to expect posters to come back and update us?

[MommyMayhem]

There have been a few threads on here recently (mainly in Relationships) where people have posted about something and been given lots of support and constructive advice from fellow posters. Then they disappear...

Is it just me, or is it quite rude not to come back just to say "thanks", or to update everybody on how things are going? Obviously you are not obliged to tell everyone everything about your problem, but a quick update... well... that's just good manners, isn't it?

Or AIBU?

Hmm - interesting to find this thread, as I have been thinking/feeling the same thing about posters who vanish once they've had thoughtful advice and support. I've been checking on a few unresolved threads too.

Partially, I think it is rude for the OP to disappear, though I admit I have done it myself on rare occasions over the years.

I think some people post to vent their feelings when something highly charged has occurred and they need to share it with someone, get some perspective, or figure out exactly how they feel/what they think/what to do next. I think they don't come back once the initial upset has blown over. The urgency and emotional upset often fades after a day or two, and they get on with their lives. IMO.

I also think that Mnet is a more impersonal place now there are so many of us posting, and with all the constant namechanging - so there are far fewer established online 'friendships' and no obligation to adhere to social niceties (such as a thank you, or even an acknowledgement of advice).