I am being precious. But I still wanna go "'urgh you are disgusting"

[Pancakeflipper]

I am being precious.

I work 3 days a week. I sit next to a colleague. It is very obvious whose desk is whose.

They insist on chucking their banana skins ( I hate bananas even with my kids I am cringing cutting up a banana and handling the skins), apple cores, sweet wrappings ( don't mind that easy to pick up) and used teaspoons they used for their yoghurts. With all the lick marks on.

And I want scream " stop chucking it on my desk you gross person. "

But I think I am being precious. So I remove the debris myself shuddering.

Every Monday there are stains on my desk which I have to clean cos' my imagination will go into overdrive on what it is.

I put a in-tray between us last week. It was gone this Monday. He said "there was no room for me coffee, hope you don't mind". Our desks are massive and he has no clutter on his.

I don't want to fall out with him. But how do I get over myself? I need to loosen up.

maybe OP is buried under the banana skins and cant reach the keyboard

OH FFS I started reading this, realised it was started on Thursday, began to get excited as I realised OP worked on a Monday and got to the end.....

NOTHING. Come on. I am feeling like crap today, it is the job, nay the DUTY of MNers to make me feel better.

Please tell me you threw a thong made of banana skins at him

I am sooo sorry . Nothing more irritating than no updates especially when you have given valuable (hilarious) assistance.

Monday morning I got into the office at 7.30am, plenty of time to survey my desk.

There were no banana skins. So I couldn?t make a banana thong. No licked spoons either. Good start.

There was a pile of sweetie wrappers in my in-tray, my in-tray had been moved and my drawer unit under my desk had been moved so he had more leg room. And several reports and his note book on my desk.

He wasn?t in (doesn?t appear until after 9.30am) so I threw the wrappers onto his desk.

When he came in I asked if the report was his. He said ?Oh sorry was doing some work on your desk.? No issue with that ? I am part-time.

The notebook is still on my desk ? I am waiting to see if he notices.

Mid morning out comes his banana?. I looked around. No bin. So I ran to another part of the office, nicked a bin. Came back just as he was about to put the skin onto my desk and I said ?Look what I got you?. a bin.? And he put it in the bin. It's like having a 5 yr old.

This morning I came in. My in-tray moved again. He was at his desk so I just shoved it back into position. He looked up a little shocked. I smiled sweetly.

He had a cup of coffee on my desk and I said ?might want to move that cos? I will knock it off.? He said ?Oh yeah, might be best.?

I have decided. It is my desk. My desk is clearly defined so I will be firm. I have the support of you so I know I can be strong.

I bet he slags me off on his Twitter account later.

[thumbsup]

YADBU...he is an out & out slob & dissrespectful with it too.....& its affecting you at work......is there an HR dept you can speak with, if not you need to have a word in your Bosses ear.......

In thee past I've had complaints from staff for a similar situation & ended up putting the culprit under threat of disciplinary if they didn't buck there ideas up & have more respect for shared space....& they weren't messing up the others personal work space either

So YADNBU & you need to speak out

You have regained the upper hand. Keep it!

Wahey! Well done. These steps will be very effective, too, I bet.

ROFL at 'Look what I got you? a bin' and 'Oh yeah, might be best'! Go Pancake!

Well done you. And another notch to Team Mumsnet!

What a vile man, it must be deliberate, does he behave like that at home? I think assertiveness is the way forward and continual reminders, just as one does with 5 year olds about their bedrooms

ooh, well done pancake

Yeaaaaaaa Pancake!

Yaaay! Well done you.

Good for you. Firm but fair and still polite.

I'm amazed. In those situation I hold it in, hold it in, hold it in . . . until I explode like a crazy woman, turing bright pink and screaching/ breaking things and generally going mental!

Repeat after me, 'can you please keep YOUR shit on YOUR side of the desk ?

Thank you

That or start charging him rent [bwink]

Monkeyflippers - I knew I had to report back on here. The prospect of being lynched here for being a whoopsie wasn't an option I fancied. I was looking at him thinking "I cannot tell them I just smiled and said ok that's fine."

Well today he moved my in-tray ( by approx 3 cm - I didn't measure) and put his elbows on my desk. I was in a vile mood anyway cos' of some other muppet so I daren't open my mouth or I'd be a screaming banshee.

But next week I shall be polite but firm. Honest. But the bin got the banana skins and the empty yoghurt pots and the crisps.

I really believe he's clueless about personal space.

What happens when you move your things onto his desk to give you more space and more legroom?

maybe it will help him realise how annoying it is!

Bloodly brilliant. I am RUBBISH at being assertive about that sort of thing. Can hold my own like a high court judge on some things though.

Jolly well done you. I think its a good idea to post on here if you have a thing to do. You have to bite the bullet or the whole of MNs thinks you are wet.

Hee hee.

Yeah!

YADNBU

Clueless, my arse - who puts their sweetie wrappers in someone else's in-tray?

Yay for you, just read this thread and am a bit miffed that Goodynuff's idea of spraying him with a water bottle each time he did something wrong isn't going to get implemented.

Glad to see you grew a pair with the help of MN!

Hurrah, good for you.

What is his Twitter name? Can we spy on him and perhaps send him virtual bananas?

He's soooo not clueless

Probably has small dick syndrome as this is one of the ways he tries to assert his manhood

He is a prick so put him in his place!