To hate living in Manchester (and North in general)

[ILikeMilk]

Moved here four years ago to be with DH, and I still cannot get used to it. We are in a nicest area of Manchester, and it is still feels very provincial and boring. I dream about living in London, but DH does not want to look for a new job. I feel like there is no point and don?t want to decorate the house, make friends, etc, I just fantasise about being in London every single day. There is not much to do here, no nice streets or galleries, not much to do on the weekends as a family. I went to London this weekend, it was so painful to come back. Does anybody else feel this way?

I visit London as my sis lives down South, I absolutely categorically could not live there. I find it overwhelming, noisy, busy , dirty , expensive and I don't feel safe and secure. But chacun a son gout ! I moved from manchester to a little seaside town to be with my DH and was desperately homesick and upset and unsettled for a good few months.. but you have to get oyurself out there and not be hateful ! make friends and make the best of things

"Allnew, we went to some nice bars in Notting Hill and Hampstead, Kensington, Tate and V&A also some of my fav. shops are over there. Getting off a train in Stockport was a real shock, I just broke in tears"

Jeeze, you need to get a grip on yerself chuck. No wonder you havent made any friends if your nose is so far up yer own backside.

London is a dump anyway.

"Getting off a train in Stockport was a real shock, I just broke in tears."

Really?

Could be worse - you really COULD be in the Midlands

The Midlands - the region that the 80s forgot...

YABU... If you cut yourself off from people and don't put down any roots how are you going to fit in anywhere? And if he hasn't caved after 4 years of you sulking I don't think that's a good plan either. Life's what you make it....

awww bless... try calling it St. Ockport and it may soothe you a bit...

i used to live in preston, now i live down south. i miss the north so much it hurts sometimes. you need to stop living the london life in your head, you are not there anymore. enjoy the people, get to know people in your street, if they have kids too youl never be short of a babysitter once you know them! take the kids to owd nells in preston for food and fireworks its amazing.

the north has so much the south lacks not just cheap housing. there isnt much work, working hours are longer but id go back in a second

Sounds like you have a pretty miserable attitude really! I live in south Manchester and it's a fab place. There is loads to do in the city centre - galleries, cinemas, restaurants etc, and some lovely parks near where you are (Dunham Massey, Tatton) As for Hale being a sxxthole - erm, that surprises me! Similarly, Liverpool has lots to offer (lived there for years) and has some great galleries etc.
Nowhere will offer as much as London can but there is a wealth of stuff on offer up here if you make the effort.

I've been to Lowry so many times, I know every single painting by heart. Tate in Liverpool is just a joke. Seriously, cant you see it people.

^"Getting off a train in Stockport was a real shock, I just broke in tears."

Really?^

to be fair Bupcakes, I felt like that once when I got off the train in Stockport. I'd meant to get off in Romiley.

I don't Manchester very well but good heavens, you sound like a bit of a misery.

If you can't get out if it, get into it and stop moaning.

TBH Hale is a bit soul-less, middle class nouveau riche.........you'd have thought............ok I won't say it

I suspect the problem is that you live in Suburbia rather than in Manchester. If you move right out and live in a village or somewhere like Debysire, the experience would be totally different, likewise if you moved into the centre of town. I grew up rather near where I suspect you live and I agree, there is nothing there. I don't think you need to relocate, but you may need to move.

Yes Bupcake, really, I am in tears right now... so please ignore my posts, as I am probably not in a right mind to post...

But crying? Prima donna, much?!

I was a bit when I got off the tube in Hackney, but that's life.

I am beginning to smell a wind up.

Maybe the Midlands would be more up your street OP, I hear they make a mean curry goat.

Meant to say, when you were in London, be realistic about how much of the wonderful cultural stuff you actually did and how often. I work in London and IME, the majority of people would be lucky to get to a gallery more than twice a year. You could easily go down to London that often (or more if you planned ahead with cheap rail tickets).

Ilikemilk - you sound like a total snob

Am very at you describing Hale as a "shithole"

I grew up in the South - in fact I am a genuine Cockney born within the sound of the Bow bells

But I went up North when I went to University, I am still here 18 months later. Have lived in South Yorkshire, Wearside and now in Teesside - and I love it. Beautiful scenery short drives away with rolling hills, gorgeous coastlines, friendly people and loads of parks, museums etc. With much less traffic and noise than in the south!

DH is originally from the NW, so we go over towards Manchester a lot as he has family there and we think it is a great place!

I do wish we could move back to Sheffield as I absolutely love Sheffield (so can understand you hankering after London) but I still enjoy living where I am because I have made an effort to find places to go and people to meet, rather than wallowing in self-pity like you appear to be doing!

I actually think somebody's hatred of a place often says more about the person than the place.

That's not to say people can't have preferences, but if you've got a loving partner and family there's no need for a place to make you absolutely miserable.

Sorry that should have been 18 YEARS later not months!!

babyheave
I can smell something but its not a wind up. I have had gut ache all day