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AIBU?

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To buy pink things for DS2?

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ttalloo · 19/01/2011 18:11

DS2's favourite colour is pink - it's the first colour that he recognised and now at the age of 2yrs 3mos, he loves to have pink things.

So recently I've bought him a pink tractor (v.hard to find), pink cutlery, pink crockery and a pink sponge. DH is finding this really irritating and thinks that I'm going to confuse him into thinking he's a girl, because pink is a girl's colour. And make him (DS2) look silly.

I think pink's just a colour, and if DS2 likes it, and wants pink things, then I should just let him have fun with them. I wouldn't buy him pink clothes as they are so obviously girly, but if I could find a boy's stripey jumper with a pink stripe or two I wouldn't have a problem with it. And it stops arguments with DS1, who strongly believes that pink is for girls, and only wants blue things.

AIBU?

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SecretNutellaFix · 19/01/2011 18:13

no. it's just a colour.

You have just proven it's the adults who have problems with the colour, not small children.

going · 19/01/2011 18:14

Next often had boys clothes with pink in.

GrimmaTheNome · 19/01/2011 18:14

YANBU

Actually, YABU, no reason not to get clothes if he likes them;
Next has pink clothes in the 'boys' section. M&S sometimes does too.

WingDad · 19/01/2011 18:15

If he wants pink, then let him have pink. It's as simple as that.

Pink's actually quite modern these days, I have numerous pink shirts which are awesommmme.

Agree with SecretNutella about the adults creating the issues.

pooter · 19/01/2011 18:16

My DS is almost 4 and pink is his favourite colour too. Father Christmas brought him a pink bike with cinderella stickers all over it this year, and he has a lovely pink cardie too. I have told him that if anyone ever says anything nasty to him about it, to tell them that pink is just a colour and in the olden days pink used to be a boys colour.

It does confuse old folk who try to talk to him on his bike (with black coat and darth vader hat) but i think he should be allowed to have his own preferences.

research the pink for boys thing and get your DS1 to read about it.

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ttalloo · 19/01/2011 18:17

Thanks for the tips about shopping in Next & M&S for boys' clothes with pink in them - will definitely search some out. DS2 would love, love them.

AIBU to think that only a 'real' man (whatever that is!) can carry off pink shirts?!

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cocoachannel · 19/01/2011 18:17

Tell your DH that it's a case if being 'man enough to embrace pink'! A tailor told an exboyfriend of mine that when he was having a suit fitted and tried to turn his nose up at a pink shirt.

MoonGirl1981 · 19/01/2011 18:18

My son went through a pink phase at around 2.

Is a nice bright cheerful colour.

Don't see the problem if it's what he likes.

WingDad · 19/01/2011 18:18

Are you saying I'm not a real man ttalloo? How astonishingly rude. I have hairy arms don't you know!

cocoachannel · 19/01/2011 18:21

LOVE the image of Pooter's son on his pink bike with his Darth Vader hat on!

BeenBeta · 19/01/2011 18:23

Pink is lovely on boys and men.

Sadly my boys will not wear it because its for guuuurls!

jonicomelately · 19/01/2011 18:27

I don't see the problem with boys wearing pink. However, this may be a good compromise.
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Honeybee79 · 19/01/2011 18:27

Agree with SecretNutella.

If he wants pink then so be it. I also really like a bit of pink on boys and blokes. By DH looks pretty good in it.

Honeybee79 · 19/01/2011 18:28

Sorry, my DH!

essexgirl31 · 19/01/2011 18:34

My 3 year old DS is going through a pink phase.

I ordered a pencil case for him the other day. It is in pink with his name on it. The company called to check his name. They also checked whether I actually wanted a pink pencil case for a boy!

Ephiny · 19/01/2011 18:35

I agree with you, it's just a colour and I really don't think it'll make him think he's a girl . Also don't think it'll make him look silly - but even if it did, if you can't be silly when you're 2 years old, then when can you??

narkypuffin · 19/01/2011 18:42

My DH has several pink shirts- actually pink Pink shirts IYSWIM- and has yet to borrow my underwear or watch Grey's Anatomy. Tell your DH to chill and be logical about it.

saffy85 · 19/01/2011 18:54

YANBU what's the big deal?

I'm sure I heard somewhere that in the old days boys wore pink and girls wore pale blue. Pink was considered a "strong colour" so wasted on the fairer sex.

camdancer · 19/01/2011 19:01

My DS (3) told me "Girls think boys don't like pink. That's not true. I like pink." So there!

skydance · 19/01/2011 19:14

Pink was my eldest son's favourite colour up until about 5. Nothing wrong with it all, it's just a nice bright colour, why can't boys have bright colors and glitter etc

He too had everything in pink, cups, toys, plates etc, he had fairy wings and pom poms too, in pink of course. He asked for the HSM girls cheerleader costume for christmas one year. He is very much a boy in other ways though, he loves play fighting, swords, toilet humour etc.

I was careful though as he reached school age, I tended to keep the pink for in the house and I had a little chat with him about perhaps keeping pink as his secret favourite colour as some boys might not understand, he choose red as his favourite colour if anyone asked at school (although his best friend knew the truth!) I hated having the chat though, as I had no problem at all with him liking pink and was perfectly happy to take him out and about with his pink cup, fairy wings etc. but I do think school can be hard enough without making them a bully target.

So you may want to have a think about him starting school soon and what might be the best plan for then, although of course you may decide to just let him go with it and ride out any nasty remarks from other children.

Vajazzler · 19/01/2011 19:50

My ds2's favourite colour is pink. Last yr he had a tshirt from next that said 'tough enough to wear pink' on it. For xmas just gone all 3 of my boys (8,4,16m) had pink jumpers to wear xmas day. Its just a colour.

Firawla · 19/01/2011 20:19

yanbu there's nothing wrong if he likes it, and plenty of clothes these days in pink that are made for boys. its not like you're dressing in pink frilly dress against his will because you secretly wanted a girl or anything ott like that!
i would just keep it casual, if he wants some pink things then no big deal. obviously he does not need to make every single item pink, or it becomes an obsession but pink in moderation is fine like anything else

MsSparkle · 19/01/2011 20:33

My ds went into nursery yesterday with his sisters pink tea pot. He loves it and I love that he loves things that people class as girls stuff.

He carrys round a giant peppa pig, which is of course! My friend asked why I don't give him george? Boys have george apparently and girls have peppa

Asteria · 19/01/2011 20:37

YANBU - my DS is 8 and still loves pink - he had free reign in Zara last year and most of the items he chose had a stripe at the very least! He is a very burly looking chap (father was 6ft6 and DS is just shy of 5ft already!)though - so I doubt any of his friends would dare mention it! He also LOVES dressing up - I don't really mind, although I draw the line at my smart dresses and he is not allowed to play rugby in a dress (yet!). His friends are very game and I have a photo of the "Four Musketeers" (the name his teacher gave them) jumping on the trampoline in flamenco dresses....

Mists · 19/01/2011 20:37

YANBU. My DS loved pink a little while ago, probably because he is three and his sister is ten. Older siblings are cool so he wanted what she had.

I even went so far as to buy him his own pink pyjamas. He looked ace in them

He has stolen plays with her ELC fairy and unicorn figurines too.

That "Tough Enough to Wear Pink" shirt sounds great. Off to Google...

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