Inlaws inviting themselves on holiday with us...

[JingleMum]

have been in 2 minds about whether to start this thread or not as i guess it's more of a WWYD?

DP and i are booking our summer holiday soon. i haven't been abroad since 2008 and i'm really looking forward to it. i lead quite a busy lifestyle and don't get as much quality time with DP and DD as i'd maybe like... anyway.... whenever we mention booking our holiday MIL says "let me know when you book it, FIL and i will come with you. we'll get a room next to yours and have DD so you can both do your own thing for the week"

thing is i don't want to do our own thing, i want the 3 of us to spend quality time together and enjoy DD's first holiday, just the 3 of us.

i love MIL, she's a nice woman who means well but we're quite different, she's a bit boring i'm afraid and i don't fancy a full week in her company. we had a weekend away with inlaws once and it was so tedious, plus they would bang our door down at the crack of dawn and demand that we all have breakfast together. FIL is also lovely but i would never leave DD with him "to do my own thing" he's way too lax and a bit docile.

MIL has suggested it twice now and i've said both times "that wouldn't be much of a holiday for you having to care for DD, you might as well book your own summer holiday and relax and enjoy yourselves" DP just walks out of the room!

AIBU to ask DP to tell them straight we just want it to be the 3 of us? would i be better just booking our holiday and not mentioning it to them? WWYD?

Well.....it didnt go well.

Alcoholic mother in law got so pissed she was unintelligible, infront of the kids. This caused a row between her and DH. We knew she liked a drink but didnt know that she got in that state everyday.

So then she went into a massive sulk for the rest of the week, alternating with tantrummy outbursts. We spent as much time out of there as possible because FIL just ignored it and refused to do anything when she was being vile.

It was lovely! :o

We're having a similar problem at the moment unfortunately. PILs live quite far away from us and don't get to see DS much. Recently they suggested that we go away together in the summer for a week. Problem is my own parents live even further away (different country) and see DS even less so it's likely that we'll spend DH's leave over there with them. There's a bit of jealousy going on between the sets of GPs and I am dreading telling them this. However, they will just have to suck it up because if we don't go to my parents in the summer my grandmother won't get to see DS at all this year and that's just not fair. Plus I couldn't bear spending a full week with PILs. They are lovely but they wear me down very quickly.

Junglemum - Your sum up of your MIL is how if I was being really honest I feel about my MIL too.
The PILS wanted to come on holiday with us last year when dd was very little. She said it to DH on the phone and luckily he stopped her straight away. He did say however 'ooo first holiday should be just the three of us' so I'm waiting to see if they think that now they can come on 2nd or 3rd holiday. What I found really odd was that dh's GP's didn't go on holidays with PILS when they were little. I'd assumed this had happened and that's why MIL thought they should come too.
Your dh needs to man up and sort it out.