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to feel sad my DD has moved into her own room?

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HollyFP · 27/01/2011 21:14

I know I'm being PFB but I genuinely feel a bittersweet sadness that DD (6months) had tonight gone to sleep in her own room for the first time. Blush

Some of my other new mum friends must think I'm a bit mad, as they moved their DC into own room as early as 8 weeks Hmm - each to their own etc.

I'm going to miss her beautiful little face smiling up at me when I wake up :)

AIBU? :)

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Serendippy · 27/01/2011 21:15

YABU. Now you can get started on DC2!

TigerFeet · 27/01/2011 21:16

nope

i moved dd2 back in, too many night wakings, i like to deal with them without getting up

she is 16mo

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Newgolddream · 27/01/2011 21:16

Just wait till you have more, I couldnt wait to pack DS 2 and 3 off to their own room, particularly DS 3 who is a worse snorer than DH if thats possible!

thisisyesterday · 27/01/2011 21:17

no yanbu

you don't have to move her you know.. if you don't want to?
i kept ds2 and ds3 in my room until they were around 18 months

KangarooCaught · 27/01/2011 21:20

No, YANBU about missing your pfb. Dc3 has just gone into his at 6m, as he liked sleeping with us, although my others went at about 11weeks as they had grown out of their moses basket/slept through/were blooming noisy. The hmm suggests you don't really think 'each to their own', btw!

Celebrate the reclaimed space. Have also noted dc3 much quicker to self-settle in his own room.

Onetoomanycornettos · 27/01/2011 21:33

Once she's got good at sleeping in her room (if that's what you want) she can always come for morning cuddles. My five year old still stays the odd night in my bed if she's ill or needs a bit of company and I always had the two of them in the bed first thing, once they could get out of bed and come to me. I do like separate beds but it needn't be absolute!

NinkyNonker · 27/01/2011 21:36

Yanbu. Dd is about to turn 6 mo but I'm glossing over the own room conversation! Luckily I think dh feels the same way.

ethelina · 27/01/2011 21:36

Boy has been sleeping all night in his own room for a week or two now,(was previously coming into our room at the first night feed), but I still like to have him in with me for an hour or two after DH gets up at 6.30am, he just takes his place. He's nearly 20 weeks old.

felicity10 · 27/01/2011 21:45

YANBU, I felt the same and moved dd in at about the same age, used to get up in the night to poke her for a few weeks and there she was snoring away. My friends were the same and moved dcs into their own room much earlier but I just couldn't.

BUT, I realised that she was actually getting better sleep, not being disturbed by us going to bed and also by 8 months, she was not quite as lovely to have cuddles with, instead it is now like a wrestling match, with hair pulling! I am hoping that in a few months she will go back to snuggling!!

I guess it's just hard to admit that they grow up...sob

Vicky08 · 27/01/2011 21:47

Yanbu, I moved my DD into her own room when she was 23 months and that's only because I had a new baby on the way. I really miss having her in with us. Sometimes I joke with DH that I'm going to buy the biggest kingsized bed I can find so we can all sleep together every night.

breatheslowly · 27/01/2011 21:48

YANBU, I hate the thought that DD will move out of our room eventually.

hellymelly · 27/01/2011 21:50

Mine are still in with me,at 3 and 6.you don't have to turf them out at 6m,its not compulsory!

debka · 27/01/2011 21:50

YANBU, but I bet you sleep better...

I'm one of those Hmm mums- DD never slept in with us, and DH has just finished #2's room.

Portofino · 27/01/2011 21:53

My dd is nearly 7. I secretly love it when she has a bad dream and comes for a snuggle with mummy.

ShineyMoonInAPurpleSky · 27/01/2011 22:00

We're moving house soon and there may not be enough space for ds's cot in our room. He will be six months and as it will be first time that he will have a room of his own I'm making a big deal of making it as gorgeous as possible.

Part of me is hoping that him being in his own room will be a good thing because we definately disturb him during the night - he always wakes up when we go to bed for example and don't get me started on dh's "noises" throughout the night.

However, I'm really scared of him being on his own so I'm not sure what I'm going to do yet.

sweetkitty · 27/01/2011 22:05

YANBU the earliest any of mine went into their own rooms was at 13 months, DS (my 4th) is in with me now and he's 8 months, I dread the day he moves into his own room (which will be a while as it's not built yet).

I personally could not bear not to sleep close to my newborns or as they got older TBH but my best friend has hers in their own room from day one, I don't think theres a wrong or right you do what suits you best.

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HollyFP · 27/01/2011 22:07

:) Glad I'm not the only one to feel this way. I didn't mean the Hmm as judgeypants, just surprising how different my friends felt about it!

I too am hoping for morning cuddles. I'm going to hang on to my little PFB for as long as poss Grin

And yes it did make me consider #2 already Shock Grin

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HollyFP · 27/01/2011 22:16

Grin TSC

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felicity10 · 27/01/2011 22:27

TheSecondComing Grin Poor DP, that must be interesting!

TheSecondComing · 27/01/2011 22:29

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mumbar · 27/01/2011 22:33

TSC Grin and I can't believe DS is 6mo already. Shock

felicity10 · 27/01/2011 22:34

Oh I quite agree, my dh is 6'4" and he'd be the first one out!! I like the z-bed plan!

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