To think DH is a bit unreasonable?

[WimpleOfTheBallet]

He's unemployed...made redundant just before Christmas...fair enough he IS looking very hard. I work from home..he looks after our toddler in the aftenoons while I work. He's gone on some mad "detox" and earlier he said "Don't cook that chicken as I won't be able to eat meat for a few days"

Fair enough I said..maybe you could do something else while I work?

There is a fridge full of things and I said that DD2 likes baked potatoes. He just called me down for "dinner" and it was half a haked potato sitting alone on a side plate! Not even a leaf of lettuce to cheer it up!

He gave DD1 some butter with hers but as DD1 wont eat potatoes he simply never made anything for her! Shes 2...I woud have given her some potato with ham, cheese, salad..that's my tactic...not making her special meals and ignoring it if she leaves things...but to make NOTHING! What?

I left my half a spud where it was and came back to my comp. and he was all grumpy as I am apparently ungrateful!

I'm pee'd off! He wouldn't "let me" cook chicken and his replacement is half a potato for me and nothing for DD1!

He doesn't take any bodybuilding conncoctions! He takes herbal supplements..like echinachea and the like.

He's not some Sted Head!

He probably IS doing what you say Kitty...he is a bit needy.

I have talked to him and he has I think realied there is a "thing" going on which needs looking at.

From now on I will be telling him dily what their menu is.

I do wonder, from the further posts, if this is a way of controlling his situation. He cant control being made redundant, he cant control finding another job as that is in the hands of the people he applies to and he may feel that life is spiralling out of his grip.

As I am sure you know yourself, eating disorders can very often come from control issues, and he is simply projecting this onto everyone in the house perhaps without realising quite what he is doing.

I think the daily menu will really help in the short term while you look into getting him some help in the long term. :)

Wimple, I think your strategy of making sure the DCs are fed yourself and then talking to him to see what his problems are is the right one. Being made redundant is devastating (been there) so I suspect that Bogey is right and it's a (subconscious) way for him to take control of himself when he feels he has no control over anything. He needs support and help, not condemnation.

Best of luck.

That's right pointy...he's already having to suddenly be the stay at home Dad from working in a very physical industry...he's a new man but a very manly one...he's doing very well with te DC. Plays with them more than I did when it was me being main carer!