To wonder why I even bother to give advice on here?

[loopylou6]

I probably am but it pisses me off. There have been a few threads recently where I have taken time to give advice, and its just like my font is invisible. I know I'm not well known here, but I think its common courtesy to reply to people. I always reply to anyone who's been kind enough to take the time to offer me advice, even if its not helpful [harumphh]

loopy I hear ya, but YA being a bit U. Its impossible to reply to everyone in a forum as fast moving as AIBU.

That happens to me too sometimes - probably does to everyone at some point. I only really get engaged reads threads where others do reply. I agree it's annoying, but I don't suppose there is much we can do about it except try and make sure we reply when people give us advice!

Normally I wouldn't mind but over the past couple if days its been practically every thread.

does a happy little invisible dance with the OP

we obviously arent in the clique just yet :)

< high fives chicken>

Depends how big the thread is.

If there are twenty or thirty posts - and sometimes threads run to the hundreds and more! then none of us can expect that the OP will trawl through the thread to reply to everyone by name.

There is also always the possibility that advice is ignored when it is thought to be not helpful, and rather than post "I think you're talking shit" they choose to not respond at all. - I always assume that if I am ignored it's because they think I'm talking crap.

If you post something and then the next poster says the same thing and then the OP comes along and thanks them for their contribution, that will piss you right off, I know.

I suppose the best thing is to contribute where you want to, without expectation, and just hope that maybe someone reading it will find it useful.

Wise words as usual Hec.

Oh and I did mean only the small threads, I'm not that unreasonable

Oh well, on the small threads you are allowed to post a passive aggressive -

"hmmmm... shall I use my invisibility for evil or to fight crime..." grin]

Id say be greatful ..im not a regular either but when i reply or ask a question i usually get a flaming!!

I think that it's hard to reply to everyone individually as it's such a busy board. I tend to say a "thanks everyone" post when I've read replies, and if I see a question someone has asked as part of their reply then I'll reply to it.

MAybe they dont think your advice is any good?

YANBU. In the past I've had the OP thank posters after my post despite me saying the exact same thing

Rasta that happens to me all the time too. I just shrug and move on.

hecate,just done the bad thing..pushed the wrong button,and my whole conversation is gone.i need help as to how i get back there without having to trawl,

and i'm not even on this site.

ooooooooooohh no.i am bad

Well I know who all of you are so you are not invisible! There seem to be more and more people on here in the last year so the threads move really fast I think :)

Thank you on behalf of Mumsnet for all of your worldly wisdom. We all appreciate it.

Not sure if you have given me any advice.

Maybe I am invisible too?

your whole conversation?

do you mean the thread you were on before?

If so, then click on 'threads I'm on' and it will show you the last threads you have posted on.

If you had composed a message on a thread but instead of pressing 'post', you've clicked away then sorry, but you are up a well known creek in an unseaworthy vessel with no means of propulsion. there's no way to get that back, I don't think.

sorry, that was to softpaw.

My posts generally seem to have two possible outcomes

1/ I am ignored

2/ EVERYONE disagrees