to expect my DD to be in the netball team every match

[Freybybaby]

My DD plays for a highly competative netball team that plays in a local junior league. We never miss a training session, she practises shooting at home daily and I help out with the admin at the club. More and more girls are joining the club and DD will have to up her game to keep her place. I will be seriously hacked off if she is dropped from the team....I know deep down that IABU but quite frankly I don't care

Depends a bit on the age I think.12+ is old enough to be meritocratic.

B team is a good suggestion. Just enter another team into the league.

Nepotism

(Always worth spelling an accusation correctly)

Oh F*ck off! If i want a spelling lesson I'll ask for one, you weirdo!

"We never miss a training session, she practises shooting at home daily and I help out with the admin at the club."

OP: perhaps the club is sick of the pair of you. There is such a thing as beaing too eager.

It will be disappointing if she gets dropped but that will only be because others were better than her.

Netball's a shit sport anyway. Never really played beyond school.

if she is good enough she will be picked if not then she will not - however much you do is irrelevant!
if you want a 'fun' regime join a less competetive club or one with a number of graded A B C teams etc

ok then, op needs some moral support! It is annoying if people don't turn up to the training but expect to be picked to play the matches and it's also annoying when new players turn up and turf the regulars out. I sympathise. It's harder to bear if you are quite involved with the running of the team/admin even if you know that really that's not the way it works and are not looking for favours - it's been a part of your life as well as your dd's and you've given up time and effort to help build up the team. It's a shame it gets so competitive so early in life (polyanna moment) - it's really only a game. How does your dd feel about it? She might surprise you by not being that bothered and happy enough to join a lower level league instead or switch to another sport - plenty more out there to try. Maybe now is a good time to move across to something else

"OP, I would have more sympathy if your DD was worried about being dropped from the school orchestra, or an academic club...but netball!! It's a bit like worrying about her being her being dropped from playing tig. It's one of those things that they seem to spend a lot of time on at school, but which is completely irrelevant to adult life."

What an odd stance. I'd imagine for the vast majority of people their child-hood proficiency of orchestra instruments is also completely irrelevant to adult life.

I think you are worrying too much about it. No-one I know ever made a career of Netball. I used to be a quite good Goal Defence in my day (30 years ago). I don't remember ever losing sleep over it though, let alone my parents giving a stuff.

The nature of the team is competative. You have chosen to be involved so must support the competative nature. By this very nature, they will want the best players, not the most reliable. Second the poster who says to get involved with a more inclusive team, maybe not involved with leagues where it is about fun not winning.

hehe hilarious, this is clearly a joke!

oh how exciting - a whole new icon I'd never before noticed. Has it been around for ages and I'm horribly out of touch? will make myself a

oh yes make mine rather than a bevvy and if you chick in a tunnocks caramel wafer id be really chuffed

In true PFB upper class mama style i shall join you in a Green with a Duchy Originals shortcake if you may.

merci - there was a mumsnet campaign a few weeks ago for the wine glass, it has only been around for a couple of weeks so you havent missed out on too much

enjoy!

This is a very good lesson to learn and about the right age to learn it.

My own dd is absolutely devoted to her musical theatre and hardly ever misses a rehearsal. She still doesn't get the starring parts because her voice is frankly not that good. It would be a lot to ask of an audience to sit through several hours of off key singing when they could have had beautiful expression and perfect pitch from another child who is perhaps slightly less assiduous in her attendance.

In the same way, presumably your dd's netball team want to win their matches- and then they are going to give prominence to those players who are most likely to help them do so.

What dd is learning is that you can improve by working extra hard and that it is worth doing so, but at the same time people have their physical limits.

Depends on the ethos of the club. If it's to win, then they will play their best players every week irrespective of commitment to training (by player or parent). If it's inclusion, then they should give each player equal court time.

My experience* is that most clubs say they're inclusive but when it comes to the crunch, you always play to win and so you will always play your best seven.

• 30 years playing with three different clubs, still playing at regional level and current chairman at club containing six league sides, a vets team and 40+juniors from age 9 to 16. Also qualified coach and umpire.

If she's dropped you need to encourage her and not be bitter. Better to be part of a winning squad than a losing team (as I said to myself on Saturday when I was taken off at half time because my shooting was awful. Couldn't hit a cow's arse with a banjo.)

Ds2 had a leading part in the school musical last year, and did very well. This year he would have tried out for another leading part, but he had to have a op on his knee, and won't be able to manage the dancing rehearsals until quite close to the performance, so he has taken a back seat this year - and fully understands why this is right not just for him, but for the rest of the kids who are going to work so hard to put the musical on.

YABU, All the girls should be civen the chance to play.