to think if you're going to update your fb status during labour..

[judgeypantaloons]

you should try not to be too vague?

A work colleague was induced early yesterday morning. About an hour ago, she posted her first post in labour: she "feels like she is in someone else's bad dream".

Having close family experience of stillbirth, I felt absolutely sick to read this. I don't know her that well, but had this awful sinking feeling.

Cue a lot of comments from her other fb friends clearly indicating worry e.g. "thinking of you", "hope you are safe and well","hope all is okay?" etc

10 minutes ago, update from her husband: "Good luck love, I'm off home, have left you money for the taxi, no need to get cash out".

a) Ill-advised to discuss labour like this
b) Husband is a twat.

AIBU?
So I am assuming that no catastrophe has occurred.

It all seems horrendous to me.

judgeypantaloons, any update on the baby?

JamieLeeCurtis - your way of thinking about fb is very similar to mine.

OP - I see where you're coming from too. YANBU.

How is it any different than a labour thread on MN? Why is that okay but updating Facebook isn't?

Tee - MN labour threads are for the purpose of other women who are poss on your ante-natal thread to read, or other women who have laboured to offer support.

FB is full of close friends, distant friends of mixed ages and both sexes. I doubt that this woman's young male relations or elderly male colleagues would be of much support.

That make sense? (Sorry if it doesn't, DS is jumping all over my lap shouting at the cat!!)

I still don't see what the difference is. Plenty of people post labour threads in chat and even if it's on a specific topic, MN is a public board.

Also, there seems to be a lot of comments along the lines of 'how can you type while in that much pain' which negates the argument about who is reading it.

Oh shit, I feel crap about this now.

She is in hospital, 18 days overdue and waiting to be induced. Been on a monitor for 4 days, up and down. Probably going to be sectioned.

And then someone wrote on her wall to say it could always be worse because her baby had died at 3 weeks old .

So I got it.. I know I was but when I read that comment I felt awful for the poor naive girl because actually the last thing you need in her case is to think about a bay dying. Yet I understand how it must have angered the poster, obviously, because I felt it and I have never even lost a baby.

Suddenly saw it from both sides and have concluded that, well, social networks are just SHIT.