'me time' product of the noughties and daft?

[LadyTremaine]

Ok so a comment from DSDs mother prompted me to think about this. Did our parents ever get this 'me time'? When did this concept come about?

And why do people feel they are so darn entitled to soooo much of it?

Ok, I appreciate that as much as I hate the phrase, it is a good description of what we all need in some shape or form every now and again to keep ourselves sane...

But it seems to have got out of hand and all I every here from parents (mainly mums although I don't know how relevent that is? It seems to be a more female phrase) is about how they are exhausted and need more 'me time' despite the fact that it seems to me they have a lot more than generations past.

Am I being unreasonable to think the whole concept has sent people dolally and resentful of the fact that they have to complete standard parental tasks?

It must be lovely to be the centre of your Mum's universe, but I think children grow up happier if mums disconnect from their children to an extent as the years go by.

And kids need 'me time' too- if mums are constantly keeping their children entertained, how are the little ones supposed to learn to entertain themselves?

I know nowthen I was never ever taken to primary school, never. I walked it alone. And if i EVER missed the bus to secondary school and had to get a life there was absolute HELL to pay! Was never taken to friends houses, just called round at said friends houses we went to their bedroom or played out.

One thing I have noticed which drives me mental is dd has friends who're clearly v adult dependent and can't play alone and want to be with adults all the time so they follow me (always me not dh) around expecting to be entertained, dd to be fair says "let's do this let's do that" but they often turn to me and say "I want to be with you" WTF!!! Stop pestering and go and play by yourselves, that's the whole point, and do it out of my sight!!

my parents me time was us all going brownies,to pals house.

'It must be lovely to be the centre of your Mum's universe, but I think children grow up happier if mums disconnect from their children to an extent as the years go by.'

I think that it is only lovely at the stage where they have no awareness of self. Once they get beyond 3yrs or so, and increasingly as the years go by, it is a huge burden to put on a DC, and by the time they are a teenager it will be deeply resented. A parent's job is to gradually let go and they need to have kept their own life and relationships in repair during those 18yrs or they are left with nothing, and a DC who feels the heavy weight of expectation upon them.