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to snigger inwardly about this mom's OTT behaviour?

133 replies

ChaosTrulyReigns · 07/02/2011 10:57

Examples of this mom's jawdropping behaviour.

scoots alongside her DD as the line flows into school, so that she's with the child till the door prevents her going any further.

conspicuously checks that her DD's reading book has been changed, making sure that everyone else has seen which stage Mildred is on as she waves it around getting it out of the bag.

makes snidey comments regarding the child first out the door at hometime being the "teacher's favourite". Confused

clean the school shoes every night and fresh uniform everyday.

peers in through the window at school making sure that Mildred's coat has been hung up correctly. Once she nipped round to the school secretary to mention that it had been knocked off the peg after Mildred had sat down at circle time for registration.

asks the child why she hasn't earned any stickers that day, and if she has earned stickers, being very loud and vocal in her praise of such a wonderful pupil.

Blimey, she's everso entertaining!

OP posts:
Pictish · 07/02/2011 13:58

".it's the ones who only get a distant view of their mums chatting or walking away with a friend that I do feel a little Confused about"

Sorry?

Listen...you do what you like...but don't you start pitying the kids of parents who do not engage in the needless charade you have created. It's a nice little routine to you, all well and good....for the rest of us it is unnecessary. No Confused required on behalf of the other kids. Really.

StayingDavidTennantsGirl · 07/02/2011 14:04

But if this routine works for Dropdeadfred and her dd, then it is not a 'needless charade', Pictish, and calling it that is just rude imo!

I suspect most parents do what works best for their dc and themselves. None of mine ever needed to see me wave to them after they had gone in - they were perfectly happy, so once I saw the lines go into the classrooms, I walked out of the playground.

It is also worth remembering that some parents have more than one child to see into class, and that may mean being in two different places, so one child will have to go in on their own.

Dropdeadfred · 07/02/2011 14:04

Pictish I was really answering hat well..and he word sorry didn't ener the post either. I was told hat I might be making the other cgildren feel that their mummy's loved them les...I didn't say that nor did i think it.I see that there are plenty of children who have no want or need to be accompanied o the door by a parent and are happy to sroll into the school by themselves. I do know there are a few children who have asked their mums to wave but been told it's not possible or there's no need...i do find that a lile sad. But I was not he one calling anyone bonkers...each to their own. Myy child wants and requests that little wave and kiss, if yours doesn' then we're all well and good arent we? Smile

Dropdeadfred · 07/02/2011 14:08

was = wasn't
sorry my t key is broken and doesnt work when i touch type

Dropdeadfred · 07/02/2011 14:09

Oh and thank Davidtenantsgirl Smile

Gleekfreak · 07/02/2011 14:10

Rofl at bogey :o

Highlander · 07/02/2011 14:12

oh man, we don't have anyone like that in DS1's class.

I thought DS starting school was all about playground entertainment; I'm gutted Wink

esmeroo · 07/02/2011 14:13

All the windows at my childrens school are covered so that parents cant see in. Once a poster fell down, dc was in year 1, the teacher said to the class, "can you please ask your mommies not to stand looking in the window, it is very rude!"

Pictish · 07/02/2011 14:15

Absolutely. And I have said as much. To each their own.

However, in the nature of debate...you brought the your own wee foible into the discussion as a tool for the debate, so therefore I may comment upon your contribution surely?

I think it's a bit overkill. I don't decide what you do, so you may disregard my opinion if you like. It doesn't matter. I was being a bit tongue in cheek really, until you started feeling Confused for the kids of parents who don't follow your lead.

Condensedmilkaddict · 07/02/2011 14:23

There is a mum like this at my kids school who objected to another childs 'inappropriate language'. Turns out the word she objected to was bum.

Dropdeadfred - you have hijacked what could have been a really funny thread.

Have you heard of net mums?

Condensedmilkaddict · 07/02/2011 14:25

And apologies for lack of apostrophes.

I have not quite yet figured out my iPad.

Dropdeadfred · 07/02/2011 14:27

Pictish- I know these children well. Alot of them are regulars at our house for playdates. I have never told or even suggested to their parents that they should or need to follow my example. The emoticons was confused as it meant, after it was suggested, not by you, that these children could
feel less loved. I was using the confused face as I don't know how it makes me feel.. Each to their own as you say. But you are allowed to call me bonkers and accuse me of a charade but I'm not allowed to express mixed feelings as to why some mums choose not to w e when they are actually stood a few feet away from the window and could do it whilst walking away.
As stated in my first post, I have had rude or bemused comments from people regarding this.. One from a good mate, but I would never do the same in reverse.

Dropdeadfred · 07/02/2011 14:31

ApoloGies if anyone thinks I hijacked the thread!!! I'm all for humour being reinjected....I'm really not a pole up my arse sort of person y'kniw, even if I appear like that on here... Sad
and I've been on mumsnet for years... Have never wanted to be a netmummer thanks!!

wannaBe · 07/02/2011 14:40

Parents needlessly hanging around windows to wave and blow kisses are a, distracting, and preventing the teacher from trying to do her job as a couple of dozen kids hang around the window to wave at some woman who is not even their parent, and b, potentially cause upset to most other children whose parents either cannot or do not wish to partake in such rituals.

When my ds was younger this was actively discouraged and children were told to tell their parents not to stand at the windows.

Dropdeadfred · 07/02/2011 14:48

My last message on this thread as I sense I am becoming a pita. wannabe I wave and leave before class starts. The teacher doesn't even notice as all children are still popping in and out of the classroom with bags and coats etc classes start at 8.55 but the children can go in at 8.45. I leave by 8.50

Original poster
ChaosTrulyReigns · 07/02/2011 14:59

fred don't disappear Smile, as I've said earlier, I understand that these things are done in very acceptable manner by sane people. It's just, in accumulation, and by a friend who is loopy as and elastic band ball, sometimes these things can cause humorous Hmms from other parents IYSWIM.

OP posts:
GColdtimer · 07/02/2011 15:08

"Dropdeadfred - you have hijacked what could have been a really funny thread.
Have you heard of net mums?"

Blimey, lighten up fgs. Dropdeadfred, you sound lovely and there is nothing wrong with doing what you describe.

In year 1 and foundation, we have to take our children into the classroom and get them settled. At least i thought I did beause its what everyone else does. Perhaps we are bonkers mums!

Megatron · 07/02/2011 15:17

I feel like a twat now. Blush DD and DS always have a freshly washed uniform every day and polished shoes, though I don't go around telling everyone about it. I also wave to DD from the window when I leave or she cries.

She's in reception and though DS just waltzed in she's a different kettle of fish. Her TA always brings her over to the window so that I can wave (it was her idea)
and off she goes, but I feel a bit horrified now that people might view me as some over the top mum!

MoaningMedalllist · 07/02/2011 15:26

oh dear poor kid,

sounds funny tho especially the coat thing haha

wendihouse22 · 07/02/2011 15:46

I think she sounds troubled.

Probably high anxiety. I think I feel a bit sorry for the woman.

My son always has clean shoes and uniform each day but, I have to say, I don't get my knickers in a twist if he occasionally wears a jumper two days running.

She probably knows people are looking at her and I wonder, does she chat to any of the other mums?

BeribbonedGibbon · 07/02/2011 15:53

Dropdeadfred you sound lovely, ignore any comments to the contrary Smile

Could not imagine sending DD out in clothes worn the day before. That's just me. I do think the green eyed monster often makes people put other people down.

What happened to live and let live?

BeribbonedGibbon · 07/02/2011 15:55

As an aside how do you know what issues her daughter may have?

How do you know that her daughter can face school with confidence as a result of her mothers 'jawdropping behaviour.'

Does it really make a difference to your life?

FluffyMummy123 · 07/02/2011 15:56

I love this

There's one in every school

BeribbonedGibbon · 07/02/2011 15:58

Am I seeing things?

Is that you fish face me ol' mucker?

Tryharder · 07/02/2011 16:09

Eh?

DS1(aged 6)has clean uniform and clean shoes every day. Most days it is freshly washed because he get mud and ink on it while at school.

I quite often go into the cloakroom with DS1 as well just to help him offload all his stuff (HW bag, book bag, packed lunch, coat, gloves etc)

He usually asks me to stand at the window and wave goodbye.

If he comes out of school with a sticker, I usually ask what did you get your sticker for and praise him accordingly.

I usually look in his bookbag to see what book/HW they've given him and to see if there are any interesting letters.

How is this jawdropping? Most mums in the class do something similar.

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