to want people to realise that theres more to me than my IQ?

[sickoftheholidays]

going to try not to come accross as arrogant here, but I have a high IQ. Great you might think, but I am so heartily sick of everyone assuming that because I am (apparently) very intelligent, that to have any job which doesnt really need a high IQ is a waste of my talents?
I mean I have lots of talents, I can dance, I can sing, I am a great mum, hell I'd even go so far as to say I'm attractive (on a good day with make up on)
why cant people see that although I have this gift, that to use my other gifts instead isnt actually a waste?

How would they know what your IQ is unless you are telling them?

How can they tell you've got a high IQ? Is it that obvious?
It just means you're good at IQ tests.

See this? >>>>>>>>

I'm playing the worlds smallest violin .

Sheesh

BluddyMoFo

Do you go round telling everyone about your high IQ then? or are they psychic..

A high IQ is often a sign of a lack of common sense too

I have never told anyone my IQ. Never.
charlies mommy - yes it certainly is in my case, hence posting in aibu I think.
Just had a really sh*t day, been harangued for an hour by my mother about the job that I do being a waste of my talent, then my boss starts harping on about it, last week it was the bloody vicar.
I have no idea why its seems to be so obvious, but clearly it is. I am as common as muck, have no common sense and dont use long words if I can avoid it.

Lady - it must be a burden!

They are trying to pay you a compliment, I think. What job do you do?

I find that surprising. My experience has been the opposite. IQ tested at school, and it was high. ( I've met someone who claimed to have an IQ of 200, and hers was higher than mind.)

But I find I struggle to get taken seriously, and most of my life, especially since having dc, I get patronised. No-one, ever, assumes I'm capable of anything other than looking after children.

I score higher in tests when they're marked blind, than if people know me, iyswim. And that has quadrupled since the children arrived.

In fact, the only time my IQ is mentioned as being high is when I've been by told by family members (OK, parents,) that intelligent women damage their children, and I shouldn't have become a mother.

Maybe what your experiencing is the whole "everything in moderation" thing? I'd kill for supportive people who think I've more to give than cooking and housework.

My cousin is a member of Mensa. You'd never know she was a member of Mensa apart from the fact that she never fucking shuts up about being a member of Mensa.
It's a good job that I'm an olympic standard hurdler otherwise I'd probably feel a bit put out.

hehehe...you have a t-shirt dontcha ..

says..My IQ is bigger than my arse or maybe that's just me..

My IQ is alright, but my ability to stuff maltesers in my mouth is exceptional. Twenty three, ladies and gentlemen

Chickensflying - I make custom footmuffs and hoods for pushchairs and car seats (and loads of other stuff too) I always loved art and design at school, but was never allowed to do it properly - was packed off to medical school instead where I was thoroughly miserable and dropped out at the soonest possible opportunity.
Nutmeg - either way its shit isnt it?

Erm, your brain is too big, there, there, poor dear

My arse is bigger than my IQ - but I have a very very big arse.

dye your hair blonde?

i get that too 'but you could do so much better' ...yes i could. i might choose to. but there is a value in doing whatever i'm doing now well too....

i think sometimes people say that to make themselves feel better about what they're doing.

Are they cross you're not a doctor then? Parents can get quite funny about that.

It's your life, though.

Um ... I am resisting the urge to flame here, because it's not helpful.

Do people know you've got a high IQ because you do something very brainy, or because you tell them, or what?

I know a couple of people who are really outstandingly intelligent, and whose jobs mean that it is pretty obvious they're unusually intelligent. One of them constantly makes references to his intelligence and/or his job, and (like your OP), it seems to be more to do with him being nervous and self-conscious than to do with boasting, but it doesn't come across well.

The other simply doesn't discuss the aspects of her job that make her sound intelligent, and has developed a good line in deflection (eg., 'oh, no, it's not that sort of job at all' and 'no, what I'm really interested in is x').

Could you not do something similar? And turn the conversation to your singing or dancing?

(Of course - and here I break my no-flaming promise - it might be that your singing/dancing 'talents' are such that people don't like to draw attention to them, and they're trying to tell you something when they focus on your other strengths?)