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Lane-swimming etiquette (grrrrr)

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RevoltingPeasant · 27/01/2011 14:00

Last night I was swimming in the lanes section of my local pool, and after I'd been going about 25 minutes these two blokes got in and lurked around end section for a bit. Just as I was approaching the end of the lane, they both pushed off right in front of me and started doing slow breaststroke, thus totally cutting me up and meaning I had to speed up massively to overtake or stop.

AIBU to think that this is really rude, and that getting into a swimming lane is like being at a roundabout - if someone is already going round at a decent pace, you wait till after they've gone so you don't make them swerve? If you know you're not a fast swimmer, shouldn't you wait if you see someone 5m away doing crawl at a reasonable pace?

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dandycandyjellybean · 27/01/2011 20:38

My musings about swimming hassles in general, but especially the slow, chatting women, written in a moment of irritaion a few years ago. Will post below, please feel free to ignore. Grin

dandycandyjellybean · 27/01/2011 20:41

Why do all the lifeguards at my local swimming pool look like pre-pubescent twelve year olds? I was shocked to discover that if I started to drown after an attack of cramp, my life would be totally in the hands of someone who doesn?t look old enough to blow his own nose without assistance, let alone perform complicated lifesaving procedures. Nonetheless, because I had been lamenting my expanding waistline, this is a risk I decided to take when someone suggested that swimming is a gentle, relaxing way to get fit. Gentle and relaxing sounded just like the kind of exercise I could manage. I was in for a shock.

Let me start this account of my experience with the receptionist. An unsmiling lady, she obviously felt that anything above taking my money and pushing a ticket in my general direction was outside of her remit. Being helpful was certainly not on her list of key duties. When I enquired about lockers, she informed me that I would need a pound coin, and that she was terribly sorry but she didn?t have any to spare. As she watched me rooting fruitlessly through my purse for the appropriate coinage, she did finally smile, conveying a depth of insincerity rarely seen outside of government level politics.

Ten minutes later, having finally located a slightly sticky, fluff encrusted pound coin on the floor of my car, I head to the changing rooms. They smelt. Horrible. However, the pong wasn?t the only problem; the changing rooms were also draughty to the point of freezing. So, I shiver out of my clothes, tiptoe around the piles of sodden tissue and nests of wet hair on the floor and stuff all my things into a locker. Big mistake. After inserting my money and wrestling with the key for about ten minutes it finally dawns on me that this particular locker in out of order. So I move to another locker, jam all my things in, only to discover that this too is inoperable. Several attempts later I finally find a locker that works and then make my way to the pool for a refreshing and invigorating swim.

Invigorating is certainly one word for it (hypothermia might be another). It would appear that the pool is several degrees below freezing, however, I have come this far so I decide to try a few energetic lengths before I lose a limb to frost bite, or possibly the will to live. As I swim, I try not to focus too closely on the detritus in the water. Why are there always at least 2 plasters floating around in any swimming pool I have ever visited, not to mention disintegrating lumps of cotton wool? And why do they always follow me?

Despite all of this, I finally start to enjoy myself, pounding up and down, trying to concentrate on keeping count of my lengths and avoiding collisions. The latter is not as easy as you may imagine, as I am sharing the pool with a gaggle of glamorous and immaculately coiffed, thirty-something ladies. They insist on swimming three and four abreast and end up taking up two thirds of the pool space. And then rather akin to Sunday drivers, they proceed to swim at snails pace (if snails could swim). This wouldn?t be quite so maddening if their lack of speed was due to fragile health or declining years. But they swim in this formation and at this pace for two reasons only. Firstly, to ensure that their make up and hair is in no way impaired by contact with the water. And secondly, to enable them to keep each other bang up to date with the latest gossip. As I perform an enormous arc in the water to skirt around them I am treated to snippets of, ?well our Keith said to our Donna?..? and ?my Roger?s not what he was?. So intent are they on not missing a morsel of this fascinating commentary, that their bodies are almost vertical in the water because they are swimming so slowly. Just as I am getting into my stride (or should that be stroke), they stop altogether, forming an impenetrable island of bodies, into which I crash unceremoniously. After much profuse apologising (from me) and much tutting and huffing (from them), I set off on the long journey around them again, surreptitiously looking for a gap in the pool elsewhere. And then, wonderfully, they retire for a while to the side of the pool in order to discuss Janice, and the messy operation she?s just had ?down below?, and I get to swim a few lengths without incident. No sooner do I decide it is safe to try out my back stroke (navigation being a little difficult when travelling backwards and facing the ceiling) they veer wildly back into the pool, still chatting away merrily. As I am unable to see them, and they aren?t looking where they?re going I again crash into them, with a much amplified action replay of the previous episode.

At this point, I decide that I have had just about as much healthy exercise as I can stand for one day and get out to head for the showers. I am just collecting my towel and shampoo from the side of the pool when I am knocked sideways by what felt like a speeding train. When I regain my balance and check out what nearly overturned me, I find that the gaggle of glamorous ladies, in a suddenly discovered burst of speed, are hurrying to the changing rooms ahead of me. Needless to say, when I arrive at the showers, they are all occupied. So, I get to stand and shiver, achieving a previously undiscovered level of goose bumps per square inch, all the while being entertained by more fascinating glimpses into the lives of ?our Keith and our Donna?. I do become rather interested at one point, as one of the ladies starts to bemoan her weight problem. ?I just can?t understand it, I come swimming twice a week without fail, but the weight just won?t shift?. I have to stuff my towel into my mouth to prevent myself from calling out over the cubicle, ?You?d burn off more calories lying down and eating a cream cake, the rate you swim,? but I manage restraint. Finally, when the whole shower area is ankle deep in sudsy water and afloat with little rafts of hair, they all vacate at once, leaving me to attempt to regain a normal body temperature with the little hot water that?s left.

And so, as I head home, defeated, exhausted, wet, and cold, not to mention the best part of a fiver worse off, my advice to you is this: if you?re interested in doing a bit more exercise in an attempt to get fit, or taking up a relaxing hobby to help you unwind ? try a black belt in tai kwon do.

dandycandyjellybean · 27/01/2011 20:45

Sorry, ignore huge post, didn't mean to kill the post Blush...I'll just get me coat...

fairtradefloozy · 27/01/2011 20:45

Slow is fine - I am sometimes slow, but slow in CONTEXT of the pool you are in and how busy it is - ie in the right lane, or not chatting with your mate with half the pool between you. Sorry.

And to the question about council or private - I wish we had a private gym round us as we only have council and it is usually heaving with kids!

Silverlace · 27/01/2011 20:54

I agree with you about swimming in lanes but I get irritated with the opposite problem. Where I take the DCs swimming there are 3 lanes sectioned off for lengths and a free swimming area. The lanes are usually empty but I get filthy looks from people doing lengths in the free area when my just learnt to swim DS swims near them. I feel it is polite ask him to keep away from other swimmers (so he doesn't grow up to be one of the annoying men mentioned in other posts) but they could go into the lanes away from children in the free area.

DoubleDegreeStudent · 27/01/2011 20:58

I wear a silicone hat (allergic to latex) and my hair never gets wet - if water doesn't get in I don't think conditioner can get out? Obviously wouldn't work with fabric hats though...

tiredfeet · 27/01/2011 21:11

Yanbu. People who push of from the end of the lane just as I'm getting there, forcing me to take a pause when I didn't want to, really make my blood boil.

That and men with no sense of awareness of body space, standing right up next to me when I'm taking a breather.

Actually I could go on and on..
No idea why I still go swimming actually!

Timeforanap · 27/01/2011 21:17

YANBU, definitely not. All this stuff drives me completely crazy too.

Our local pool has wee smelling changing rooms, draughty showers and all lane swimming probs described here. Older ladies just swim through antenatal aqua aerobics class etc.

I joined local gym purely for the use of the pool (worked out at £8 a week, so approx same as 2 normal swims). Fab as plenty of space to swim, but showers kept breaking, leaving you with a choice of no shower/cold shower/dash down 200m carpeted and windowed corridor to the gym changing rooms.

So, since membership ran out, I've just not been swimming. Sad

Talkinpeace · 27/01/2011 21:20

I swim head up hair dry - because I have manky eardrums
but I do finish my mile in 40 minutes normally.
Hate bloke swimmers who splash lots for two lengths and get out
tend to swim AT lane bargers
and make a point of grabbing the wall to turn 1/4 inch from the arm of wall chatters

used to be a guy at our pool who was a freediver - he'd do four lengths on the bottom and then pop up
coped with him swimming underneath 'cos he was REALLY fit.

Megglevache · 27/01/2011 21:27

I am so glad I foudn this thread.

I had the pleasure of a very odd woman last week who I could see was getting increasingly frustrated with me- why I had no idea as it was just me and her in the pool (quite a small pool) I only do one stroke and look like a dimple in my nose clip and goggs on- anyway she appeared to be trying to get my attention but I was on a roll- then she decides to start swimming widths across me an dnot even doing a whole width so she could get in my way ?????.

She told me swimming underwater (which I was doing) made her nervous and there was no need for it???? Grin

TopsysMum · 27/01/2011 21:31

I perfected the art of swimming underneath them and popping on the otherside :) irritates them to death :o

yummytummy · 27/01/2011 21:36

pixel am not targetting you, being scared to put your face in water is a totally different thing, sounds like you have done well to overcome your fears. its just incredibly annoying when slow swimmers come in the fast lane and you have said this is something you do not do.

if you are actually there to swim fine, its those who arent that ruin it for people who are.

i second whoever wanted to win the lottery and be able to have their own pool!

Talkinpeace · 27/01/2011 21:38

I have two friends with their own pools who never swim
and another swimmer friend who has her own pool but closes it in the winter and comes to the club!

Oldsilver · 27/01/2011 21:40

YANBU - right there with you. Last night there were 5 non swimmers swimming across the lane or doing 3 strokes and then going across the width. Completely put me off my stride as not wearing my glasses in the pool I can't see when they suddenly change direction. Luckily the pool attendents did actually speak to them about it last night! I also hate the chatters at the end - a length is not complete unless you touch the side Grin. The ones that suddenly stand up before the length has finished and walk the rest of the way - don't they realise there are people behind them. The side by siders, grr, there is not enough room to overtake let alone do that. The slowbies, when I was that slow I used to let the fast ones go in front of me. The 'head bobbers' those that think if they dip their head in at every stroke they are going really fast - I overtake one of these regularly and I'm treading water! The one's who don't look when they start a length without checking after chatting and crash into you after you've checked and no-one is starting! And to think this is meant to be relaxing Grin

ninedragons · 27/01/2011 21:55

God, I used to get so pissed off with this when I lived in London.

Get out of my fast lane. I am Australian, and very good. What you are doing is controlled drowning.

You have no place in the fast lane if you can't do a tumble-turn.

makeminemango · 27/01/2011 21:59

I too have suffered the pain in the lane scenario. I use a private gym which has the nicest pool I've come across in London but even though it's in a gym, the pool still seems to be frequented by people who use the pool for a splash as opposed to exercise. I can swim and like to build up a sweat but you just have to get out of the way of people in the zone. I think it can get dangerous if you gave your head down & come short against a slow swimmer. But, hey, I'll say something to them (Does the Aussie accent help?) and ask people how we should share the lane.

Don't get me started on people who swim breaststroke with the head above the water. Okay I've heard the posts about bad ears or fear ( and yay for you for pushing through it !) but surely it's uncomfortable & bad for your back?

Carrie06 · 27/01/2011 22:33

Never realised there was so much pool etiquette to be aware of. I have been learning to swim for the past few months and would never venture into the lanes. This thread would put someone off going anywhere near a pool!

Oldsilver · 27/01/2011 22:43

Carrie06 when I first started a couple of years ago someone told me that I would be better off doing general swim - it gave me the impetus kick up the backside I needed. With a bit of consideration we can all use the lanes safely at our own speed, its only the self centred people who ruin it. You go for Smile and congrats too, I was a very late swimmer.

tyler80 · 28/01/2011 00:59

If your hair doesn't get wet why the need for the conditioner beforehand? I've always seen it recommended to stop chlorine damage, but if your hair's not getting wet there's no need.

I know some people say swimming hats keep your hair dry but I've yet to see this for myself.

legspinner · 28/01/2011 04:24

Oh my, this thread is tailor made for me, my DH doesn't see why I get so worked up about it! If someone is coming up faster than me, I let them pass at the end of the lane. However not everyone returns the favour if I am faster Angry

Having said that, all the city pools here have lane etiquette posted in all the changing rooms and they mostly work quite well. The lifeguards also are very good at asking loiterers to move to the play area (usually teenage boys who race each other very spashily for 2 lengths, taking up the entire lane, and then stop and chat for 10 mins).

BTW ninedragons I have to disagree with you. I have never learnt to do tumbleturns, but am fast and turn around quite quickly despite not being able to do them; and I sometimes venture into the fast lane Blush

BTW swimming caps have never kept my hair dry...

Unrulysun · 28/01/2011 04:40

YANBU - do not wait for me to get to the end I am not stopping

legspinner · 28/01/2011 08:51

BTW is there any etiquette in the UK about touching someone's toes if you are coming up behind them and want them to wait at the end so you can pass? The etiquette here (NZ) is that you do this, but I am always nervous about it unless I know whose toes I'm tickling Grin

And like some other posters here I have noticed that some men (usually the splashy ones) get particularly grumpy about being overtaken by a woman!

Cappster · 28/01/2011 08:54

I went swimming last night and there were three women bobbing about at the deep end of a very small and busy pool

neither me and another bloke could get anywhere near the rail to turn round. This went on for about 20 minutes

I don't think any of them swam more than a length

they were having a conversation about how they could never keep any weight off Grin

ladysoandso · 28/01/2011 08:58

Yep this drives me mad as well -except I am a slowish swimmer and on wednesday night they have lane swimming at 8pm but there is some sort of unofficial group of about 20 men who use every lane, charging up and down in MY slow lane. I also hate groups of women who swim in groups, chatting. Why dont they go to the bloody pub! They cant be doing it for exercise cos they aren't using any effort.They never move over so 4 of them take up half the pool and more serious swimmers are crammed together. I have become the pool bully now and just swim right down the middle of them.

ladysoandso · 28/01/2011 09:00

touching toes?? God no! We like to keep personal space at about 3 meters!

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