good at subterfuge).

I don't really know what she was infering either.

DD1 is very happy at the school and has a wide mix of lovely friends already.

Yep she's white and has 2 small DCs at a state faith school. (If that's relevant)