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to be jealousy of black women's hair?

35 replies

BeefStirFry · 26/01/2011 16:25

my best friend is black. she changes her hair style almost every month and always manages to look fab.

wouldn't you like to change your hairstyle whenever you felt like!

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KerryMumbles · 26/01/2011 16:27

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bumblebeebuzz · 26/01/2011 16:27

YANBU

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ruddynorah · 26/01/2011 16:27

Are they weaves?

bumblebeebuzz · 26/01/2011 16:27

I'm black, I love my hair. Don't generalize!

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MoonGirl1981 · 26/01/2011 16:29

Hmmmm......

I was told by a mixed race friend that if you see a black woman with amazing hair then it's a wig.

I worked with several Nigerians in my last job who all wore wigs and said they'd 'changed style'. No one's hair grows six inches between shifts though so it was a tad obvious.

You sure she's not wearing wigs?

jumpingcastles · 26/01/2011 16:29

i'm black, i love my natural hair but i also use weaves and extensions for braids and so forth!

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Bogeyface · 26/01/2011 16:29

Not at all U to be envious of a gorgeous friend, but you wouldnt want afro hair if you knew what it was like to keep!

Thats the bit I am dreading most about having another baby girl, and I am not joking.

compo · 26/01/2011 16:30

You can have extensions though and take them out
have a perm
use straighteners
look at posh and becks , and katie price... Never the same hairstyle for longer than a month

BeefStirFry · 26/01/2011 16:31

of course, i know its weaves and extensions!

its just nice being able to do that!

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Sullwah · 26/01/2011 16:33

I read somewhere that the first american black woman to become a millionaire made her fortune manufacturing and selling hair products to black women.

tabulahrasa · 26/01/2011 16:35

if you want to change your hairstyle every month - change your hairstyle every month

what on earth has it got to do with being black?

frgr · 26/01/2011 16:38

one of my childhood friends is black, i used to envy her about her hair not getting horribly greasy after a day or two (my hair is also prone to frizz and i hate having to straighten it when it's really bad some mornings).

but god, i thought she was joking when she used to tell me it took a lot of work. she only had hair below her chin too, not massively long. THEN i saw her dressing table and all the products she says she needs to keep it under control. i don't think she's exaggerating now that i've seen the pile of it all, since it's someone who isn't really into makeup and beauty otherwise. i very quickly stopped being jealous!!

PlanetLizard · 26/01/2011 16:38

What tabulahrasa said.

TrillianAstra · 26/01/2011 16:39

Actually you are envious, not jealous.

justcarrots29 · 26/01/2011 16:42

I love afro hair - it must be a pain to keep moisturised but I think it looks great frizzy or braided, straightened or in ringlets long or short (Halle Berry). YANBU - I would love hair that is so versatile (if very tricky to keep in goo nick)! Tough I am sure some white women have fab hair like this too!

TattyDevine · 26/01/2011 16:46

I'm jealous of being able to use weaves - there's no real reason why a white woman can't but it would be considered weird, we dont seem to have an adequate "excuse" whereas if you have afro hair you do because it can be hard to manage.

I'm jealous also of the hairdressers - when I lived in Leyton, East London, many years ago there were some "black" hairdressers, I used to go to one to get my nails done and they have WAY more fun in there than your average "white" hairdresser. Par-tay.

YANBU

TattyDevine · 26/01/2011 16:46

Envious, yes.

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FindingStuffToChuckOut · 26/01/2011 16:50

yes it's a lot of work, and lots of black women I know wear wigs, weaves, spend a fortune at the hairdressers and on straightening. My female in-laws all insist on the need for straight hair which is really high maintenance & harsh on the hair/scalp/time.

DD has mixed race hair - my fine dark blonde hair, but massively curly and that takes a lot of work, but it is super gorgeous.

Best bet is always to work with what you've got rather than waste time/energy/braincells envying something you'll never have.

StarlightPrincess · 26/01/2011 17:03

It's called weave and it costs a lot of money, and a hell of a lot of time and maintenance!

MissQue · 26/01/2011 17:07

I absolutely adore seeing little girls with afro hair, especially with big pom pom style bunches, so cute Grin

Saltatrix · 26/01/2011 17:09

You have no idea what black women go through with their hair.

Grass is always greener Smile

BettyCash · 26/01/2011 17:19

I second Saltatrix - OP have you ever asked yr friend how much she spends on her hair?