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To be insulted and aggrieved?

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mrsruffallo · 04/02/2011 11:44

A friend just had her fourth baby. Money is tight so I went through my dc's old baby clothes and picked out the loveliest things that were in the best condition.
She seemed very grateful but this morning at school I noticed her dog was wearing one of the newborn sweaters that I had included. It was a Polarn o. Pyret, excellent condition and quality.
She saw me looking and gave a shrug and a smile but was gone by the time I had dropped the children off.
Would you approach her on it?
Should I ask her for the other clothes back?
I don't want them adorning her mutt, thank you very much

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rubyrubyruby · 04/02/2011 12:00

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TheMartorialist · 04/02/2011 12:00

It was a gift to your friend, right? Once you give a gift, it is not up to you to dictate how it is used. To ask her for the clothes back would be the height of bad manners and pettiness.

BreconBeBuggered · 04/02/2011 12:03

What did the dog think?

Hullygully · 04/02/2011 12:05

That is quite astonishingly odd.

If I were you I'd buy five or so little dogs, sew them together and wear them round my neck with a flaunt.

RIZZ0 · 04/02/2011 12:06

Why didn't she give you the finger and be done with it? Shock

FooffyShmoofer · 04/02/2011 12:10

Grin Hullygully

excellent idea.

sevendwarves · 04/02/2011 12:12

I don't think its that funny tbh, I think she was rude and I'd also be pissed off.

TrollyMcTrollPants · 04/02/2011 12:12

I can see from your post at 11:57 as to why this has upset you so much.

"She must have cut extra holes into this beautiful navy sweater that my baby wore."

I know how you feel as all of my DC clothes were quite precious to me Blush and it took me a while to part with any. I feel a bit upset on your behalf and think she was quite insensitive.

FooffyShmoofer · 04/02/2011 12:13

OP don't bring it up, don't ask about just don't ever give her anything again. She clearly isn't worth you bothering your arse about.

I wouldn't ask for them back just chalk this one up to experience.

belgo · 04/02/2011 12:14

Grin feel flattered. Some people adore their dogs more then their own children.

Katisha · 04/02/2011 12:15

I would just say, somewhat frostily, that was meant for your child.
And stalk off.

ChickensHaveNoEyebrows · 04/02/2011 12:17

I understand your irritation, but surely part of you wants to point and laugh at the mad woman dressing her dog in baby clothes? And I bet the dog looked suitably embarassed.

Debs75 · 04/02/2011 12:24

I would have been annoyed. I lent my friend all of dd's 0-6 month clothes so she could save money and she was meant to give them all back when i had my next dd. She gave me them back unwashed, damp, in the wrong age so dd had no newborn stuff back until she was about 4 months old. A lot went missing as well which really annoyed me. She now moans that her dd has no clothes as I haven't handed over any in the next sizeShock Can you blame me?

curlymama · 04/02/2011 12:30

You can't ask her about it, you gave the clothes as a present. She can choose to put them on her baby, her dog, or use them as a dishcloth if she wants.

I can see why you're upset, I would be a little offended too, but you certainly can't ask for the other things back. That would eb even more rude.

Original poster
mrsruffallo · 04/02/2011 12:33

I can see the funny side, infact I just phoned DH at work and he couldn't stop laughing.
He said ' I told you she was barking' boom boom

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mrsruffallo · 04/02/2011 12:35

I am still annoyed though. It IS disrespectful.

DH ren=minded that when we went to her hoouse for lunch she made roast lamb and gave us all a measly portion each then wrapped the rest in foil 'for the dog'. I had forgotten about that.

Hully,lol

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monkeyflippers · 04/02/2011 12:36

Oh no that's mental!

I'd be so upset. I have trouble parting with my dcs old clothes so it would take me a lot of effort and kicking myself up the bum to give them away to someone . . . to then see them on the dog!

sadiesadiemarriedlady · 04/02/2011 12:38

That woman sounds awful and rude and I also can't see why people find such behaviour so funny? Confused

BeerTricksPotter · 04/02/2011 12:38

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Ephiny · 04/02/2011 12:42

It's a bit funny but don't see why it's rude or disrespectful. Poor little doggy, those tiny ones really do feel the cold!

Agree with what others have said, if you gave the clothes as a gift (i.e. not a loan) you can't demand them back or dictate what she does with them.

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mrsruffallo · 04/02/2011 13:09

Poor little doggy!
You are joking aren't you?
It's insulting because I gave her the clothes for her new baby (as she is always plaeading poverty)

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RIZZ0 · 04/02/2011 13:10

Perhaps you could buy her a 2nd hand dog collar from Ebay for her baby? Wink

onepieceoflollipop · 04/02/2011 13:11

it wouldn't bother me.

At my dd's school there is a dog who is "dressed" in various outfits. Pink trimmed fur effect coat etc. (not its own coat, I mean a doggy winter coat!)

I have to drag dd2 (3) away as she starts screeching and laughing and making loud comments about how dogs don't wear clothes etc etc.

Katisha · 04/02/2011 13:12

WHat are you ging to do come school run time Mrs R?

jeee · 04/02/2011 13:14

Are you sure that the older children didn't dress the dog? I wouldn't put it past my DC to do this - subject to the caveat that we don't have dogs.

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