To hate living in Manchester (and North in general)

[ILikeMilk]

Moved here four years ago to be with DH, and I still cannot get used to it. We are in a nicest area of Manchester, and it is still feels very provincial and boring. I dream about living in London, but DH does not want to look for a new job. I feel like there is no point and don?t want to decorate the house, make friends, etc, I just fantasise about being in London every single day. There is not much to do here, no nice streets or galleries, not much to do on the weekends as a family. I went to London this weekend, it was so painful to come back. Does anybody else feel this way?

Yeah.... from what you've posted on here, I'm not sure that's your only problem!

Haven't you ever heard of the parable of the gatekeeper?

Not sure how it applies in my case GoesDown...

OP You're one of the silliest or richest people on MN

Do your DC go to private school? If not you're dead to me.

My trouble is I'm so sophisticated and cool. I can out trendy all you provincial types cos of my cool metro trendy spohisticatedness.

New York, London, Paris, Munich.........

I feel a song coming on.

Ahhhhh I have disappeared up my own arse

Derxa, I'd rather not mention DC schools. I get too much criticism as it is without going into DC education. And I prefer eccentric

Is 'eccentric' a posh, southern way of saying twat?

I think Munich is almost as bad as Manchester..

I would be practical for a coupleasant of years - with PhD and maybe for when you gest is going to start school agree to move and perhaps set a date. If dh is actually resisting London than a move perhaps consider trying out a few cities to find somewhere you both feel good about - you might enjoy Edinburgh or you could look at sea side places especially with dc it would be fantastic to grow up there as much as London- it must feel hard as you had an agreement and you feel he is going back on his word - so have a chat - work out of London is good - if so set a deadline which may help you as there is a plan for date - encompass your PhD and.getting all dc to school age and start of your post PhD career and then enjoy what you can from the nw while you are here - you have placesigned like anglesey and formby on your doorstep, snowdonia is close, lakes are close, peak district is close and buxton, there are lots of shows etc in Manchester so do try and enjoy it for a bit with your exit plan that may be easier. If London is the problem then spend weekends in places that appeal and see if anything floats both your boats?

I am from cheshire and love it here but London is ok in small doses - couldn't live there though - and it's lucky we don't all only want to live in one piece :)

Do you have irony in London?

My dd school is in Manchester, it's totally brilliant and people attend from all over the world.
They are very gifted and even though there are similar schools in the south, they come nowhere near in comparison.
Not many people know of it's existence.
The makers of one of the HP films went to great lengths to secure a deal to film a scene in their library, which happens to be the oldest library in the English speaking world.
I bet you didn't visit OP
There are museums art galleries for all types of taste, you just have to look.
The people are some of the warmest and friendliest you could hope to meet
It is cosmopolitan, but not on the scale of London which you can't really compare it to, it's my favourite place

Gilly, do you mean Chetham's? Does you DC enjoying it? We were actually considering Yehudi Menuhin for our eldest but I did not want to send them to a boarding school...

My children go to school in a cardboard box and they are GRATEFUL!

Mind you they are both off down t' pit when they get to 10.

Anothermoomin, do you have a gig at Frog and bucket? I'd pay to see it :)

Don't waste your life living somewhere that makes you miserable because you have a DH who is too lazy to get a new job. It's your life, live it, don't wait 30 years to be still in Manchester and full of regret.

Don't waste your life living somewhere that makes you miserable because you have a DH who is too lazy to get a new job. It's your life, live it, don't wait 30 years to be still in Manchester and full of regret.

Right so a story about finding people as you are wherever you go doesn't apply to you? Sure.

It's the Thames that runs through London, not the Nile!!

I find the Nile a tedious river.

What you want for glamour is a canal. Moonlight glinting on the shopping trolley in t' Ship Canal, nothing says sophistication like that.

I was brought up in Hale, and it's certainly not anything like London, but why would you expect it to be? It's a village at the very edge of the suburbs with fields on 2 sides and an airport on the other, why would you move there and expect it to be like London? If you wanted to be in a city then why would you move so far out into the suburbs that you're almost in open countryside - and then complain about it?

In real life SJP spends half her life in rural Donegal. She judged the best carrot at the local show a few years ago and wears a lot of wellies. So I imagine Manchester might be a bit hectic for her.

She could get polenta if she wanted though, in Letterkenny.

What about quinoa though?

Hey, OP - only boring people get bored

If you believe there are no galleries, nice streets or things to do for families then you quite simply haven't bothered to look. Also, it's all of 2 hours on the train to central London - easily doable even for the day if you miss it that much. Your post is extremely offensive; if you haven't settled in a new town and you're having a tough time that's understandable and people could offer suggestions and support , but to make inaccurate and offensive comments because you've taken your ball home when you didn't get your own way about living in London is knobbery of the highest order.

I never felt like there is an adventure waiting for me around the corner

Are you George from the Famous Five?

You have a strange obsession with class for a non-British person.

Hmm.