I know I'm not...

[hehastobekidding]

I walked into the (open plan) kitchen today at about 10.30am, bare foot so dh didn't hear me coming. He was on the laptop watching porn, with dd2 (16mths) asleep in the pushchair behind him and dd1 playing in her room.

This is so not ok on so many fronts is it... what if dd2 had come down barefoot?

He is unemployed, very very depressed and drinking too much. A mess really. Sex life nonexistant (and tbh I don't want it) and we are having a horrible time. No excuse though is it? Is it?

He has so much time alone at home fgs... I can understand a wish to view porn but not with the girls around surely? He left a 'youporn' google search window open a few weeks ago with dd1 playing around downstairs and I read the riot act.

Just want out now.

I think there are much bigger issues than just the porn.which IMO is not on. The drinking,no job,depression. He needs help.

Yanbu - he obviously needs help for depression but having been treated myself his current moral compass can't be totally blamed on it. He's being a disrespectful arse

For the record, I for one, have never had sex in the same room as a child. I couldn't.

A quick question OP, how old is DD1? I've checked and cant find an age? Obviously if she is old enough to be playing upstairs on her own, shes not a baby, I was just wondering though.

Btw, is he unemployed because of the drinking or drinking and depressed because hes unemployed. Or, drinking and unemployed because hes depressed? One may be easier to solve than another, though I cant actually decide which. I may not have made it clear enough in my earlier posts (!!!) but I think that the porn is the least of your worries with him.

Dont forget, only he can sort himself out, and he needs to do it NOW, especially if there are two kids in the house.

Dont forget, only he can sort himself out, and he needs to do it NOW, especially if there are two kids in the house.

yes, indeed