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Original poster

To get irritated by these sorts of comments?

33 replies

Chocolocolate · 01/02/2011 10:59

DH & I work in the same place and he was leaving before me yesterday.

I said "Would you mind picking up some milk and bits for tea on your way home?" (Working environment is quite informal)

A colleague said "And get yourself some balls while you're there."

Now, I'm not really that bothered - it's just banter, but why is a man 'whipped' when asked to do the odd task?

This is one of many comments along the lines of my DH being 'whipped'.

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TryLikingClarity · 01/02/2011 11:01

YANBU.

That was a stupid thing to say Angry

Did your DH reply to the comment? Did you?

Ooopsadaisy · 01/02/2011 11:02

YANBU.

You live in my world too!

jenroy29 · 01/02/2011 11:02

Do you work at sky sports?
I'll bet that colleague is single Smile

BusyMissIzzy · 01/02/2011 11:02

YANBU, it is annoying. It just perpetuates the nagging wife/lazy husband stereotype.

BusyMissIzzy · 01/02/2011 11:03

That was my first thought too jenroy, about the colleague Grin

kreecherlivesupstairs · 01/02/2011 11:04

Of course YANBU. What a bunch of juvenile twats you work with.
Had you asked your DH to make sure he had his incredible hulk strap on cocky lubed ready for when you got home to ram it into him, they may have had a reson.

MrSpoc · 01/02/2011 11:08

is was uncalled for but this statement at the end This is one of many comments along the lines of my DH being 'whipped' leads me to think that may be you come across a little bossy with him at work and people have picked up on it.

KnittedBreast · 01/02/2011 11:11

whats so bossy in asking him to pick something up that will benefit him aswell? presumably he drives and so can get it on his way home?

typical man behaviour. he does need to grow a pair and remind himself that he needs to do stuff too.

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Chocolocolate · 01/02/2011 11:12

Grin at hulk strap on - I said my work was quite informal but I'm not sure the informality goes that far. I tell him to do that in private Wink

I just ignored it - I've tried to justify DH doing certain things in the past ie. when DH had mentioned that he'd done some cleaning on the weekend and a similar comment was made, but it just leads to laughs and a sarcastic "Yes, of course he's not whipped."

This colleague is single jenroy

Other male colleagues say the same sort of thing - even one who's in a relationship.

We had a work night out a while ago and I got into a small argument with 5 men as they were moaning that another colleagues wife should have 'let' him come out - they'd recently had a baby.

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FindingStuffToChuckOut · 01/02/2011 11:12

your colleague sounds like a prize prat.

MrSpoc · 01/02/2011 11:13

KnittedBreast there is nothing bossy about asking him to pick up something, what i am saying is her last statement has led me to think that may be she comes across as a little bossy with him at work.

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Chocolocolate · 01/02/2011 11:13

I possibly am a tad bossy in general Blush but am definitely not with DH at work - he is 'above' me.

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FabbyChic · 01/02/2011 11:13

I do think you should ask him in private, why do it in front of other colleagues? Is it to make you feel better?

JamieLeeCurtis · 01/02/2011 11:14

Is the work colleague 16? I hate twatty twats who think any man in a relationship is under the thumb. Twat.

Can I come over to your work an smack him round the chops for you?

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Chocolocolate · 01/02/2011 11:16

I asked him as he'd come over to my desk just to say goodbye and it came into my head. I didn't shout it across the office.

Two of the people at work share a flat and ask this sort of thing in front of everyone.

Perhaps I should text him in future?

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MrSpoc · 01/02/2011 11:16

so you had an argument with 5 men at a works do becasue they did not understand why he was not aloud out to play.

If they had just had a baby why could the man not go to a works do? Now if he chose not to go then that is a different story.

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Chocolocolate · 01/02/2011 11:17

Anyway - off to work now - wish me luck Wink

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MrSpoc · 01/02/2011 11:17

Id hate to work with my wife (she can be very bossy) and i would have to come over all manly. not a nice site lol

KnittedBreast · 01/02/2011 11:18

im taking mrspoc is a man?

i htink hes being teased at work because she asks him or calls to remind to do stuff and quite rightly so.

if she is bossy maybe its because she needs to be?

JamieLeeCurtis · 01/02/2011 11:18

Allowed, Mr Spoc . This is a grown man in an adult relationship with a woman. Not a 5 year old

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Chocolocolate · 01/02/2011 11:18

He chose not to go as he wanted to spend time with his wife and baby, but the other employees thought his wife was just not letting him out.

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Hullygully · 01/02/2011 11:20

Get a very large and heavy piece of wood. Hit them all over the head with it. It will save time in the long run.

lady007pink · 01/02/2011 11:25

OOOH, colleague deserves a smack time on naughty step!

Reminds me of a prat that told me my DH looked like a "bloody idiot" at a wedding carrying our then 6mo DD2. I informed him that the baby was only 6mo, unable to fend for herself and needed 24/7 care by responsible parents - did he think we should just leave the baby in the car?

He didn't dare to elaborate that I as a woman should carry my baby!

JamieLeeCurtis · 01/02/2011 11:25

hully - your dander is up today girlfriend. You are whooping ass all over the place

Hullygully · 01/02/2011 11:28

Too many morons, James. Time for a cull.

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