To hate living in Manchester (and North in general)

[ILikeMilk]

Moved here four years ago to be with DH, and I still cannot get used to it. We are in a nicest area of Manchester, and it is still feels very provincial and boring. I dream about living in London, but DH does not want to look for a new job. I feel like there is no point and don?t want to decorate the house, make friends, etc, I just fantasise about being in London every single day. There is not much to do here, no nice streets or galleries, not much to do on the weekends as a family. I went to London this weekend, it was so painful to come back. Does anybody else feel this way?

Well, if you are going to move to London, wouldn't making a start on getting the house saleable/rentable be a good project for you?
You can be as hands on as you want, get down with the roller and the paint in D&G overalls or project manage.
It would be a project that is moving you closer to where you want to be, wouldn't it?

It is not ideal saturday, but all I care about now is to get out of this place. Everything else comes second.

Yes Lizzy, but we were thinking to sell it as it is, it is not in a bad state, but needs some updating.

"Once you've lived in London everywhere else does seem a little bit backward."
Comments like this make Londoners seem so xenophobic and parochial.

I escaped from London to a better life in Yorkshire. Where I live the schools are better, the houses are cheaper, the countryside is on my doorstep, the crime rate is much lower, people I don't know say hello when I walk past them. Why would I want to live in London?

And look at this!!!

Primark? Debenhams? Nobody who lives in Hale shops in either of those!

Grendelsmum, can you fit Hat Facxtory into every post?

This is just nonsense. The life you dream about no longer exists. Not because you've changed cities but because you are no longer a young, single, childless woman. The Past is another Country and all that (or in your case another city...or two!)

And stop going on about Stockport, you don't live there, you merely changed trains there.

Obviously that should be Hat Factory.

You could sell and then buy in London. Or just sell and bank the money - if its a large house then rentiug a smaller place might be cheaper than your current mortgage, plus it would put you in a strong position to buy a property later if you have no chain below you (overall house market is predicted to be pretty stagnant in 2011, so minimal risk imo).

Fine. you hate it.

Do something about it. Start getting your house ready to put on the market, just do something so you feel you are making steps towards getting out.

But don't sit around moaning and doing nothing but bleating on about how shit it is.

Which it really isn't. you are just choosing to see it that way.

Having lived in London for 20 years I have uprooted, left my friends, made a huge move up here. And I love it. In 6 months I have not been shouted out when I am driving, have not nearly been run over by someone chasing a red light, spat at when I'm putting the LO in the car-seat (and I thought that was such a nice area) and I don't have to drive an hour just to get on a motorway out of town).

In 20 minutes I can be in town, or I can be running the kids ragged over some green and pleasant land.

And there are trams. I love trams, me.

I'm beginning to think that the only place you will be happy is back under your bridge

Either stop fucking wallowing or move (or at the very least make plans to move)

I don't even want to help any more. Frankly, you sound like you are putting a lot of effort into being miserable. So go ahead and enjoy that instead.

I have been to Santiago, Chile and I would not put it at no1

TheSecond, I would describe myself as somebody on the opposide side of spectrum...

opposite side of the spectrum... grr.

She's not a wannabe wag, she's a wannabe Carrie Bradshaw. Which is marginally better. I think.

TheSecond, if you'll read the whole thread you'll find out. DH is in finance and I am doing a phd. Nothing to do with WAGS I am afraid. And if you cant read the whole thing - I moved to DH's house, he bought it before we met.

Tonight we have just eaten some spare ribs bought from the farm shop down the road. The pigs run around the farm freely and live a happy life, and the owner and I are on first name terms. Would you get that in London?

Dont make me cry, LOL

She doesn't want help. Can everyone stop wasting their breath please?

On the subject of Manchester, has anyone been to Fac251?

TSC thank goodness you're here!