To be out off Mumsnet by certain men on here?

[WimpleOfTheBallet]

I love this site...but it's called MUMSNET...I know and accept there are some regular male posters...and they should benefit from the site as they're parents too...but some men here have massive agendas and only post in threads related to sex..teenage girls and other similar things.

I KNOW they can't be banned...but it really ANNOYS me when they clutter the place up! AIBU?

This is slightly off at a tangent but Ihave to respond to something yogididabooboo said...

"I am not sure what a Paedophile would get from talking to single mothers"

Keeping it simple for you, what they get from talking to single mothers can be summed up in the words "opportunity" and "cover".

"What Jonny, pervy? Noooo, Jonny has loads of friends with kids. If Jonny was a nonce people would have cottoned on surely". If I had a quid for every time I've heard that one I'd be a billionaire. Or this one either... "But I've known him for ages".

Boden get a lot of traffic from MN because they advertise here. so when MNHQ look at traffic from this site to others it will look as though we are all buying from there.

If you like shopping at New look then get on to them about adverising and organising a juicy discount.
then they will get the traffic.

It's like having coffee with a group of parents, its fine when the are a few chaps in the group but if the chaps start to turn up with their mates and take over then it becomes a different thing entirely.

Having said that I'd be sad to see some of the longer term male posters leave.

Infact: Just feck orf Batman or name change and come back as someone less irritating.

underacheiving - to talk on a website will gain a paedophile nothing.

anyone on this site could be anyone. how do we know that cod isn't peter suttcliff tapping away from his cell?

If you want to take an on screen friendship into the real world then you need to make sure you asses the risks appropriatly.

yes i am aware that a sexual predator will target the vulnerable. but i cannot see why a parenting talk board will be more of a target than a dating site.

Beertricks...loads! There are some very bright and very kind people on here...I've learned a lot about things which I knew nothing about and have had amazing advice re my job.

I never called her stupid though...I couldnt and still cannot believe that people who frequent these forums fall for things like that..you can see a troll a mile off usually.

Some of them are clever yes...but if the subjet matter involves sex, shit, piss or kids then it's easy to tell a genuine post from a troll post.

and if you cold refrain from using the patronising "keeping it simple" tone.
thanks

Yogi...because it's full of parents! It's like a field full of sheep to a wolf...most of them will have the nouse to get away...but there's often one weak one.

But en comunicate differently don't they Beertricks? I can usually tell a male from female by wrting style.

MEN not en

wimple - so are dating sites. only the parents there have already shown an interest in becoming friendly with them.

a place like this is too much like hard work to someone purely here for predatory reasons.

for a true paedophile they will find a certain amount of gratification by seeing the talk about children, but i wouldn't have thoguht they would get involved with teh conversation. just lurk.

sadly there is little that can be done about that

hmm - I'm not sure about that yogi - we had at least one suspect one a few years back who irrc ended up CATing (the old PM system for any newbies) some of the young, single, and yes, quite vunerable, posters.....and MSN, emails..

I can't Wimple. There was a thread the other day I read where posters were saying they were male. I'd never have guessed. And actually have completely forgotten who they are

I do agree with what you said in your OP though, there are a few who are blatantly here purely for the errm more interesting threads.

And a site full of mums is indeed a happy hunting ground for paedos. Because they can sit there and work out the vulnerable and single ones from what they post.

It's very difficult. There was a man posting perfectly reasonable respectable stuff on the "I had sex by mistake all embarrassed" thread - that has of course got totally out of hand now, and yet...and yet I couldn't altogether absolutely entirely trust him.

Which is unfair, but not altogether unrealistic in general. Or am I just old?

I can tell some - but others were a complete shock to me. Likewise some I were convinced were men turned out to be women.........

but why couldn't you just trust what he said, hully ?

"but some men here have massive agendas"

I wish my man had a massive agenda

mind you, I don't trust what anyone says on here

not even me

AF - that's it. Deep, ingrained, long-grown innate suspicion. That's why it might be age.

Yanbu. There are certainly more of these types cluttering the place up atm.

oh, I dunno, bib

the number of them seems pretty constant to me

they come, they go

we get shut of one...another pops up to take the place

< shrugs >