With no strong ill will to DH, I have come to the conclusion that life would be much more peaceful and straightforward if he lived somewhere else.
The house next door is up for sale and in my dreams I suddenly become rich tomorrow and buy it. It's near enough for him to see the DCs every day but far enough that we don't have to put up with each other any more.
He could take his giant TV, Playstation, music system and stacks of CDs and games with him and decorate his own living room with empty beercans and junk food wrappers.
There would be no more grumbling, sighing and dramatic grunts of effort as he performs ordinary and undemanding household tasks (well, maybe there would be but I wouldn't have to listen to it).
No more football, rugby, motor racing on TV.
No more sulking, passive aggression and arguing over who pays the bills or who does more housework.
The DCs could pop over to his on weekend mornings and I wouldn't have to get up.
It all sounds rosy.
We don't have the best marriage in the world and have amicably discussed splitting up a few times tbh. Money problems mean that we'd still have to live together for a long time even if we did divorce so we're not rushing anything.
Is it unreasonable to not really care whether we stay married or not but definitely not to want to live together any more?