First time posting but been a lurker for a long time, please be gentle, I'am expecting number 3, and have a lovely dd and ds aged 4 and 2, have always kept the sex a surprise, so mother was on the phone the other day speculating what I was going to have, due in April, then she came out with I hope to god you are not having a girl, do you know why? beacause X (dd) will kill her just like you used to kill your younger sister and that the age gap would be the same between my dd and this new baby as the gap between me and my younger sister which was about 5yrs, now me and my sis used to kill each other, usual sibling stuff and really only became close in our late teens and we often joke about what we used to do to each other now. Now mother is a bit of a narcissist and probably looking back I did crave attention as a child and my younger sister did get doted on and obviously I acted out alot, but I put that down to bad parenting on their part and hope not to do the same with my kids. I'am just really upset that my mother has this opinion of my dd, she has a very strong personality and is quite fiery but gets on great with her little brother and is very loving with him, this has just been driving me mad all weekend, I just think its a horrible thing to say, if I brought up how upset I was with her and the reason why, she would probably deny she ever said it or accuse my of being hormonal, she just came out with it out of the blue and quite honestly right now I wouldnt care if I never spoke to her again. aibu???