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in banging my neighbours wall?

37 replies

chocecclair · 26/01/2011 20:22

I live in a terraced house and for the last couple of days, DS7 has woken up because 'someone is banging his wall'.

I could hear the banging from downstairs but thought that maybe my neighbour was doing some DIY but oh no, its proper bed banging!

They are at it again right now (can last for 20mins and can be up to 4 times a night!).

Its disturbing my son and i feel like banging my side of the wall(with fists) to shush them up?

WWYD? Do i knock and ask them to move their bed?

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sooz28 · 26/01/2011 20:25

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LaWeaselMys · 26/01/2011 20:27

I also liked the sound of the yelling out scores technique.

Did you mean DS7? Your terrace must be huge!!

onehotmomma · 26/01/2011 20:29

Do they have kids? maybe they are jumping on the bed. 4 times a night?! bloody hell have never met a bloke who can manage that. Maybe I'm just unlucky lol

I would say something, they are probably going to be really embarrassed. I know I would lol

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chocecclair · 26/01/2011 20:29

He is a guy who lives on his own, hardly see him but he has knocked on my door to borrow my vacuum cleaner!

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chocecclair · 26/01/2011 20:30

Oh no, i meant to say my son is 7.

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sweetpotatomash · 26/01/2011 20:40

i would go and tell him in the morning!

4 times - lucky partner!

LadyFannyofBumStreet · 27/01/2011 05:50

YANBU - However, try a less aggressive tactic. My neighbour kept me up all night with her over the top moaning from oral sex. I wrote her a sweet note the following morning, to which she responded along the lines of live and let live. I responded in a very passive aggressive manner and made sure to mention 'fake orgasms'. She never did it again.

Since your neighbour is a man, try writing a note.

Bogeyface · 27/01/2011 08:11

I'd be more worried about the state of my hoover if he lives alone Confused

I would certainly say something to him but make it sound like you think it is DIY noises or something.

alphaO · 27/01/2011 08:34

When I read your OP, I thought you have seven children and may be your neighbour was giving u a T of your own medicine. I will suggest doing this to him when your son is not at home.

ccpccp · 27/01/2011 08:47

Next time they are at it, push your DS's bed up against the wall and have a really loud pillow fight, with lots of screaming and shouting and rythmic jumping on the bed.

They'll get the message.

MoonGirl1981 · 27/01/2011 10:05

Just stand in that room and shout (even to fake person; 'Oi, Kylie (or whoever) come and lisen to the neighbours having it off, it's HILARIOUS'.

That would certainly put me off doing it.

AlistairSim · 27/01/2011 10:13

I am also worried that he's single but has borrowed your hoover.

Can you hear any sucking noises?

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chocecclair · 27/01/2011 18:27

oh dear, its 6.25 and they are already banging!!!!

i think the girl has moved in, saw her in the afternoon but didn't know what to say.

DH wants to go over and knock on the door?

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mutznutz · 27/01/2011 18:29

Jesus at least wait til they've lit the cigarette before you let him knock Blush

IAmTheCookieMonster · 27/01/2011 18:32

I would write a note saying that you realise that they work during the day but would they mind not doing DIY at night time because the banging on the wall is waking up your son.

Or an honest you probably don't realise but we can hear you note

But definitely write a note so they don't have to look you in the eye, poor bloke!

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chocecclair · 27/01/2011 18:32

but what do you say?

"Excuse me, can you not bang my walls when you are shagging?"

or

"Whats that noise coming from your side of the wall?"

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mutznutz · 27/01/2011 18:33

Neither...just tell them there appears to be a lot of banging on the wall and your child is trying to sleep.

They'll probably realise and move the bed away from it a bit.

manicbmc · 27/01/2011 18:34

Write a note that says 'My 7 year old can hear you shagging. Please move your bed.'

Bogeyface · 27/01/2011 18:35

I would definetely pretend that you think it is DIY noises to save face all round!

Or failing that "OMG ARE THEY AT IT AGAIN?!?!" shouted in a very loud voice next to the offending wall should do it!

tethersend · 27/01/2011 18:37

Actually, I think a note is more hostile than banging on the wall.

I speak from experience.

mutznutz · 27/01/2011 18:38

I think if you start shouting things or banging on the wall, they'll probably do it all the more to 'wind the rude neighbours up'

Just have a polite word face to face...it's not like you have to mention sex or shagging.

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chocecclair · 27/01/2011 18:43

its all shhh now

ok, we wont be hostile but DH has said if it goes off again tonight, he will knock (after they finish)and say something.

tethere - where you the one doing the banging?Blush

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sevenkeystomysoul · 27/01/2011 18:44

I wouldn't knock, I'd write a note first and see what happens. Something along the lines of 'Hi, I'm sure you don't realise this but my son's bedroom is next to yours and he's been disturbed quite a lot by noise recently. Would you be able to stopshaggingyournewgirlfriendforfiveminutes move furniture away from the connecting wall a bit to avoid this please? Many thanks, chocecclair.

ILoveItWhenYouCallMeBoo · 27/01/2011 18:48

EXP and i managed 8 times one night Blush

Aims80 · 27/01/2011 18:49

Knocking on the wall is not the way to go. Just go over and say, sorry mate, any chance of moving the bed away from the wall, it's waking up my 7 year old. No point beating about the bush.. so to speak..

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