long story short - about a month ago
husband and i had a disagreement (he was in the middle of very unreasonable and quite mental for a month) and so i went out. came home at about 10.15pm to find he had locked himself in our bedroom with our son who at the time shared our room (ds now 9 months old.)
i knew that ds needed the rest of his milk as it had been a patchy eating day and that he would cry on and off all night till he had it. i knew dh would not give it to him as he had often said he felt that feeding him at night was wrong, which i disagree with if he really needs his milk, he should have it. i tapped lightly on the door and whispered "please give him the milk he wont stop crying other wise" and "are you ok please answer im worried" and did this intermittently for about 30 mins when i could hear ds cryign. at no point did dh call out and say its ok, and i started to be seriously worried that he had a heartattack and that my son was locked in a room with noone to come to him.
so i called the emergency services, asked which one was most appropriate, they said the one that comes quickest the police, so i said fine, can the police come, it was really awful when they came - three!! squad cars and runnign in and shouting its a domestic its a domestic and all our neighbours heard. it was a horrible horrible experience, and dh was of course ok and basically trying to wind me up and upset me.
he thinks i was mental to do have called them, and is still angry with me.
I think that it is totally unacceptable to lock yourself in a room with a crying baby and not make it known you are in there too and safe.
am i being unreasonable? what would others have done in a similar situation?