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Original poster

to not want dh to go in the bathroom just before i'm going to have a bath and have a dump?

52 replies

lucykate · 30/01/2011 19:49

he knows i'm going to have a bath. have just told him.

now i have to wait. he's in there. laughing.

it's not just a dump. he's got an upset stomach. but we do have a downstairs loo.

git.

OP posts:
StuffingGoldBrass · 30/01/2011 20:22

A friend of mine used to say of her H 'I never get the benefit of my aromatherapy bath oils' because every time she took a bath he would want to wander in and sit there with the paper, farting and plopping away.

onepieceoflollipop · 30/01/2011 20:24

The 'd' hs or 'd' ps who are so disrepectful - why do you put up with it?

Different scenario if you only have one loo, and/or you spend 3 hours in the bath and/or your partner has ibs or similar.

Really and truly in most relationships one partner could have a soak in the bath for a reasonable time without someone needing to come and make a point in this way.

2rebecca · 30/01/2011 20:27

SGB why didn't your friend either lock the door or yell loudly at her husband and look as though she meant it.
No man would do that to me more than once. Definite deal breaker.

ifeellove · 30/01/2011 20:28

I had a similar thing this morning only difference was it was my ex who came round to see the kids and managed to get into the bathroom just before I headed in for a relaxing soak.

bitofcheese · 30/01/2011 20:31

i shouldn;t laugh op but your thread was funny as i have the same thing. i go to the gym most mornings and this is when dh goes, usually about three bloody times and ALWAYS one of those times is just when i have to get in the bath (we only have one loo and it is in the bathroom). quite disgusting really, i have to open the back door (our bathroom is downstains next to the kitchen, old victorian house), even when a snow storm is going off, i have to open the bloody back door to let some fresh air in.

2rebecca · 30/01/2011 20:32

If kids keep locking themselves in why not either get a small bolt that you put high up on door where they can't reach it. or get the sort that you can unlock from outside with screw driver. We have the latter and kids weren't allowed to use the luck when young, but it's handy to know it can be unlocked from outside if any kid/ adult with arthritis/ did or you were worried about the occupant.

Deaddei · 30/01/2011 20:43

Yanbu.
Men's poo smells so vile.

thelibster · 30/01/2011 20:53

I had my gallbladder removed five years ago. When I was waiting for my op I didn't ever find the pains a laughing matter! He's having you on methinks Wink

Original poster
lucykate · 30/01/2011 20:55

well, i've had a bath. he's asked if he can have the water after me.

i smell revenge Wink

'cept i don't need to go! might see if dd is still awake, maybe she does.

OP posts:
EllieDawn · 01/02/2011 11:19

YANBU, I fell out with my DH for doing this a few days ago when he knew that it was almost time for DD's bath and I would have to go straight into the bathroom behind him to run it. His excuse was that he couldn't hold it in for another 20 mins until after bathtime, he didn't have a dodgy tummy it was just a normal poo, surely a grown adult with no bowel problems doesn't have that level of urgency Hmm.

LadyThumb · 01/02/2011 11:52

Serve up his dinner with a pooey tissue next to the plate......and tell him you didn't wash your hands before commencing to cook!

strandedpolarbear · 01/02/2011 12:17

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2rebecca · 01/02/2011 13:33

No adult should need to poo when someone else is in the bathroom unless they have a GI upset or someone spends hours in the bath.
I've never had this happen to me, but do lock door if visitors. If anyone tried to go to the toilet whilst I was in the bathroom I would tell them I would get out of bath/ shower and then they could go. I wouldn't tolerate being in the bath whilst someone used the toilet, I'd rather prematurely finish my bath, or get out then in again. Thankfully my husband has enough manners not to just burst in and go to loo. He'd knock and ask me if he could go as he's desperate, and I would leave the bathroom.
I couldn't have a relationship with no privacy for bodily functions.

bibbitybobbityhat · 01/02/2011 13:36

He sounds like a complete fucking idiot.

Gleekfreak · 01/02/2011 14:07

My DH always comes and has a poo in the toilet next to the shower whilst I am in it in the mornings-and we have 3 toilets FFS! Stinks too-makes me gag whilst showering-have -have told him to fuck off elsewhere- please you the other toilet too-git! Wink

Gleekfreak · 01/02/2011 14:08

Strike out not working! Blush

expatinscotland · 01/02/2011 14:08

'My DH always comes and has a poo in the toilet next to the shower whilst I am in it in the mornings-and we have 3 toilets FFS! Stinks too-makes me gag whilst showering-have -have told him to fuck off elsewhere- please you the other toilet too-git!'

So lock the fucking door.

And OP, you have two loos. Don't tell him where you're going and lock the fucking door.

expatinscotland · 01/02/2011 14:17

What 2Rebecca said. Sounds like some of you are married to juvenile morons with no respect.

MrsBethel · 01/02/2011 14:17

Tosser.

expatinscotland · 01/02/2011 14:18

I'm amazed anyone thinks this is funny. If I did this to my DH he'd go spare.

So would I.

Dropdeadfred · 01/02/2011 14:26

This is really disgusting..seriously!! Why have those posters with more han one toilet put up wih this??? It's beyond gross

Chloe55 · 01/02/2011 14:37

I only have one bathroom, my dh has no shame and will often come in whilst I am in the bath. My ds who is 4 is the total opposite though and will ask me to get out of the bath so he can go, more for his embarrassment than mine. I do not have a door that locks and sometimes it won't shut either as it needs planing!

Lucykate - PMSL at sweet revenge Grin

FiveFeetTwo · 01/02/2011 14:41

How can you still fancy a man who sits on the loo and grunts and craps and stinks the place out while you are having a bath?

Personal space anyone??

Confused
TallulahDoesTheHula · 01/02/2011 14:42

If he is getting in your bath next the I'd piss in it first. Seriously.
Either that or shit on his pillow while he's in the bath.

Dropdeadfred · 01/02/2011 14:43

seriously...how can you put up with it???

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