To think serving babies cold milk is 'orrible?

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My friend is due to drop any day now and is adamant she will only the baby its milk either straight out the fridge or room temp. Am I the only one to (be very snobby) and think horrid! Poor little mewing newborn getting this cold rubbery thing shoved in its gob! Why cant she just warm it a little?

I cant help it, I think giving a baby cold milk because you 'dont want to spoil it' is lazy and shit!

i have always given both of mine room temp milk as it DOES make it easier if you are out and about - rather than trying to hold a crying baby and a bowl of boiling water to heat it up - that was just too tricky for me? I didnt think you could feed little babies cows milk and I thought if you did formula you had to make it up as and when you need it with cooled boiled water so maybe Im being thick but why was it in the fridge in any case.

My mother will merrily tell anyone who asks about the distance that I could fire a bottle across the room if she even held it over the gas (olden days) for a nanosecond to take the chill off it. From day one I would only drink milk ice cold, and I mean ice cold. She said my lips would be blue drinking it. To this day I can't bear room temp or warm milk.

Mine had body temperature milk as I BF.

But when bigger I made sure they were happy with drinks at any temperature - you can't always heat bottles if you're out and about.

My DD will not eat or drink anything warm. Room temperature, cool, or not at all (this includes things like scrambled eggs which are vile cold, I would have thought). Frankly I'm surprised she didn't reject bfing.

So from utterly and entirely subjective POV, YABU.

kenobi
But you discovered that about your DD first hand. The OP is on about someone who hasn't yet had their baby, who thinks that giving room temperature milk is spoiling a newborn. Completely different, IMO

Your friend needs to read the guidelines on making up formula. Typically this results in fairly warm milk unless you premake and give fridge cold or use ready made cartons.

I don't think it matters hugely what you intend - it's more about what baby will accept.

She doesn't want to SPOIL the baby? Jeez, if warming the milk a little is "spoiling", I'd hate to hear her definition of cruelty.

DISCLAIMER: I'm not saying not warming milk is cruel, just that this woman sounds a bit mean.

I would of thought cold from the fridge would be too cold and a little unkind on their stomachs. Oh and brain freeze on a newborn can't be a soothing thing for them.

I can't preach tho as ds liked his bottles hot from about 2 months old. If they were room temperature or just warm he wouldn't drink them so I had to leave them to get to hot chocolate heat. It never hurt him but he did used to sweat when drinking the bottle.

I can understand room temp but straight out of the fridge seems really harsh - has she drunk milk straight out of the fridge recently? It's really cold and not very comforting IMO.

YANBU though calling it lazy and sh*t seems a bit OTT

I thought the guidelines say that milk should not be made in advance and stored in the fridge, it should be made fresh with hot water at every feed.

Yes but memoo some don't find that advice very realistic - hungry baby, crying, waiting for kettle to boil and then boiling water to cool...er......

YANBU imo, although i did get a flaming a few months ago for saying something very similar!

I suppose now that I'm thinking about it - which I never have before - I'd assume warm milk was nicer for babies because breast milk is body temp. It wouldn't have entered my head to ever give a newborn milk straight from the fridge for that reason, although if they developed a preference themselves later, then so be it.

EricNorthmansMistress - yes, true. But I did say I was being utterly subjective. PS I like your name. Eric Northman in series 3 ep 1 - yum...

I do laugh when I hear people saying how they are going to bring their baby up before they have one (I was just as bad).
I bet OP's friend ends up being as PFB as the rest of us and heating it the exact temp suggested by WHO or what-have-you!

DS always had his bottles at room temperature, he wasn't keen on them warm no problems at room temp. Did make things much easier!

Now he is on cows milk he still doesn't like it warm, just at room temp or microwave enough to take the edge off.

yanbu, my sil used to do this(a long time ago as her ds is 20 now) and then wonder why it all came up again

Safest method is boil kettle, cool to 70, add formula powder, rapid cool to drinkable temp.

Alternatively boil kettle, cool to 70, measure out half the amount of water required, add formula, top up the remaining amount of water with cooled and boiled to cool to drinkable temp.

If preparing in advance then prep the whole feed as for fresh and put at back of fridge to store under 5C. Warm, or not, as desired.

The important thing is to add the powder to hot water.

Do not keep boiled water in the fridge/at room temp then add powder.

Do not make a feed and let it cool gradually then fridge it.

Do not fridge a half finished feed.

I know the last 2 might seem common sense but just because adding formula to hot water brings the risk of contamination from the non-sterile powder down to acceptable levels it doesn't produce sterile milk and bacteria can still develop if given the right conditions.

Its a wonder that millions of babies survived in previous generations..

DD hated and still hates even vaguely warm milk, she has always spat it back unless ice cold.

Nothing wrong with room temp milk. Giving a newborn a bottle straight from the fridge is lazy just leave it in a bowl of hot water or under the hot tap for a few min just to take the chill out of it... If in a few months baby loves cold milk that's a different story but for a newborn straight from the fridge as someone already said couldn't be very comforting. I bf my dc's but when ds2 was in nicu they would only let me have him out for 20min every 3hours to feed which wasn't really enough so I would express and feed him inside the incubator with the ebm but everyone doing the same always warmed the bottles... Sayin she won't spoil her newborn with warm milk is very strange imo...

Someone once said to me that cold milk straight from the fridge is bad for a newborn's belly(but room temp okay)? Is that true? I have no idea!

I always gave mine formula milk at room temperature, but when they switched to cows milk at 12 months I would give them it cold from the fridge. They still like it like that now (5yo and 3yo). But then dh and I both drink cold milk too and like it.