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Bus manners

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Mrswhiskerson · 18/01/2011 08:42

Why is it when a person sits next a person on quite a full bus do they jump up at the first opportunity to sit in a empty seat ,I notice it happen quite a lot and thinks it looks like the other person smells so bad they can't bear to. Sit next to them ( it happens to me and I know I don't smell) also at my bus stop there is a group of very chatty friendly women who when the bus comes all sit in different seats am I the only one who thinks this is weird ?

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WimpleOfTheBallet · 18/01/2011 08:46

I do that....I don't like being crammed up against strangers. Manners be dammned it's to do with personal boundries.

I cannot abide being touched by strangers and it is hard not to on a bus seat...especially if the other person is big.

I like space and also bus time is thinking time..I don't get much time alone and don't like mindles chit-chat.

nickschick · 18/01/2011 08:48

When I catch the bus with ds1 he never sits next to me- he will sit in front or behind and talk to me the whole journey or if someone else sits next to me he then texts me ???

Weird isnt it?

Louii · 18/01/2011 08:50

A lot of regular commuters have "their own" seat on the bus and do not like to sit anywhere else.

notquitenormal · 18/01/2011 08:58

I'm always freaked out by people who don't move to an empty seat when one becomes available. Why are they still sitting next to me? What to they want from me? Who wants to be squashed up to a stranger?

That does come from many, many years of being someone that attracts nutters on buses.

jasper · 18/01/2011 09:00

OP, I agree with you

Oldposternamechanger · 18/01/2011 09:03

YANBU, I find it odd too - as usually someone will then go and sit next to them in the seat they have just moved to!

What IS bad manners is when someone sits on the outside of 2 seats and you have to ask them to move over onto vacant seat so you can sit down - or them taking up a seat with their bag so people can't sit! That drives me potty, especially when the bus is packed and they can clearly see people NEED to sit.

valleyqueen · 18/01/2011 09:05

If iam on thr outside seat then I will move if a window one becomes available. This is mainly due to once having a man rest his genitalia against my face on a packed bus in central London while I was sitting and he was standing I don't think he did it on purpose (or maybe I am kidding myself) I felt yuk all day :)

woollyideas · 18/01/2011 09:05

But after you move over to an empty seat someone might come and sit next to you there at the next stop, so you haven't achieved anything...

YeButerfleogeEffete · 18/01/2011 09:08

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WimpleOfTheBallet · 18/01/2011 09:28

Mght schmite woolly...I am willing to take the risk...such is my aversion to strangers being right next to me.

Someone might sit next to me there...and they might not.

LindyHemming · 18/01/2011 09:39

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pozzled · 18/01/2011 09:43

Agree with notquitenormal Why would you want to stay sitting next to a complete stranger when there's plenty of other seats available?

And it's still worth moving even if someone sits next to you straight afterwards. If you move you get the window seat and won't be squidged on the edge having to move your legs out of the way every time someone walks down the aisle.

Woodlands · 18/01/2011 09:50

euphemia i hate that, it used to happen when i caught the bus into central london for work every day. a colleague and someone i was at uni with both used to take the same bus, but you don't want to chat for that length of time in the morning. luckily they both felt thesame way so we tended to say good morning then get out our books...

there was a really annoying woman who used to brush her hair on the bus every day. it used to make me to see the hairs drifting down the bus. then she would do all her make up. i hate that.

LindyHemming · 18/01/2011 10:15

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mutznutz · 18/01/2011 10:17

I always move when I can. The seats aren't wide enough and I don't particularly like strangers being pressed up against me....especially if they suffer from arse spread and take up half my seat

mayorquimby · 18/01/2011 10:45

I hate other people on public transport.
Like actually hate them.
I'd do almost anything not to have to sit next to a stranger I don't want to sit next to, on a cramped bus I don't want to be on,most likely going to a place I don't want to be. In the end I just sit there silently hating myself and letting the bitterness wash over me until a good song by The Strokes comes on my i-pod.

swanandduck · 18/01/2011 10:48

I much prefer the inside seat. I know I won't have to disturb myself and gather bags etc to stand up and let someone out. It is also more comfortable as you are not nearly pitched onto the floor everytime the bus turns a sharp corner.

It really annoys me if someone sits beside me and then loads of people get off and there's lots of completely empty seats but they still stay squashed up beside me. GET UP AND MOVE!!

ImeldaSnowboots · 18/01/2011 10:53

Think if you use public transport regularly its common practice and nothing to do with manners, you are also giving the person you sat beside more space. Yes, someone else might get on and sit beside you, but they might not.

I also hate the people on the outside seat with their bag beside them, that is rude.

And people wearing headphones but you can hear the tinny music, are they just really cheap ones ?

swanandduck · 18/01/2011 11:03

I hate when the bus is full and some toddler is taking up a seat because his mother or father won't sit them on their lap.

YeButerfleogeEffete · 18/01/2011 11:08

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swanandduck · 18/01/2011 11:16

I meant in general YeButer. I see this so often that I very much doubt all of the parents have a disability.

nickschick · 18/01/2011 11:19

Swan and duck .....I travel by bus often and often have to pay full fare for ds2 as he loses his under 16 pass,a typical journey of just over 1 mile costs ...

£2.10 for me
£2.10 for ds2 if hes lost his pass
80p for ds3
Ds1 has a weekly pass that I pay £13.50 for.

The fares are single journeys and although ds2 will stand and offer his place to anyone I do resent it a bit having paid a lot of money for the seat.
Having said that a lot of the time theres literally no room to even stand and I know ds1 quite often walks to avoid cramped busses.

What irks me is mums with pushchairs taking up disabled spots - weve all been there with a sleeping baby we are a reluctant to disturb but they sit there with wide awake children in buggies in the limited disabled spots,in my day you collapsed the buggy or walked.

Louii · 18/01/2011 12:07

If I have buggy in disabled bay I am obviously trumped if a wheelchair user gets on so would move.
When u have been shopping and have all your bags on buggy and stuff underneath it is not always easy to fold it.

Woodlands · 18/01/2011 13:21

my push chair doesn't collapse. if a wheelchair user wants to get on then of course i get straight off the bus with a smile.

nickschick · 18/01/2011 15:14

Hey I wasnt't having a go at any individual pram pusher- I wish I could have got on a bus with my pram.

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