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Original poster

in really starting to dislike my neighbour?

53 replies

ziva · 04/02/2011 12:35

we moved in at the same time as my neighbour 6 years ago.for the first few years all was grand but for the last two years ive become to really dislike her.
she is very loud in general,slamming doors,shouting,music on usually at 6am when shes going out to work.so im awake then despite the kids still being asleep :-(
then her two dogs start howling in the kitchen until 12 when her friend lets them out.they are out til 4pm when neighbour comes home from work.but everyday they manage to get into my garden (they are determined and dig holes,squeeze or climb to get in) so i usually come home from the school run to find my bin tipped,poo all over the garden and mud all over my glass door.i then have to chase the buggers out and block up where they came in.

my neighbour knows what happens but never blocks up the holes herself.they destroyed my garden when we went on holidays,and chewed the swing set.

AIBU to be really pissed off at her?

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bubblewrapped · 04/02/2011 12:36

I would be sending her the bill for everything that they damage.

People shouldnt have dogs if they cant control or look after them.

girliefriend · 04/02/2011 12:38

Errr no! She is being really out of order. I would speak to her re all those issues as they are really anti social and get onto environmental health if nothing improves.

YANBU.

jenroy29 · 04/02/2011 12:38

not at all. Does she own her house?

MadreInglese · 04/02/2011 12:39

YANBU but you need to discuss specifics and solutions with her if it's annoying you that much, she sounds a bit oblivious

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ziva · 04/02/2011 12:42

no we live in council houses.its soul destroying that i spent so much time making my garden nice for my girls to play in and then seeing poo all over it.

i have thought about billing her but shes always going on about her lack of money.btw we've replaced the fence panels twice after her DS broke them so maybe we've set a precedent.

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donnie · 04/02/2011 12:44

tell her she needs to clean the dog shit up pronto.

MadreInglese · 04/02/2011 12:46

don't clean up the dogshit next time, knock on her door and ask her to come over and do it

she'll hopefully get the message and sort the fence out if she has two gardens to clean

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ziva · 04/02/2011 12:54

i'll try that.hopefully it wont sour things as i hate tension.but im just so fed up.i was out in my pj's this morning,7mths pregnant cleaning up dog shit from yesterday when i dont even have a dog.i felt like crying.

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FindingStuffToChuckOut · 04/02/2011 12:55

let the dogs out - and call the pound.

ReformedCharacter · 04/02/2011 12:57

Fucking hell! That is so not on.

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ziva · 04/02/2011 12:58

i have thought of that.in my darker moments.

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mamatomany · 04/02/2011 13:02

I'd be slinging the dog shit over the fence and aiming for her windows.

VerintheWhite · 04/02/2011 13:02

You need to take things further if the cleaning two gardens doesnt work.

The polite thing to do is tell her exactly what the problems are, and that you will be taking things further if she doesnt sort the problems out. Then, when she fails to sort out the dogs etc, follow up with what you have said. Dont feel bad about it because you gave her warning.

Contact the housing association and the RSPCA. When the dogs are in your garden call the dog warden. When she complains you can reasonably tell her you asked her to solve the problem and she didnt.

donnie · 04/02/2011 13:04

If I were in that situation I might put poison down. But then, I don't like dogs...

FindingStuffToChuckOut · 04/02/2011 13:05

she is being very unreasonable, not dealing with her dogs, making them YOUR problem on a daily basis. Plus they are shitting all over your garden where your DC play. Presumably if you wanted to deal with dog shit you'd have a dog yourself.

At best I'd be throwing the shit straight over the fence. In 'darker moments' I'd call the pound and get the dogs taken away.

Can you not complain to the council and get them to deal with this? This woman is not respecting you and is going to continue to do whatever she wants re the dogs, regardless of the obvious impact on her neighbours.

I'd be seriously fucked off about now if I was in your shoes.

JarethTheGoblinKing · 04/02/2011 13:08

Next time the dog shits in your garden collect it up on a shovel and dump it on her doorstep.

mamatomany · 04/02/2011 13:08

Are you even allowed dogs in a council property ?

fifi25 · 04/02/2011 13:10

Its dangerous clearing up dog shit when your pregnant. I also live in a council house and have 2 dogs.

I wouldnt dream of letting them out to shit all over someones garden.

You need to ring the council up and tell them that the fence is broken and her dogs are damaging your garden. They should fix the fence or tell her to if shes in a bought house to fix it.

If this doesnt work next time you pick the shit up post it through her letter box with a note saying i think this belongs to you Wink I think she is probably just letting it go on because nothing is getting said about it.

manicbmc · 04/02/2011 13:11

I thought you weren't supposed to clean up dog/cat poo when you were pregnant because of toxoplasmosis? Or am I talking out of my bottom.

People who don't take responsibility for their pets really annoy me. She clearly puts the dog out so it doesn't wreck her house.

Have a chat with her and if it gets you nowhere then contact the environmental health.

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ziva · 04/02/2011 13:11

im in ireland and tbh the council will be zero help.they just ask if you want to go on the transfer list if you complain about anyone (for eg a group of residents went to the council about a drug dealer,and the subsequent people hanging around the house,and they were told that they could always transfer).
i'll approach her and tell her that she needs to get her dogs sorted and to clean up my garden when they get in.

thanks folks,didnt know whether i was just being hormental and narky or was she being a bad neighbour.

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ziva · 04/02/2011 13:14

its cat poo that has toxoplasmosis.council is only responsible for the house structure (wall,roof,plumbing).anything else is the responsibility of the tenants.

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jenroy29 · 04/02/2011 13:15

Take photographs of the dogs, holes and poo and ring the council to tell them that you need your garden securly enclosed because of this. That way you are not confronting your neighbour, but the council have it on record that her dogs are a problem. Our HA allows upto 2 dogs.

fifi25 · 04/02/2011 13:15

My council are great and wouldnt hesitate to sort it out. They are starting to come down really heavy with anti social behaviour which is what it is.

jenroy29 · 04/02/2011 13:17

God I'm glad I don't live in Ireland!

fifi25 · 04/02/2011 13:18

Just realised it op whos council are useless. Post it through the letter box