To hope that mumsnet would offer the same support

[SpikesPet]

to other, less well known or "popular" members, if they were experiencing a similar sort of crisis and asked for help?

Mumsnet is a community and like any other community, we help each other out

Wether it's a huge 1500 message thread, which includes writing to the PM and a twitter campaign
Or a 7 message thread where someone offers to try and find something for someone...we help each other

I'm not well known, yet I've had a user send me a book that I said I loved because she didn't want it and wouldn't take any money, even for postage....I had a thread up looking for a toy truck with a name on, a ton of users said they knew where they could get me one and do I want them to? A user then posted me the truck and wouldn't take a penny for it

I've helped users a couple of times, were they well known? No idea, they weren't to me but then usernames go over my head!

I hope that the user on Rivens thread called Mabel has her post picked up also, but it may not be, not for any reason other then it will be lost in a huge pile of messages

Yes, ok there are users who will post on threads of those they know well, but the huge majority will not

Pretty much all MNers have a heart of gold and will help where they can

thats what makes MN, MN!

Duchesse, "I wonder if MNHQ have picked up on her post". What do you think MNHQ (or any other MNer) can do?

As I see it, Riven's personal situation can hopefully be improved by ensuring the SS/other authorities re-review her case in the light of this storm of publicity - which has been intensified I'm sure by the previous DC connection.

Like all of us, I'm sure, I truly hope additional respite will be forthcoming for Riven's family as a direct result of this publicity campaign. It's pretty clear that it comes with a cost however in the form of loss of privacy for both Riven and (clearly of more importance for her) her daughter.

Riven herself has stated on the other threads that she is equally concerned with ensuring that the position of every carer is publicised and funding is improved/ringfenced. MNHQ and the rest of us can certainly help support this wider campaign. I don't however, see that they/we can possibly help each and every carer on an individual basis. Except of course, by supporting and advising them either on this thread or on their own thread.

I hope this doesn't sound heartless or in any way attacking your comment above. I would just hate for the fact that other MN carers not receiving the same storm of publicity and 1000s of personal support posts in anyway takes away either from the overall campaign or from the heartfelt suppor that one of our own is receiving here.

Can we not just celebrate the fact that Riven may get the help she needs?, let's not spoil the spirit of community on here by having some sort of silly backlash.

I'm talking about the Independent request for more families in riven's situation. This story is bringing in many people who are fnot familiar with MN and who may not know their way around the site yet and where to find campaign links.

duchesse maybe if anyone sees any others who we fell could benefit from MNHQ attnetion we could use the report button?

Well, I am 'unknown' and I posted in the parenting forum after a very trying couple of toddler days, and people have been amazingly supportive.

Thanks Duchesse. Hadn't seen that request so thanks for clarifying what you meant . Reporting posts sounds a good approach.

Sadly I suspect it will be all too easy to find similar cases. I caught some of the R5 phone in today for instance.

YANBU, you're not unreasonable to hope unknowns get support. By and large they do, maybe on not such a massive scale. And this particular issue has expanded, its not just about one person any more- eg [[http://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/_chat/1128051-Please-help-make-this-story-a-national-one here]

The BraveBabes Battlebus threads are immensely supportive. I'm fairly new on it and have had incredible support, verbally via the threads and in material ways too.
MNetters are wonderful!

GrimmaTheNome Thank you, my op was not meant to be bitchy or mean spirited in any way. I think it's great that mumsnet can rally round in this way and all I was saying is that I hope anyone else who needs help can get it too. I also hope they feel they can ask for help instead of suffering in silence.

I'm not a prolific poster, I prefer to read more than post and I have recently namechanged because I feel I was close to being outed in rl.

I think a lot of you read the tone of my post completely wrong and I'm sorry if I offended anyone but that was never my intention.

Fair enough. At the moment, with attention so high, there will be unpleasant posts on here attacking her. People are vigilant.

What a nasty nasty OP.
The simple answer is 'Yes, of course it would'.
Mn is fantastic support. Has supported me a number of times over the years. More support that I could ever thank those posters for.
Why are you asking such a thing OP ?

I shall tell you why shall i, about 4 years ago, under a different screen name, i was on the brink of a nervous breakdown, i had done nothing really for other mums on here, but with the kind support and some straight talking from alot of mums i managed to get the medical help i needed, and i survived. I say survived because i was in a bad way and i often wonder what would have happened if i hadn't had this forum to sound off on. Anyway, despite her own troubles, which quite frankly made mine pale into self pitying insignificance Riven was one of the names who i remembered from all those years back who supprorted me and quite possibly made the difference between me giving up or not. THAT is why, when mumsnet saw how she was struggling it rallied. But then hang on, they didn't know me but i got loads of support on here. If anyone deserved help it is Riven, and she never asked for it, i hope she is doing ok, ive stopped posting on threads as i think she is overwhelmed by it all.

And anyway, it all kicked off because sadly, riven isnt the only parent/carer at breaking point and people were making a stand, OP - get over yourself luv x

brightlight, that is a lovely post! I am so glad you got the support you needed. I have only been here a couple of years, but this "nest of vipers" thing is entirely unfounded in my experience.

It absolutley would.
I received amazing support and advice on a thread I started here and I was'nt then and am not now 'well known'

nasty post OP

MN can't help everyone (it's not a magic wand) but everyone can find some help from the "HORRIBLE MUMS FROM MUMSNET" if needed like, brightlight did.

SpikesPet - your OP did come over a little bitter, but you have said that was not your intention and that's fine.

I have read lots of post and seen the news and really think that there is no point in making more threads on MN about this, as there is a point when it no longer helps. There are other poster who need help on many issues.

So instead of rubber necking, why doesn't everyone on MN do a simply good turn and post some constructive advice for someone in need, or go to bed.