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AIBU?

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Original poster

to wonder if he is taking the piss a bit...?

28 replies

twinkletweeter · 05/02/2011 19:16

OH comes here with his kids we split the shopping bill for food when they are here every other weekend. We don't live together because of his job.

Obviously they use loo roll, soap, etc that he doesn't directly contribute towards (nor the gas, electric, mortagage either..) which I am quite chiiled about my kids also share all their toys which sometimes end up getting broken as his kids are younger.

AIBU to feel a bit pissed off that he has just kicked off about the fact that hes gone to bath his kids and the bubble bath he/we got has been used (while he uses my bloody shampoo) and said we should have asked (even thought none of us remember using it!!)

AIBU????

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AnnieLobeseder · 05/02/2011 19:19

YANBU. Make them all ask if they can use your loo roll from now on!

CrapBag · 05/02/2011 19:19

Oh dear.

He shouldn't be kicking off about this at all but this all seems very petty.

AgentZigzag · 05/02/2011 19:20

Goodness me, don't move in together!

If you get shirty with each other over whose shampoo it is, there'd be daily fireworks.

You both sound like students, do you label and measure what food's in the fridge? Grin

Seriously, you've got probs if this is what pisses him off.

caramelwaffle · 05/02/2011 19:21

^What ZigZag said

AgentZigzag · 05/02/2011 19:21

'Make them all ask if they can use your loo roll from now on'

And only let them have two sheets per bog trip, unless it's a dump and they can have three Grin

Original poster
twinkletweeter · 05/02/2011 19:23

I know uts petty - It doesn't bother me who uses what I was just a bit Shock that I think we are all pretty generous with our house to get asset about bubble bath is taking the piss.

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curlymama · 05/02/2011 19:23

Sounds very petty. Make sure you remind him to ask your permission every time he flushes the loo, uses toilet paper, gets water out of the tap, turns a light on, etc.

ChaoticAngelofAnarchy · 05/02/2011 19:25

YANBU Point out to him how ridiculous he's being.

Grin @ AgentZigzag

holyShmoley · 05/02/2011 19:28

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AgentZigzag · 05/02/2011 19:29

Making a contribution to a place you stop at regularly is just polite and necessary.

Could he be kicking off at something else and the bubble bath was an excuse? Is he stressed about anything?

Did he want you to text or ring him as you were running the bath to get his permission?

What if he said 'No, that's mine' Shock

And if he wouldn't have said no, why did he want you to ask him?

Controlling over the bubble bath, controlling in other areas?

ratspeaker · 05/02/2011 19:30

If he wants to keep bubble bath for HIS kids alone HE should buy it and label it then hid eit away

Or bring some with him if its that important

ffs its bubble bath not gold dust

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twinkletweeter · 05/02/2011 19:33

No he's not controlling at all he's just a tight bastard and no he's not in the army?

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AgentZigzag · 05/02/2011 19:35

Tight bastard = control freak in my book.

Get him 10 bottles of bubble bath and tell him to stop fucking mithering when you give them to him.

Tsk, honestly, the cheek of the man.

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twinkletweeter · 05/02/2011 19:37

Seriously he isn't controlling at all. He's just a twat sometimes :)

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atswimtwolengths · 05/02/2011 19:38

I think you should count yourself lucky that he doesn't live with you.

So he comes to stay every other weekend with his children and splits the food for that weekend but doesn't contribute for the other little things? Now he's moaning that someone's used his bubble bath?

In most families if there's something like bubble bath in the bathroom then it's seen as fair game, unless it's something that someone was given for Christmas. Or it is in my house, anyway. If I wanted to keep something for my own use, I wouldn't put it in the bathroom.

What had he expected, that your children would realise it was 'his' bubble bath? Do they think like that? Or that you shouldn't use it when he's not there?

He sounds very strange, to be honest.

atswimtwolengths · 05/02/2011 19:38

Meanness is a very, very unattractive quality. Hate to think of him thinking how it's saving him money staying with you.

AgentZigzag · 05/02/2011 19:40

'He's just a twat sometimes Smile'

I admire your realism twinkle, even with the tired/resigned smiley at the end Grin

Most blokes can be twats, the question is can you put up with this type of twatism?

If you can, stop fucking mithering Grin (joking)

upahill · 05/02/2011 19:42

I can't not stand a man who would be petty and mean spirited therefore you are being UN becaue you are NOT angry.

In other words don't be a bit pissed off be a lot pissed off and open your mouth and say something!

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twinkletweeter · 05/02/2011 19:42

He's tight he's not mean though he's very generous with sone things but very penny pinching with others .

Was just venting this isn't a DA situation at all.

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bubblewrapped · 05/02/2011 19:43

I would suggest he take HIS kids to HIS house at weekends then.. and then he cant "kick off" about his bloody bubble bath...

He is a controlling twat IMO Grin

LadyOfTheManor · 05/02/2011 19:44

Takes me back to my student days...!

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twinkletweeter · 05/02/2011 19:44

He my twat and I love him very much even though right now I feel like ramming an empty pink Mr Matey Bubblebath container up his arse :D

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Olessaty · 05/02/2011 19:50

I'd tell him to wind his neck in.

If he persisted in being a twat, I'd hand him a copy of my spreadsheet with the breakdown of costs of running the house, including bills, toiletries, food, rent and so on. I'd show him calculations of what he could pay me so that his ranting about bubble bath was not going to be a hypocritical any more and so that he could be safe in the knowledge that he is free to be a twat because he's also paid his way.

Hopefully that would shut him up. LOL.

FabbyChic · 05/02/2011 20:00

I hope you come back with you are lucky Im not charging you for the gas to use the water for the bath let alone run out of bubble bath!

AgentZigzag · 05/02/2011 20:07

Before you shove the matey bottle up his arse twinkle (no judgement there on other peoples practices) like fabby says, present him with an itemised bill for the month, and then demand satisfaction.

Does he realise he's so tight?

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