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Original poster

to continue my holiday rant - If I book a holiday and DH is an arse can I get refunds on flights etc?

27 replies

AtYourCervix · 14/02/2011 17:49

Bollocks to him. I am about to book a lovely holiday.

If I book a nice place for us I wouldn't expect money back for room/villa thingy but if I were to book flights and he doesn't pull his finger out would I be able to get any cash back for the flight for him?

I can do everything - book the place, the flight, work extra to pay for it, pack clothes, buy sun cream etc. Everything EXCEPT get him a passport. He is quite likely to not get round to doing this for himself.

AIBU to go ahead and book it?

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HecateQueenOfWitches · 14/02/2011 17:50

no. book it.

LIZS · 14/02/2011 17:51

If it is a low cost airline you won't get a refund. You may be able to transfer it for a fee.

lilystar · 14/02/2011 17:51

Unlikely, unless you book the very flexible tickets, which are by far the most expensive. If you are looking at basic economy fares, there's very little chance of a refund.

LadyThumb · 14/02/2011 17:51

No, you won't get a refund on the flight unless claimed through insurance.

I think you're taking a huge gamble tbh!

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AtYourCervix · 14/02/2011 17:52

so if i book it and he continues being an arse i should go without him anyway?

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PaperView · 14/02/2011 17:53

Book it and go with a friend if he is an arse.

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AtYourCervix · 14/02/2011 17:53

there is history here.

after 10 years of No holiday At All Ever I decided to take the DDs away without him (caravan in dorset).

since then he has deigned to come with us (within UK).

I suspect setting foot on forin shores may be to much for him.

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curlymama · 14/02/2011 17:54

You are unlikely to get a refund.

But you could make it as easy as possible for him to get a passport done. Pick up the form, fill it in etc. then all he has to do is get a photo done and sign in a box. You could even get someone to countersign it. Not that you should have to do all that for him though.

MorticiaAddams · 14/02/2011 17:55

Book without him and then he can book his own flight if he gets his passport sorted.

MissVerinder · 14/02/2011 17:56

Paperview: I concur. Maybe even just tell him you're going with a friend anyway; cue passive aggressive sulking and frantic passport application...

lilystar · 14/02/2011 17:56

don't bank on being able to transfer the flight to another name - the admin charges to do so could easily equal the fare, depending on who you are booking with. And that's if they let you do it.

Katisha · 14/02/2011 17:56

Get him the passport forms now. He'll have to get someone to countersign it so needs to get the seed of the idea in his head sharpish really.
But yes, I would strongly consider going without him if he tries to sabotage it.

On the other hand what do you do if he comes and sabotages it by being grouchy...

MissVerinder · 14/02/2011 17:57

Ooooh, I go caravanning in Dorset- Eype. I love it Smile

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AtYourCervix · 14/02/2011 17:58

te passport form is sitting on the kitchen table - filled in as far as i can, unless i forge his signiture, which i think is illegal.

i can do no more.

fuckim.

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jenga079 · 14/02/2011 17:58

Why does he not want to go away? The cost? The flight? Foreigners? Hmm

LIZS · 14/02/2011 18:00

agree with morticia - book your own flights and let him sort himself out. Turn around on passports is very quick atm, will be much slower after Easter.

Katisha · 14/02/2011 18:01

DH takes no active part in booking holidays and hums and haahs about taking leave.

Eventually we set off and at some point early in the proceedings,when he is in full swing about the shortcomings of the apartment/location/weather/prices of everything/food I start shouting and vow that it is THE LAST HOLIDAY I AM EVER BOOKING.

Then he starts to relax and by the end of the week claims to be enjoying himself.

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AtYourCervix · 14/02/2011 18:03

he doesn't like the thought of something new (wonder where DD2 gets it from Hmm)
I shall book ad leave it up to him to decide whether to come with us or not.

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jenga079 · 14/02/2011 18:22

Good plan. I can't understand why anyone wouldn't want to go on holiday!! Where are you planning on going?

QueenStromba · 14/02/2011 18:23

I feel for you AtYourCervix, I'm having pretty much the same situation with my DP (minus actually having any holiday plans). Like you I have the passport form all filled out and all he has to do is sign it and get some photos taken. For him it's a phobia of forms and official things. It's a major pain in the arse because he has no valid ID which has already caused problems with the letting agents. I say book everything except his flights, he might change his mind once he realises you're leaving him by himself for a week or two.

Flisspaps · 14/02/2011 18:24

Book it, you know that you and the girls will have a great time, he'll be stuck in the rain on his own Grin

altinkum · 14/02/2011 18:25

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AtYourCervix · 15/02/2011 09:33

Oh Blimey - I've just booked a holiday. eeek.

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Shodan · 15/02/2011 09:47

Where are you going then?

MamaVoo · 15/02/2011 10:02

Good for you. My DH isn't keen on holidays - at least not the ones that we can afford. I don't understand it at all but am planning our first holiday without him in May. It would spoil my enjoyment to have him come along and know that he was counting the days to go home.