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to think that if your child

69 replies

TyraG · 24/01/2011 17:27

is 3, 4 or 5 they don't need to be sucking on a pacifier?

I can't believe the number of kids I have seen in that age range that have pacifiers. It's absolutely ridiculous.

I took DS to school this morning (Reception - he's 4) and while he was going into his classroom a boy about his age passed us (in a school uniform) with a pacifier in his mouth. I was dumbfounded.

Is this common here?

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LaurieFairyonthetreeEatsCake · 24/01/2011 17:28

Bit much to be dumb founded

Meh. Some kids like them.

TheMonster · 24/01/2011 17:29

YANBU.

usualsuspect · 24/01/2011 17:29

My ds had a dummy until he was 3 ...

rubyslippers · 24/01/2011 17:29

It's a comfort

Would you say that about a child who has a cuddlybor still breastfeeds at 3?

Think there are worse things to be honest

mutznutz · 24/01/2011 17:30

Not common here as they're not allowed them when they start school Nursery at age 3.

I have seen the odd Mum over the years trying to wrestle one off their child in the playground though before they go in.

TheMonster · 24/01/2011 17:30

It's very bad for their teeth, I believe. We took DS's away at 2.

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TyraG · 24/01/2011 17:30

We took them off our kids when they were 2.

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usualsuspect · 24/01/2011 17:32

Good for you ...have a better mum medal

SenoritaViva · 24/01/2011 17:32

I don't see them around here much to be honest. I do think it's a shame if it impacts the child's teeth or speech and often think pretty child, ugly pacifier. But there we go, I suppose there are worse things but I personally don't like them (therefore YANBU).

TheMonster · 24/01/2011 17:33

I want a better mum medal too.

LadyintheRadiator · 24/01/2011 17:36

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GlynistheMenace · 24/01/2011 17:37

if you're giving medals out can i have a big shiny one please as my daughter didn't have one at all [preen]

*rolls eyes at OP, just say what you mean?

you know fine well how common it is, that's why you made the remark.

Glynis takes 'blankies' out of cupboard ready for non-pacifier using child to sniff in bed Grin

Crystaldolphin · 24/01/2011 17:39

Oh Mind Your Own!

usualsuspect · 24/01/2011 17:39

My DD never had one either Grin

But my DS did ,and he had a bit of raggy old sheet Grin

ChippingInSmellyCheeseFreak · 24/01/2011 17:40

YANBU - it's revolting. There is no need for children of this age to have them and especially not out of their beds.

Laurie - some kids like playing with their bits too - but we still tell them not in public Grin

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TyraG · 24/01/2011 17:42

GlynistheMenace actually hun I don't know how common it is for older children to have them here as I've just relocated from the states. THATS why I made the remark.

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usualsuspect · 24/01/2011 17:48

GlynistheMenace you got hunned Grin

upahill · 24/01/2011 17:49

My 2 DS didn't use them. I'm not for or against them it was just something that never occured to me to use.
the only thing I don't really like seeing is small children walking round trying ot talk with them in. It's something I never liked seeing.

Plonker · 24/01/2011 17:49

Revolting is going a bit far don't you think? Unless of course they're dipping them in dog shit before they have a good old suck ...

My eldest didn't have one at all (but only stopped sucking her thumb at the age of 7!).

We took dd2s off her when she was 2 - she is still totally orally fixed and puts everything and anything in her mouth.

Dd3 is 3 and has a dummy for bed. It's not ideal and we're working on getting rid of it, but revolting? Nah, I don't think so. There are worse things, I'm sure.

nickschick · 24/01/2011 17:52

Some children need 'em some children dont ......its nobodies business other than that childs mother and father how long they have the dummy for.

Snout out!!

seimum · 24/01/2011 17:54

I remember once on holiday seeing a child (must have been about 5) skiing with a dummy in her mouth.

It didn't seem right - and she could have choked if she fell over.

Maelstrom · 24/01/2011 17:54

DS is not using a dummy since he was 5 months old. But he is still sucking the edge of his sleeve at 8. I'm thinking of getting him a dummy to avoid him ruining so many clothes.

GlynistheMenace · 24/01/2011 17:55

aw, hunned but no medal?

drat

and not buying the 'new round here' thing either, you asked AIBU, I reckon you are. There is huge difference in a 3,4 or 5yr old.

Maybe the kid was new in town too and needed a bit of comfort?

Maelstrom · 24/01/2011 17:56

I might need one for myself now... [heads for the chocolate box]

reddaisy · 24/01/2011 17:58

DD (nearly 2) loves her dummy. But she is only allowed it at bedtime or naptime or when I want her to sleep in the car (IE when we are driving at her usual naptime).

But I would prefer it if she didn't have one but I have yet to find the energy for the battle and it really does soothe her so I feel like I am taking her friends away!!