To ask DP to make less noise in the mornings?

[Kione]

DD is 16 months and thank god she sleeps trhough the night mostly now. She goes to bed T 8 and would wake up at 8 if non disturbed. But DP gets up at 6.30-7.00 during the week and wakes her up witout fail. I know some noises are unavoidable, but he is not careful at all with the bathroom door, or the shower door, toilet, etc. hope you get it.

Its not for me, if she wakes up that early then she is really tired at lunch time at 12, and it is a nightmare to feed her, she also puts up a fight for her nap because she is overtired.

i have explain this to DP, and a couple of days he showered at night not to wake us up, but thats it, if I say something in the morning he replies "oh FFS", and makes me feel like I am nagging.

He just does not get it, or doesen't care but always thinks its ME thats too sensitive or I don't know! Am I being unreasonable? or why are men like this???

Yabu- 6.30/ 7 is a perfectly reasonable getting up time. I'd be peed off if my husband expected me to creep around while getting up for work in the morning. Just accept that this is part of your daily family routine.

I think YANBU.

But DH knows I am a bad sleeper, often been lying awake for hours and is careful to be quiet and not wake me up.

DD gets up around 8, and I don't think that's excessively late.

yanbu of course he should try not to wake the baby.

YANBU at all. DH is up at half 5 for work and makes as little noise as possible so as not to wake me or the kids. Not because I've asked him to but because he doesn't want to wake his peacefully sleeping kids if he can avoid it and he doesn't have the attitude that if he's up for work then everyone else should be too!
Your husband is being unreasonable and selfish. Does he feel bad when the baby wakes up crying and tired due to him banging about?

Well, he doesen't go slamming doors, but he is not careful either, he makes as much noise as during the day.

He just told me he gets dressed in the spare room not to disturb me, he doesen't get it because I have explained that is DD I don't want awake, I wake up anyway, and the spare room is right opposite DD room!

So he is trying to be considerate... I think I have to put her to bed earlier and do everything earlier, but then he will barely see her.

barteringlines, she doesen't cry the poor soul, just sits there playing with her teddy, so he doesen't even realise, even if i tell him.

As I said, he is trying, and if I say anything else feels like nagging. I wouldn't say selfish he is just plain grumpy, specially if he is half sleep. And going to work.

I don't think YABU, my DH tries hard to be as quiet as possible in the morning, when hes getting ready, i don't know if this makes a difference but i don't sleep well anyhoo due to being in pain, so he respects the fact that even an extra half hour of our DS sleeping, is a big help, plus like you my DS is mega grumpy if he's awake at that time,and struggles to stay awake, eat lunch etc, some kids just like different routines :)

YANBU. It's called being considerate. My DH gets up at 5.30 for work and he is really quiet and we are lucky to have a downstairs bathroom - never thought i'd be grateful for that! Similarly if my grown up son comes in at 3am i don't expect him to wake us all up. Mind you DD (15mths) has taken to waking up at 5am for the last few weeks so it's all academic anyway...