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AIBU?

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Original poster

DH been out with a friend since 3pm

37 replies

TabithaSilver · 03/02/2011 21:49

aibu to call him? It's nearly ten now. They had a business meeting and now they're probably drinking and eating.

Should I just leave him be?

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TheSleepFairy · 03/02/2011 21:52

Did he say he would be out until late?
If I was expecting him home for dinner then I would ring out of worry.
If not I'd enjoy the peace & quiet.

thisismyboomstick · 03/02/2011 21:52

What do you want to call him about?

EricNorthmansMistress · 03/02/2011 21:52

Why would you call him? ZOMG he's drinking! and eating! Confused

Sazisi · 03/02/2011 21:53

You should call him if you want. Especially if you were expecting him home by now.

BluddyMoFo · 03/02/2011 21:53

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Original poster
TabithaSilver · 03/02/2011 21:53

Just to make sure he's ok really. And when he thinks he'll be home.

Oh, I sound really needy, don't I? Gah.

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Original poster
TabithaSilver · 03/02/2011 21:54

ZOMG?

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thelibster · 03/02/2011 21:55

Yep! Grin

BurnAfterReading · 03/02/2011 21:55

I'd call him, no harm in just asking when you can expect him home - even ask if he needs dinner for when he gets in (this is a sly way to find out what time he expects to be back)

SixtyFootDoll · 03/02/2011 21:55

YEs needy, maybe a text to see if h's ok?

FabbyChic · 03/02/2011 21:55

Text him and ask what his ETA is.

EricNorthmansMistress · 03/02/2011 21:57

ZOMG

BurnAfterReading · 03/02/2011 21:58

Always be nice though...

'hiya, hope you're having a nice time and meeting went well, do you need dinner for when you get home? What time can I expect you home, have you got your key or do I need to wait up etc...'

Make him want to come home to his loving, caring, considerate wife :)

AnyFuleKno · 03/02/2011 21:59

what does ZOMG mean, i've always wondered

BurnAfterReading · 03/02/2011 21:59

Or send him a sexy text, like you're waiting on the kitchen worktop for him Grin

SJisontheway · 03/02/2011 22:01

Call him - surprised so many people are afraid of looking needy. If I want to talk to my husband I call him. I'm not needy and I'm pretty sure he doen't think I am either.

onepieceoflollipop · 03/02/2011 22:01

My dh wouldn't consider it needy if I sent him a text. (not a whingy complaining one, obviously, just a kind of "hi hope all is going well" and he would probably reply something like "yes having great time love you and the dcs")

Also I would feel happy ringing him tbh, just a brief hello call if I had barely seen him all day. Again it would be something like the text above, then I might say I'm going to bed around 11, shall I leave heating on?

I don't think it is needy to text or ring one's own husband as long as one isn't being manipulative/complaining and I don't think op is?

onepieceoflollipop · 03/02/2011 22:02

x-post with SJ. exactly :)

Original poster
TabithaSilver · 03/02/2011 22:03

I called. No answer.

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TheSleepFairy · 03/02/2011 22:03

Text: I've been sitting here in my new underwear for you to see for the last 30 minutes. Shall i just forget it & take it off or are you going to come home & do it for me?

onepieceoflollipop · 03/02/2011 22:04

Tabitha I would just assume that if my dh didn't answer his mobile was out of range or he was driving. Is he likely to ignore a call from you?

EricNorthmansMistress · 03/02/2011 22:07

ZOMG is like OMG but sarcastic. So like 'ZOMG he's like out til past ten and having a meal with a colleague and he didn't tell you like how dare he!!!!!11!!!!' Hmm

Original poster
TabithaSilver · 03/02/2011 22:13

But Eric, I'm not at all outraged or angry that he's out having a good time.

It's just that we usually speak or text once or twice a day and we haven't today.

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Rollergirl1 · 03/02/2011 22:15

Ditto amazed about wives that think calling/texting their DH's makes them look needy. WTF?

If DH had a meeting with a friend that started at 3pm and he was planning on not being home for dinner and was staying out, I would expect him to let me know, preferably that morning so I could sort out food for myself. I don't see that as needy, just practical. If he hadn't warned me not to expect him home for dinner and I hadn't heard anything by 10pm then I would be a bit miffed. But that would never happen as he would either call me and let me know by 6/7ish or i would have called him and he would tell me. What's with all the "should I call him" rubbish? He's your DH, not a 2nd date for gods sake!

AnyFuleKno · 03/02/2011 22:17

oh, fanks eric Grin