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to snigger inwardly about this mom's OTT behaviour?

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ChaosTrulyReigns · 07/02/2011 10:57

Examples of this mom's jawdropping behaviour.

scoots alongside her DD as the line flows into school, so that she's with the child till the door prevents her going any further.

conspicuously checks that her DD's reading book has been changed, making sure that everyone else has seen which stage Mildred is on as she waves it around getting it out of the bag.

makes snidey comments regarding the child first out the door at hometime being the "teacher's favourite". Confused

clean the school shoes every night and fresh uniform everyday.

peers in through the window at school making sure that Mildred's coat has been hung up correctly. Once she nipped round to the school secretary to mention that it had been knocked off the peg after Mildred had sat down at circle time for registration.

asks the child why she hasn't earned any stickers that day, and if she has earned stickers, being very loud and vocal in her praise of such a wonderful pupil.

Blimey, she's everso entertaining!

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StayingDavidTennantsGirl · 07/02/2011 16:23

On the subject of waving at windows - when my dad was a student teacher, one of his teaching practices was in a school next to Pentonville Prison in London.

He was in the middle of teaching a lesson one day when a bell sounded outside, and half the class went over to the windows. When he told them to sit back down again, he was told it was exercise time, and as his class overlooked the prison yard, this was the only time these kids got to see their dads and they wanted to wave to them!

StayingDavidTennantsGirl · 07/02/2011 16:24

Also - regarding going into the cloakroom to help your child - that is fine as long as there is enough room for all the parents that want to do this and for all the children as well, otherwise it just makes the whole thing far harder and longer.

maryz · 07/02/2011 16:28

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MmeLindt · 07/02/2011 16:29

I do think that children should be able to hang up their coats, put on their slippers, sort out their books and find their way to class.

Reception is 4 or 5 yo?

My DS was doing this alone from that age. After the first few weeks, the parents were banned from going up to the classrooms.

thornykate · 07/02/2011 16:35

Out of interest; how does a teacher know that a child is "one of the most secure in the class"?

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ChaosTrulyReigns · 07/02/2011 16:40

TryH and Beribbon, as I've said before, it's not individual behaviours that are jawdropping, it's just the way in which these behaviours are executed.

They are very PFBish to a child that is not first born and also really unsustainable and illogical.

And Beribbon, why would I be jealous of somebody who puts an unnecessary load of washing on each night - I am an Olympic standard washer without the added superfluity of washing clean clothes? Confused

Actually I look at DS's book folder sometimes too, if school haven't changed it for as while, but (refers back to OP), I don't wave it around so that everyone can see how advanced DS is with his reading. Hmm

And, TryH, you said in your post "most days" you need to do wash your DCs clothes. That's exactly it! You wouldn't wash a uniform that wasn't perfectly fine for the next day just because "it's the proper thing to do, and anyone who doesn't believe this is slatternly". Shock

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BeribbonedGibbon · 07/02/2011 16:55

If you read my post, I made a general comment about the green eyed monster.

Find it to be true in most cases Wink

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ChaosTrulyReigns · 07/02/2011 17:02

Sorry Berib, I think I took a tone from it that wasn't inferred.

Alopogies.

Smile
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stealthsquiggle · 07/02/2011 17:06

iCod - only one in each school?

I think we are over quota, then - I wonder which school is missing one?

StayingDavidTennantsGirl · 07/02/2011 17:24

Perhaps you got allocated a bonus one, stealthsquiggle - as a reward for good SATS results maybe?

stealthsquiggle · 07/02/2011 17:34

independent school, DavidTennantsGirl, so no SATS - maybe that's why we get a higher ratio Grin?

StayingDavidTennantsGirl · 07/02/2011 17:39

Maybe - was it not mentioned in the prospectus? Grin

mumbar · 07/02/2011 17:41

ROFL @ this thread Grin

DS goes with breakfast club on minibus and home again to after sch club on the bus. Have to admit when I do take him (about twice a yr) I do have a peek through the window - but never let him see me. He is 6btw.

Clean uniform daily - meet my DS and you'd know why!!! Sheos never rarely cleaned - thats what puddles are for!!

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ChaosTrulyReigns · 07/02/2011 19:26

Grin at shoe cleansing piddles.

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grumpypants · 07/02/2011 19:39

Clean uniform and shoes - lovely
Blowing kisses thro the window - fgs.

ellina · 07/02/2011 19:56

clean uniform and shoes - yes.

Asking for a reading book - yes - as ours can be slack about providing them - we're lucky if we get one every two weeks.

Peering through window - mm no - I don't think so far. Wouldn't give a monkeys about coat on floor.

Am not so worried about first child out of door - more the few parents who always jump the queue.

And mm yes, I do ask about stickers - mainly because I suspect teacher dislikes my dc and never gives her any and I'm trying to find out if she's a mean old cow or my dc is a badly behaved type.

But no I don't scoot. Am thinking maybe I should...

nickschick · 07/02/2011 20:00

My own Mum (bless her) saw a chart on the classroom wall and noticed my name didnt have a lot of stars next to it......come Friday I was 'star girl' and then again a few fridays later Hmm.....I think the teacher got suspicious.

After she died we found a huge packet of stars in her coat pocket Grin.

changeforthebetter · 07/02/2011 20:06

All the parents/carers go in with their DC as school encourages it Confused. DD does her "jobs" unaided but struggles with her lunch bag as the door to the lunch bag trollies is a huge fire door and DD is really small and light (smallest girl by far out of 80 kids). I think I may have waved or blown a kiss a few times at the very start in Reception but now I just scoot as I have to get DD2 to childcare and get to work.

The loud parenting thing is a bit weird, granted. I don't draw a lot of attention to DD's reading abilities as I can see that she is on a lower rank than most of her classmates Grin But she loves school and has friends so that will do for me.

Some of it sounds a bit pfb and some of it sounds a bit loon. Maybe the mum hasn't got anything else really to think about (mortgage, redundancy, energy price hikes, inflation on food, dismal job market, impending divorce......... want me to go on? Wink)

Fernie3 · 07/02/2011 20:24

My kids have clean uniform everyday, I walk my older one to the door kiss her goodbye and then take my younger son ( nursery) around to his class park my pram outside with my two preschool age children in then take him in help him hang his coat up, help him find his name for the register and settle him with a toy. Then i go home. When they come out if they have a sticker ir are star of the day I make a fuss of them. I check their book bags when they get home so we dont miss any important information or letters that need to be sent back. I have never waved through a window. I think both of the would be very upset if I just took then to the gate and left or if i didn't fuss over their stickers!

candleshoe · 07/02/2011 20:38

OP One of the questions your child will be assessed on and written up for this year is this:
Does child seperate well from parent?
If the answer is NO then they may be formally assessed as immature! Is this your intended outcome - teachers' conclusions stay on school records for life you know?

(primary teacher!)

candleshoe · 07/02/2011 20:38

Spelling and grammar buggered - time for a G and T!

candleshoe · 07/02/2011 20:41

OOooo I can't read either - just realised you are not talking about yourself OP!

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ChaosTrulyReigns · 07/02/2011 20:59

Grin at candleshoe - I get a dismissive wave from ChaoticBoy - do I get a sticker?

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candleshoe · 07/02/2011 21:02

Excellent - I'll write that on my observation on social functionality form! Well done Chaos!

SarahStrattonHasNiceBears · 07/02/2011 21:13

Blimey Shock

I still remember my first day of school. I was just 4 (birthday right at the end of August), had never even seen the school, and just got 'dumped' in the playground with a bunch of children I had never seen before.

My Mummy didn't even look back

I probably have seperation anxiety from that :(

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