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to feel frustrated that I don't seem to be getting pregnant?

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Catnao · 31/01/2011 19:40

It's not been that long, a few months, but I feel worried. I MIGHT be pregnant now (not due til 7th -ish) but have been saying that same thing for around 5 months now.

We have one child, and I fell pregnant accidentally quickly with him - but I'm 10 years older now.

Anyone know if I should be worried? Seems ironic, having spent a decade trying hard NOT to get pregnant....

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TattyDevine · 31/01/2011 19:48

I know that feeling and it was at that point I stopped trying and did a big lifestyle change because I was overweight.

Is your weight okay (not heavy or underweight?)

Do your hormones feel okay generally?

I'm sure the 10 years can make a difference, of course. I didn't start trying until I was nearly 30 and I'm sure if I'd tried in my early 20's it would have been quicker.

Did you have a c-section first time?

Questions questions. Hope it happens to you soon...

gapbear · 31/01/2011 19:52

You'll get there. Keep trying Grin

And before you start...your weight is fine. Seriously.

Fingers crossed for you (except when I need the loo)xx

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Catnao · 31/01/2011 19:53

I am not overweight - 5'6" and 9 and a half stone.

I don't have very regular periods - I never have though - used to be once every 2-3 months and two days or so, in the last 5 years regular - ish dates but only 1 1/2 days long.

Natural birth with my son, but he was 5 1/2 weeks prem.

Maybe I should see GP?

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Vilt · 31/01/2011 19:54

Yanbu to feel frustrated, I have every sympathy with you but equally I don't think you actually need to be worried yet. I fell pg first month of trying with dd1 and dd2. Seven years later, ttc for number three took over a year and 2 miscarriages. She is 5 and a half weeks old now Smile I really feel for you though. Hope it happens soon x

Changing2011 · 31/01/2011 19:56

I am 27 and so far am not pregnant after 14 months of trying! Had coil out in Nov 09!

Doctors have told me to put 2 stone on - no chance, I am 5 foot 8 and have been a size 8 since forever, I am at a loss as to what else I can do!

Have 1 DC who is 5.

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Catnao · 31/01/2011 19:57

Thanks, Gap bear, btw! Come on fb chat if you're bored! cx

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Catnao · 31/01/2011 19:58

Thanks for all messages - I missed a couple! Hopefully I am over thinking it all...

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LaWeaselMys · 31/01/2011 19:58

How old are you (without being too nosy) I know when I went to doc's thinking about DD they said if it takes more than 6mths in your 20s to get PG you should see doctors, and in 30s it was a year...

But if you're worried you could go to GP for an advice type chat, there might be some new advice since your DS.

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Catnao · 31/01/2011 19:59

I am 33.

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mutznutz · 31/01/2011 19:59

You could see your GP after a few more tries. I did...as I'd been trying for my 2nd for a few years. I had a laperoscapy (sp) and they discovered (and promptly whipped out) a little cyst from my right tube.

I concieved 2 months later Grin

Good luck x

Changing2011 · 31/01/2011 20:00

Mutz - did you have any symptoms from your cyst? Docs have asked me to go in for further investigations but I thought Id give it a bit longer..

mutznutz · 31/01/2011 20:02

No I can't say I did Changing...at a push I'd say if I was going to have a bit of discomfort during ovulation/a period it would tend to be nearer my right hand side but that could have been my imagination.

Changing2011 · 31/01/2011 20:04

I am having pain in the right side and frequently peeing in the night - also 43 day cycles... I hope Im not going through the menopause at 27!

mutznutz · 31/01/2011 20:12

I doubt it changing...although you have an unfortunate nickname after what you just said lol!!

It's interesting you should mention weight because I was underweight too...5ft 3" and weighed 6st 10lbs. They kept on at me to gain weight but despite eating like a pig I just never could.

Besides, I'd concieved my first child at the same weight...although I was 23 as opposed to almost 30 when I finally concieved again.

Changing2011 · 31/01/2011 20:15

I was 21 when I had DD and was skinny as a rake.

I also eat like a pig! I dunno what the answer is I keep telling myself what will be will be....

mutznutz · 31/01/2011 20:20

When was the last time you saw the Dr?

When I first went to see them...the Doc wasn't too fussed as I said I'd only been trying for a year. Then when I mentioned it to a different Doc (same surgery) she referred me straight away and said she doesn't like people having to try for over a year.

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Catnao · 31/01/2011 20:36

Hope all is Ok Changing.

Thanks Mutznutz - maybe wait a bit longer before really fretting...

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isoldeone · 31/01/2011 20:37

Fibroids? Very common. I had one on a stalk outside my uterus . Still there. Pain after peeing sneezing etc is due to my fibroid. I have ahealthy little boy btw but have always had long but regular cycles..

alfonzo · 31/01/2011 20:39

Have you used ovulation tests at all? Sorry if this is obvious.

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Catnao · 31/01/2011 20:42

Not used tests - used the calculator thing and done the deed when it said to! Wink

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Ray81 · 31/01/2011 20:44

Hi i had problems concieving DD2 too. I was 20 when i had DD1 and fell easily (first month) dd2 took 5 yrs, with 5 mc in there with no obvious reasons for me not falling, perfectly healty womb, DH high sperm count it didnt make sense, however they did find the reason for me mc and fixed that.
I think my point is that it takig longer the second time around is common.

I was suggest you see the doc just to be sure.

Good luck i hope you fall soon

physteach · 31/01/2011 20:45

Hope all works out for you, my cycles were irregular often 43 days but sometimes only 23.... very bizarre. It took me 16 months to concieve my DD so I know how frustrating it can be. I also know it doesn't matter how many people say 'give it time.... it will happen..' nothing is quite like the pain of wanting a child and nothing happening. I really hope you have that lovely double line on the PG test soon.

hellymelly · 31/01/2011 20:45

Accupuncture can help regulate your cycle and help you conceive,worth a try!

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Catnao · 31/01/2011 20:47

Thanks everyone - I think I am getting a bit obsessed to be quite honest!

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Sidge · 31/01/2011 20:48

Don't do the deed when a calculator tells you to - they are very standardised and don't take into account variations in cycle length, ovulation and egg/sperm longevity.

Best thing is to have sex every 2-3 days throughout the month.

Assuming you are a non-smoker, fit and well with no previous gynae history, thyroid problems and that you are having regular periods doctors won't do anything for at least 6 months of trying. Many won't get too concerned until you've been trying to conceive for a year.

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