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To hate work

45 replies

domeafavour · 18/01/2011 12:13

hate getting up, hate having to rush DS out to nursery
commute is ok, good chance to read something or make a list
hate the job, have no guidance, and no support and no structure, and feel completely useless and unproductive, even though I am doing what I can.
Hate the fact that I have a million things at home that need doing, and I can't get to them
Hate the fact that I am so tired, constantly.

Hate the fact that my son is in nursery all day, and I am not enjoying the time I am away from him. Even though he is doing really really well and loves it
And the people here have zero social skills, and there is no chat, no interaction. No-one talks

I need to find another job, need to update my CV.
Need to find some extra hours in the day.

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belledechocchipcookie · 18/01/2011 12:15

I hated every job that I had. I now work at home and am so much happier! Wink

meantosay · 18/01/2011 12:17

I enjoy my job but I hate, hate, hate the commute.

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domeafavour · 18/01/2011 13:04

maybe I just need to find something I could do from home!

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Honeybee79 · 18/01/2011 13:25

I feel your pain! Really dislike my job. On maternity leave at the moment and wondering if there is any chance at all of me being able to not work for a bit. Don't think DH's salary is sufficient though. Bag of shite!

ILovedYou · 18/01/2011 13:25

YABU - NOT!

PatFig · 18/01/2011 13:26

I love work.I could sit and watch people doing it all day

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domeafavour · 18/01/2011 13:41

I can't go on like this.
It's making me so miserable.
I just want to cry all the time

I don't even care about leaving, don't care about the money. It would just look really bad on my CV if I just left. It's my first job back since DS.
It's only a 6 month contract, I have to stick it out for another 3 months, that's all.
But I hate it so much

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fannyfoghorn · 18/01/2011 13:44

I have always hated work.
My Ex used to say, 'Of course it's crap. if it was fun they wouldn't have to pay you to do it.'
I left my job after having DS1. It was a particularly horrible job. I do not regret it. Life is short.

DizzyKipper · 18/01/2011 13:53

I think many of us are in the same situation, it's not pleasant is it! The job I'm in currently I used to fantasise about getting hit by a car whilst I was on the way to work - seem to have become jaded enough by the job now to no longer do this.

I know 3 months sounds like forever but stick with it, leaving a 6 month contract after only 3 months will make your CV look bad and will harm your future job prospects (and with all the people being made redundant and becoming your competition in the job market you don't need to give employers reasons to passover you).

Maybe we could start a support thread for fellow job hunters - it's easy to get down about it all, and when you are it's even harder to find the motivation to try.

sotiredandfedup · 18/01/2011 14:12

I completely feel your pain - I am in the exact same situation. I hate my job, hate the rush of school drop offs and pick ups, hate the commute, hate the work and the people, hate that I've got a zillion things at home to be done and most of all, I hate that I have no choice in the matter as I need to work to pay my mortgage. You are not alone. Big hugs x

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domeafavour · 18/01/2011 14:13

some people do enjoy their jobs, I know they do!!

I used to think I hated my old one, but that seems like a dream now. I knew what I was doing, I was really productive, I was the product expert. Everybody respected my opinion. I just had to deal with wanky dealer type people.

It took me 6 months to get back in to the market, and I'm now in a slightly different area, and the job is nothing like what I thought it would be.
Dizzy, don't quite wish to be knocked down by a bus, but I do know what you mean!!

I have had a couple of phone calls in the last week about jobs, I just need to get my CV updated.
Will try and do that tonight, and then get them sent out, back on the market

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domeafavour · 18/01/2011 14:16

sotired, do you work fulltime?
I think if I could do 4 days, that would help get things done at home.
Some people here work from home, but as I am contracting I don't think it's an option

I could also probably ask if there is anything more suitable, they seem to be hiring a lot, but I don't want to piss anyone off!

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nowanewme · 18/01/2011 14:18

Me too. Hate it hate it with a passion! Not enough hours in the day to be a good wife, good mum, good worker and have something left over. Job is sucking the life out of me!!!

nowanewme · 18/01/2011 14:20

I dream about breaking an ankle (fate~ i dont really want to do it i am not good with pain) but it would mean i couldnt do my job for a bit. Gah thats bad isnt it

Honeybee79 · 18/01/2011 14:49

Try to stick it for 3 months if poss. I find it helps to have something nice to really look forward to at the weekends, it kind of pulls me through the week - friend coming over for lunch etc etc.

I really sympathise with you though. I remember this cloud of gloom settling on me every sunday night at the prospect of another week. Needless to say, I'm dreading going back. I used to wake up for work in the morning and be unable to think of anything to look forward to during the working day other than the choc croissant I would buy from Pret on the way into the office Wink.

You aren't alone!

kepler10b · 18/01/2011 14:52

don't you worry that your kids will have to endure the same misery when they grow up? i mean, unless some incredible stroke of luck occurs (like winning the lottery or marrying very rich), how is the same future for them to be avoided?

Honeybee79 · 18/01/2011 14:57

Kepler - I just hope that my kids end up with something that they enjoy doing. My DH genuinely really likes his job - there is hope!

BettyCash · 18/01/2011 15:01

Stick it out - the jobs market is rubbish at the moment and you need your CV to be at its best x

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domeafavour · 18/01/2011 15:15

Yeah, I just want DS to enjoy what he does. But don't want him to have a free ride

I have no problem with working for a living, although a lottery win wouldn't go amiss! but I would like to do less hours.
I only ask that I don't hate it!! It seems like such a waste of time!
I am going to stick it out. I don't have much choice.I am also separating from H, and as I never want to go back to being reliant upon him, I need to get some funds behind me.

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Honeybee79 · 18/01/2011 15:19

I also only ask that I don't hate it. Not a huge ask!

Head down and get through it if you can methinks.

BelleDameSansMerci · 18/01/2011 15:20

fannyfoghorn you, or rather your old boss, have just made me see work in a completely different way!

It is shite. I remember, one day, when I was about 30, walking from the station to the office and realising that I would be going to work every day for the rest of my life (more or less). It was fucking depressing.

I actually don't mind my job (sometimes I love it) but I'd really rather get the money and not have to work. My dream job is to be a receptionist (just a few hours a day, answering the phone, doing a bit of typing, greeting people) but get paid as much as I do now. Grin

All the cash, none of the responsibility. I can dream.

domeafavour I'm sorry about your split. It is hard being a single mother and working full time when they're very young (my DD is 3) but I'm reliably informed that it gets easier as they get older. Let's both hope it's true. Smile

BigHairyLeggedSpider · 18/01/2011 15:27

Hate it too. Work an hour and a half commute away, have to get up at half five every day. Had to get a job quickly when I relocated here to be with DP and we can't afford for me to give up work. Have spent the last two years looking for something else. Want to work from home doing my own stuff but I'm so tired and fed up at the end of the day that I just crawl into bed.

It's shite.

Emo76 · 18/01/2011 15:32

is there any way you can find ANY enjoyment or satisfaction in your work? challenging yourself to get it done quickly, or looking in to new things, inventing challenges for yourself etc? chatting to one of those boring colleagues you haven't got to know yet on a coffee break (if you get one) - they might not be so dull? anything to make it better? anything to make the time go quicker?

nobody is superwoman so don't be so hard on yourself, you've done well to stick it out so far!

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domeafavour · 18/01/2011 15:46

What type of stuff would you do from home? BHLSPider?
Looking for inspiration!!

All conversation with colleagues is really stilted, it's really strange. It feels really awkward. It's IT within banking, and I don't really know what they do, but they assume I know. They don't have time to teach me, and I 'm not supposed to be IT, I think I am sat in the wrong place.
Every time I think I can't do it anymore, I will have a positive meeting, I have been waiting for it to get better, but after 3 months it hasn't improved that much.
Also have new boss (kind of) who has just been given a bit of authority and it has gone right to his head!!

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meantosay · 18/01/2011 15:49

3 months will fly.

I have had some jobs that made me feel absolutely miserable and even the weekends would be ruined because by Sat afternoon I'd be thinking 'oh no, it's nearly Sunday and then it's nearly time to go back to work'. I had one job where I would use up some of my annual leave to take Wednesdays off because then I never had to face the place (and my mentally unstable manager) for more than two days in a row. But they're all in the past now and I'm enjoying my current job. Your horrible job will soon be just a distant memory.