to feel like an upset school girl

[legaleagle21]

Hi

I am 40 year old happily married professional mother of 2 but recently I began to regress into a insecure 14 year old.

I am always sociable with people at work but since returning from mat leave I have felt very left out.

I frequently walk into to rooms and people stop talking. I work in a team of 5. I found out recently that one of the team had a birthday party that all the others in the team went to but it was never mentioned in front of me. Tonight they have all gone on a night out but they were careful not to mention it in front of me. I heard about tonight when the lady in phocopying asked if i was going.

The thing that upsets me so much is the avoiding talking about things in front of me. I am that annoying that they are terrified I might want to go? I just feel so isolated and left out and as I said in my oping line I have gone from a happy secure woman into feling like an insercure and awkward school girl over it all.

i suspect it would be social susicide (if things could get worse) to bring up how i feel with them.
Any advice?

If I were you I would look for a different job, if you are not happy at work than its not good on your wellbeing.

The greeting thing seems to problem throughout the organization. I find it amazing how rude people are.

Frequently I will walk into offices say hello and no one looks up and says hello. But I have seen this done to others so I know that it is not just me.

All the more annoying as we are a charity and part mission statement is about being welcoming to all. What a laugh!

Legal I dont know why you want to be involved personally with such rude ill mannered people, just be thankful your out of it tbh. I expect that you have plenty of other lovely friends. I would bring up the rudeness issues with the line manager, its not acceptable, they are adults and shoudl know how to behave. If they are like that how are they behaving on a professional level, not good for the company.

If you fancy having a Pampered Chef Party but don't know how you can find a local consultant at www.pamperedchef.co.uk

or, if you live near me, I could do it (Bucks/Herts)

Speak to head office on the quiet...tell them about the inherent udeness which is the "norm" in your office. Its not bloody god enough.