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Parents believe everyone loves their little Timmy

90 replies

CockularDepravity · 02/02/2011 22:53

... or Jane for those blessed with a female child.

So, I put it to you that most, or certainly many, parents appear to believe that their precocious precious son or daughter is universally revered and a source of never ending entertainment for all those lucky enough to come into contact with them.

This extends to the child being the sole or main cause of conversation (particularly when the child is nothing to do with the conversation prior to it being hijacked), and the belief that the general populace wants their child to be around them at all times (particularly in areas generally assumed to be child free).

Am I being unreasonable in this assumption? Please also state whether you have any offspring in any reply you choose to make.

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slhilly · 02/02/2011 23:32

Can I just put in a word for the other side? Some of us (well, me anyway) are frequently regaled with our work colleagues' holidays/footie matches/lovelife/money troubles/political opinions/weekend activities etc etc, whether interested or not, and yet if we so much as mention that we too went out on the weekend, in our case for a trip to the zoo with our children, we are greeted with stifled yawns and clear irritation at the mere fact we have mentioned our kids.

RIZZ0 · 02/02/2011 23:32

Twit.

Generalise much?

WimpleOfTheBallet · 02/02/2011 23:33

YANBU My mate ruins plaaydates with cries of "Oh LOOK at my little Timmy! He's just soooo CUUUTE!" and "Look! Look what Timmy's dooooiiiinggg...ohhh ha ha ha!" and similar praise every few seconds...I wouldn't care except I do want the chance to revere my own much nicer children now and then too....

TattyDevine · 02/02/2011 23:37

Oh cross posts, Cockular. (Can I call you Cock? Grin )

Right well back in the good old days I used to commute into London too and that was hell, dont even get me started. But half term would decend and whilst you'd sometimes notice a few less people on the trains in the morning at 7am or whatever, at half 5 in the afternoon they'd be as rammed as ever, except with mums and sometimes dads too with their little Bronte's and Hercules. Though depending where the train stopped it would sometimes be Chardonnaye and Brutis.

Anywhoos I was sitting in a block of 4, one seat free opposite me and a mother came along with her child and asked me to move "because I've got a child". I said "I'm sorry?" Basically, there were no seats left in that section as loads of people had rammed on after her and the one diagnoally opposite me had been free and the guy next to me moved into it so I could move over and let either her or her child sit on the ailse, her choice, and she could have even had the child on her lap. But she demanded I stand because her child had to sit down. I said, "fine, then let him have your seat"! She seemed to feel it was her right to sit down but to displace someone who was there first and who had also paid for a ticket so her little darling could sit down too.

Not cool.

JingleMum · 02/02/2011 23:38

everybody does love my little jane, she's amazing.

i don't constantly go on about her though, i don't need to, she makes a big enough impression on those she encounters without me needing to big her up.

MsKLo · 02/02/2011 23:38

Lol Rizzo
how true!

lockets · 02/02/2011 23:39

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tethersend · 02/02/2011 23:40

Other people do this all the time, wittering on and on about their child as if they were the first ones to be born.

Luckily for me, my DD is actually incredibly interesting and fun and people can't get enough of the stories I regale them with on a daily basis nor enough of her hilarious mimicry and dancing when they visit. Which is a relief.

MsKLo · 02/02/2011 23:41

Tatty

You are right that is not cool
And people who act like that are idiots
But the op is also as annoying with her twattish tone!

Wink
Kiwiinkits · 02/02/2011 23:47

MrsKLo are you serious? Her tone isn't twattish. She writes in an educated, easy to read way. I don't think her language is particularly contrived or 'clever'.
Are you trying to get a rise out of her? Or do you feel in some way threatened by her vocabulary?

rolandweary · 02/02/2011 23:49

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scottishmummy · 02/02/2011 23:49

nursery tell me my dc are lovely,when they call me at work to say so.good job i pay em so much to be affirmative about hallux,vagus,and maximus

ChaoticAngelofAnarchy · 02/02/2011 23:51

I must be lucky, I don't think I've ever met anyone who has expected me to find their child(ren) sooooooooooooooo cute, clever, adorable, whatever.

I like some of the kids I've met, other I haven't been that keen on. Hell, at times I'm glad to get a break from my own kids Grin

TattyDevine · 02/02/2011 23:54

Anyone seen this forum?

Its for the die-hard kiddy haters.

MrsvWoolf · 02/02/2011 23:57

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Undutchable · 02/02/2011 23:58

Some people are dull about any subject. Some people don't notice you're glazing over as they regale you about their wonderful child/ren. On the whole though they are people who are boring anyway, it's just their current chosen subject.

MrsvWoolf · 02/02/2011 23:58

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scottishmummy · 02/02/2011 23:59

calm down,not wantin kids desnt=HATE EM

actually lets face it,other folks kids are jam smeared high octane tyrants

Undutchable · 03/02/2011 00:00

I have two offspring btw. I like them very much and have many anecdotes to back that up, I also take a lot of photos, if you'd care to spend a few hours viewing them Grin

RIZZ0 · 03/02/2011 00:00

I can't stand such generalising bollocks, last week it was someone hating now everyone seems to complain about their children all the time, now it's "you all think your children are the fucking messiahs!"
Lazy, boring, self-indulgent attention seeking thread with little or no basis in fact or back story.

Also wish people would stop @'ing at people it's not frigging Twitter!

CockularDepravity · 03/02/2011 00:01

I could list a number of examples of this behaviour but I'll limit myself to two. It relates to a friend of my husband's although she is only an acquaintance of mine. We'd had them over for dinner last weekend and the evening had been fun and light-hearted.

Over dessert, the acquaintance had enquired about my line of work; I responded and gave a brief and, dare I say it, witty account of my chosen profession. This was greeted with, "Oh but Patrice wants to do that when she's older! What a coincedence!"

This is, on first glance, perhaps not completely unusual. However, Patrice is 2 years old. That's right - she goes to Day Care and is probably not in a position to discuss her career options with her mother. She is a bright child but not that bright. This apparent anomaly did not stop acquaintance from then talking solidly for 9 minutes (I discreetly timed this) about her daughter's "amazing" cooking ability. I think this was supposed to be a positive comment on the food we'd just eaten and which I had made. I was certainly glad that it was being considered in the same lofty culinary arena as that of a 2 year old master chef.

The second example was at a house auction being held in the head office of a very large Estate Agents in the city. There were approximately 80 people there. Or rather, 77 adults and 3 children. The owner of the children - a large, misshapen creature with tombstones for the few teeth she had left, and an unusual preference in perfume - chose, of course, to sit next to me. As the seats to her left (I was on her right) were all taken she asked if I could "hold this one for a moment" whilst she bid on the house she was interested in.

Apart from the fact that I did not want to touch the child, far less hold it, I had to explain to her that I was myself bidding for one of the properties. She asked which one and when I replied I was not terribly surprised to discover that we were bidding for the same house. Typical. "Now that we are friends, we can look after the children together," she said whilst I stared at her in utter incomprehension. I told her that I didn't want to look after her child and, by the way, shouldn't at least one of them not be in school ("no, I was told, we home school them" Oh God).

So she herded her flock around her as the auctions proceeded and they were noisy, boisterous and keen to empty themselves of both urine and, I think, a little poo as well. The stench was hideous.

Then came the time for my property to be auctioned. The children whimpered and nudged each other the entire time that myself, the witless woman next to me, and 3 other bidders attempted to win the auction. I did eventually win it (the only good thing to come from the whole experience) and the woman next to me was distraught. "I never thought a friend would do that to me!" she wailed before adding, "And I'm never letting you look after my children again, you ... you ... you THIEF!" She then stormed off, her offspring following in her wake.

I still don't really know what happened that day.

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TattyDevine · 03/02/2011 00:02

I'm sure Cockular is a man but I might be wrong. I dont know why. It think it is the language style and Nickname but if he/she is having lunch at midnight they are almost definitely in another country therefore that might explain the precise language style.

Right, anyway, I'm off to bed to do some futile coughing (pneumonia, still!) so when I wake up in the morning please have me howling with mirth at some fantastic PFB and baby bore anecdotes. I just love a good "but I've got a baybeeeeeeee" story...

And just to clarify, I'm really not talking about the majority of parents, the ones I know anyway. Twats come from all walks of life and if a twat becomes a parent, twatty-parent things will happen but its not a dig at parents, its a dig at twats. That's the way I see it.

TattyDevine · 03/02/2011 00:02

Damn, cross posts again. Will delay bedtime so I can read it OP!

rolandweary · 03/02/2011 00:03

I was right, you are a prize bitch

Luckily people like you don't actually exist in real life.

thumbdabwitch · 03/02/2011 00:03

I have 1, my PFB DS - I do however draw the line at regaling all and sundry with his remarkable prowess because it IS bloody boring to people who don't have DC with whom to compare.

I'm pretty sure the OP is male as well...

In general, YABU - I have met a couple of people like this but the majority of parents I know/meet are quite capable of having conversations that don't revolve entirely around their little Timmys or Janes; perhaps you are just unlucky in the company you keep?