to be a bit [hmm] about calling my ILs 'Mum' and 'Dad'

[OTheHugeManatee]

My soon-to-be ILs are lovely, lovely people and I'm very fond of them. However when we told them we were getting married DP's mother said 'No more [their names], please, Manatee - it's 'Mum' and 'Dad' from now on!'

I already have a Mum and Dad. I know it's really sweet, and says I've been welcomed into the family. I'm just not sure I'll be able to do it, even though I don't want to offend them.

AIBU?

YANBU. I call mine by their first names. MIL sends cards to us signed "Mum, name,Grandma"!!

YANBU. My MIL also tried this when DH and I got married. I resisted. I already have a Mum. She got the message.

As others have said, once DD was born we started calling them by their grandparent names.

I expect MIL and FIL would like this. DH's sister's husband does it and they seem to enjoy it. I just couldn't do it. It seems really peculiar to me.

MIL is quite odd, though. She regularly refers to me, her, my mother and her (deceased) mother as 'Mum' so it's often quite hard to know what or who we are talking about.

YANBU! Weird...

your an adult with parents of your own its up to you. my IL's are their given names to me and my parents are their given names to my DH.

my OH calls my mum and dad 'mum' and 'dad'. i think it's lovely and they do too. we see his parents less often (they live overseas) but i call them mum and dad (in their language) too.

my sisters' husband also said he sees me as a sister since they married.

to me this is part of what marriage is about. it's about marrying into a new family that will provide support for your relationship through thick and thin. it's about going from being a 'couple' to being part of an extended family. to me it felt like growing up a bit and taking my relationship onto a new level.

i guess other people see things differently.

I love my in laws to bits and am very close to them but couldnt imagine calling them Mum and Dad!
I think you'lll have to go with the 'oh thats lovely of you and I'm really touched but I really couldnt get used to that and I'd prefer to keep Mum and Dad for my Mum and Dad'

YANBU. To me, it would be really strange calling other people mum and dad- I think you just need to explain that you feel uncomfortable with it. If they insist on no first names, just call them Dave's mum and Dave's dad (if your DH is Dave!), and see how soon they go back to being called by their own names.