To not want to be woken up every morning by showering husband?

[Nuyorica]

What do you think about the following?

My husband gets up at 5.45 every day as he commutes to London.

He showers in our only bathroom which is opposite our bedroom and next to our younger daughter's bedroom.

The shower makes a high pitched noise and wakes me up every morning and our youngest up about 2/3 of the time. Without this interruption we would all happily sleep until around 7.30.

Am I being unreasonable to suggest that he showers the night before? He thinks so......

YABU, I'm another one who can't function without a shower in the morning, especially if I was getting up at that time.

Fix the shower.

YABU - I would hate not having a shower in the morning, particularly if having to get up that early.

I was going to suggest he showers at work (some workplaces have showers in them - I'm not being weird) but, still. To wake up at that time, you need a shower.

Ok perhaps I AM being a little unreasonable.
However, I have a few points to make:

1. I work too, so he is not the sole provider, I can just get up a little later as he works further away than me.

2. He is very much a morning person and is very happy being out of the house by 6

3. I am not.

4. Those of you who get up at stupid o'clock with your partners are clearly either madly in love or just mad.

YABU. I get up an hour earlier than DP and have to turn the light on, walk around the bedroom getting dressed, etc. He is fine with it as he's a heavy sleeper, but I would be quite annoyed if he complained - I don't choose to get up an hour earlier than him, and I do try and let him sleep.

You need to get your shower looked at. Do you go to bed at the same time as him? If so, it shouldn't be any worse for you to be woken up at 5.45 than it is for him.

YABU - I'm always up earlier than my dh or dd, because I start work earlier and I couldn't manage without a shower every morning. Maybe it does wake my dh, but he's known since before we got married that I've also had to get up early for work (first doing shifts, now starting at 8am).

If he was doing it before he was having a fun day out then it would be a bit unreasonable of him, but he's going to work (to help pay mortgage, keep food on the table etc etc).

Get your shower fixed, maybe that will improve things.

I do think YABU, it's your only bathroom and he should be able to shower. Incidentally, I also said YABU to the girl who wanted to know if she WBU to want to use the hairdryer in the room with sleeping husband early in the morning. The difference there was that she could dry her hair in the living room or somewhere else etc. Your DH only has one shower location available to him.

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YABU - you can sort the shower out as lots of PP's have said!

I get woken up EVERY morning at the crack of dawn by my neighbours motorbike which he revs for about 10 mins before finally leaving - there is NOTHING I can do about that!!

I have this too. Dh commutes to London and is stomping about showering and whatnot at 5.30am.

Sometimes I wake up, mostly I sleep through it.

I feel sorry for him, but the one rule I do have is he has to do everything in the dark! (However, I have been woken up a few times when he trips or stumbles over a pile of clothes I've left on the floor )

yabu, it's the only bathroom

YANBU
we do not need to shower every morning

I can empathise but I would get the shower fixed as I'd hate to not have a shower in the mornings and so would DH.

DH gets up at 5am 3 days a week and as I'm invariably up with DD at some point overnight I quite often sleep in the bed in her room so I don't get disturbed again when he gets up. He can be a bit inconsiderate about not stomping around or turning on the overhead bedroom light FFS when he gets out of the shower and I'm in our bed which does annoy me!! Or like this morning when he set his alarm for 6 and then didn't get up until 6.40 grrr! I'm a light sleeper so can only attempt to go back to sleep when he has gone!!

When the shower wakes you, go down and make him some nreakfast. He has a long day ahead of him. If the kids wake too it will save the early morning dash before school.

*breakfast

sysmpathy. my dh is very noisy in the morning and it makes me v cross.

he has gone away on a course now. he left at 5am sunday morning and obviously woke up dd and i and put the radio on.

this morning we had to leave house at 8.30. i crept out of bed and got washed and dressed/make up/hair and got breakfast things out whilst dd slept peacefully. when i was ready for her i gently woke her up and we ate breakfast and got her dressed in a nice calm fashion and left on time. it was utter bliss. i love my dh for lots of reasons but i bloody hate him when he cant be quiet/understand why being quiet is important.

yanbu. tell him he has to just sink wash in the morning.