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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

to REALLY hope this man's partner joins Mumnset

413 replies

MmeLindt · 03/02/2011 12:40

Why I hate Mumsnet

First, I would like to congratulate the blogger on the forthcoming happy event. I wish him and his partner all the best for the birth of their first child.

If his partner decides to join MN, she will learn:

The Vernacular
that we use abbreviations as a time-saving tool, so that we have more time for discussing banalities. These are not only common to Mumsnet (MN) but to almost all fora.

"My DH is working away tuesday til friday. DH rang PIL and asked them if they could come and mind DCs (x3)". Another example: "AIBU to be annoyed that PIL agreed to mind my DC and then went back on it??"

  • the first poster states that her husband (DarlingHusband = DH) is working away and that he asked Parents-In-Laws (PILS) if they could come and mind the three children (DarlingChildren = DC). She then asks if she is being unreasonable (AIBU = Am I being unreasonable) to be annoyed that my parents in laws agreed to mind my children then went back on it?

hth (Hope this Helps)

The Banality
If she looks a little further, she will certainly find posts about dishwashers, and pearl barley, but also intellectual discussions about feminism, foreign affairs, literature (and we are NOT talking chick lit here). Even the most highbrow of poster wants to slum it on AIBU sometimes though.

I would hope that blogger's partner never has problems with their children - since his response to a woman enquiring about her child's (DC) incontinence problems is to suggest that she spends less time on MN.

The Stupid Suggestions For Campaigns
she might wonder about the anti-JL MN campaign since most posters have never heard of it. Just because one poster has an idea, it does not mean that the whole board takes up the cry. There are always discussions about the merits of any campaigns, particularly the official ones.

Lack of Reply
If the blogger's DP (that is DarlingPartner, by the way) does post on MN she will hopefully be relieved that MN does not allow their posters to be spammed by companies. There have been a few instances where posters have complained about a product, and the company has posted a message apologising and requesting that the poster contact them. I have never seen these offers being deleted or discouraged by MNHQ (that is Mumsnet Headquarters)

The blogger's DP of course would never have to do this, as she has her DH available to ensure that she does not misunderstand the instructions of the product.

Lack of Moderation
The blogger's DP will hopefully enjoy the lack of moderation - or rather the advantages offered by self-moderation. There may be times when a poster gives out of date advice, but this is normally noticed by the other posters. And if not, anyone who relies on the advice of strangers on an internet forum in order to make decisions such as those posed by the nuchal fold test, they should not be in charge of a puppy, much less a child. Most posters will link to websites such as NHS24, or other sites that are checked for accuracy rather than spouting inaccurate advice.

I am very glad that he is not calling for the site to be closed down. His DP may well be in need of it in the not so distant future, when she starts a thread entitled,

"AIBU to think my DP is an idiot?"

OP posts:
Hullygully · 03/02/2011 20:11

Oh v good.

I might muster a limerick...

catinthehat2 · 03/02/2011 20:13

Any theories as to which of Graeme's clients have gone tits up recently on MN?

How bad was the Brand Pain (tm) inflicted by the (probably ex) client?

Was it something medical do you reckon?

Otherwise I don't understand point of the MN bitchslapping he's dished out.

(unless he's Gary LAcey's mate)

Maddy06 · 03/02/2011 20:14

Outstanding DirtyMartini! Absolutely outstanding!!

Aitch · 03/02/2011 20:15

brand pain on Mumsnet
Gray suffers greatly
no linkies stinky

BeenBeta · 03/02/2011 20:16

Yes on the medical advice thing I agree.

In my own personal experience I learned about gall bladder pain on MN and only after that was able to go to my doctor as an informed patient and ask for the treament I needed. Before that, I had suffered for a long time not getting to the bottom of the symptoms.

OK not life threatening, but made a heck of a diference to my life and who knows - maybe avoided a ruptured gall badder, which is potentially very serious.

No one treats themselves by following MN advice but a lot of people go and get treatment as a result of talking to people on here.

Aitch · 03/02/2011 20:16

ah, no nature ref unless stinky tolerated for mulch

caramelwaffle · 03/02/2011 20:27

Yes, BeebBeta. Absolutely.

And is is not Garry (teehee) Lacey?

plupervert · 03/02/2011 20:33

You see, Graeme, not so easy to melt us with just one reply. You have to engage. Don't think that we are just taking the piss and can't be won round. I've seen climbdowns even in the contentious MN topic of AIBU, so I know it can be done, and is done, here. We're capable of persuading and being persuaded. Are you?

JamieLeeCurtis · 03/02/2011 20:40

Well this has moved on, I see. Graeme - well done you for saying hello.

caramelwaffle · 03/02/2011 20:42

*BeebBeta? Eh? Oh the shame.

Apologies, BeenBeta.

Aaaaaand bump.

BeenBeta · 03/02/2011 20:53

Dont worry about it. I might keep BeebBeta for a name change on Telly addicts. Smile

DirtyMartini · 03/02/2011 21:02

Green limerick shoots
From the soil of Hully's mind
Gradually emerge

Valpollicella · 03/02/2011 21:10

Bad maths also Graeme. Even if the site does have however many visitors per month, not all of them read every single thread.

Therefore 28k being put in grave danger Hmm is incorrect.

DitaVonCheese · 03/02/2011 21:12

Am I really the only one sniggering at how badly worded that corporate responsibility statement is?

"We will not work with companies in the tobacco or arms industries, nor with those who market products to under 12's that may be considered undesirable by their parents"

Perhaps I'm being PFB, but I think my under 12 is positively divine Wink

MmeLindt · 03/02/2011 21:13

Oh, well done on the Haikus. I am bad at poetry so will leave it to the experts.

Very good work on the maths, Val.

OP posts:
plupervert · 03/02/2011 21:16

I think Mr Pain has clocked off.

Valpollicella · 03/02/2011 21:18

Off to flagellate his brand I expect...

DirtyMartini · 03/02/2011 21:19

What a damn shame.

DirtyMartini · 03/02/2011 21:20

I actually hope he comes back. I want him to realize that for one thing, this place can really, really help when you're adjusting to parenthood.

It might be pretty fucking tough during the sleep regression, GG, so when the chips are down I hope you'll remember us.

plupervert · 03/02/2011 21:26

Well said, DirtyMartini.

JamieLeeCurtis · 03/02/2011 21:29

Like I said on the first page Wink, Graeme or his wife might find some helpful advice

Hullygully · 03/02/2011 21:36

Or a good kicking.

(I O DM one limerick)

plupervert · 03/02/2011 21:36

Sorry, JamieLeeCurtis, I'm not overlooking you or anyone else. Just got to this thread late!

thumbdabwitch · 03/02/2011 22:13

got a limerick!

There was a young man named Gra'me
Who suffered from strong brand pain
He slagged off Mumsnet
Went over to Hunsnet
And never was seen again!

LadyOfTheManor · 03/02/2011 22:30

There was an old man called Gram,
He wanted to fill our site with Spam,
He hates all of Mumsnet,
Works for Netmums, I'll bet,
I hate Britax and don't give a damn.