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AIBU?

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Original poster

My GF and her lift to work.

46 replies

hendopolis · 06/01/2011 19:20

First hello, I'm new here and I have to confess I'm not a mum, not even a dad (although I'd like to be) but I very much enjoy this site and all the wit and humour it contains.

I thought I'd post this quandary because I'm not sure I'm being reasonable.

I'm in trouble with my other half. She and I work in the same office, but the problem is I like to go to work early - arriving at my desk at 7. She wants me to go half an hour later so she can have a lift in and doesn?t wait around the place till her shift starts.

But I hate driving in at 7 because the traffic is much heavier and I get wound up because I think I might be late.

She would not drive in herself because she doesn't like driving, so giving her my car isn't the obvious option it might seem.

I got up early this morning as usual, went in, she arrived an hour later and now won't speak to me, sticking out her tongue instead.

AIBU?

OP posts:
MrsGetoutClaus · 06/01/2011 19:22

7.15?

OldLadyKnowsNothing · 06/01/2011 19:22

When are you supposed to start, and how about her?

classydiva · 06/01/2011 19:23

Can you not compromise and do 7.15 as MrsG suggests?

ChickensAreFlyingUnderTheRadar · 06/01/2011 19:23

If you are driving, YANBU. It is no fun to sit in traffic.

HattiFattner · 06/01/2011 19:23

beggars can't be choosers. If she wants a lift, she goes in with you. If not, she makes her own way there.

SarahStrattonsBaubles · 06/01/2011 19:24

I'm assuming you live together? If you drive to work and she doesn't get a lift and wont drive herself, how does she get to work?

Original poster
hendopolis · 06/01/2011 19:25

Well, I could do 7.15, that's true and it would be a compromise. I'm supposed to start at 7.30 but I like to be in early to get things sorted.
The thing is here in London the traffic gets ridiculous around 7 so its much more stressful to drive.
I don't know, maybe I am being unreasonable.

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JaneS · 06/01/2011 19:25

She stuck her tongue out and doesn't speak to you?

Er ... how old is she?

AuntiePickleBottom · 06/01/2011 19:25

perhaps she likes the lift into work because of the conversation with somebody else, or for just time apart.

Original poster
hendopolis · 06/01/2011 19:26

SarahSB, she gets the Tube. Frankly she could have my car and I'd get the tube, I care not, the important thing for me is starting my day at 7.

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Original poster
hendopolis · 06/01/2011 19:27

Auntie PB I love my GF but if I'm being honest I like the time to quietly listen to the radio as I drive, and have some think time. It's a little ritual.

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EcoLady · 06/01/2011 19:28

Why don't you both take the Tube?

Or am I missing something onbvious?

LadyOfTheManor · 06/01/2011 19:29

Well she has the offer to go in with you or to make her own way there, if she doesn't want to leave early then she's made her bed!

Original poster
hendopolis · 06/01/2011 19:30

Littlereddragon, my OH is 40. I don't think I'm in serious trouble here, it's not divorce time, but I am getting flak.

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Original poster
hendopolis · 06/01/2011 19:31

Ecolady, my working day finishes at around half nine at night. To be honest I can't face a tube journey at the the end of that.

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SarahStrattonsBaubles · 06/01/2011 19:32

Tube is ugh. I used to hate getting the Tube. But I would rather take the Tube than drive in central London.

If your GF wants a lift she should accept that you will be leaving when you want to leave. It's your car and you will be driving. If she doesn't like that then she has the alternative of the Tube and should just be grateful it's not a bloody bus. Which is even worse than the Tube IME.

Either way not talking to you and sticking her tongue out is ever so slightly immature. Maybe buy her a nice pink tricycle with a basket and ribbons on the handles instead?

cornshilk007 · 06/01/2011 19:33

tell her to get the tube or lump it

Original poster
hendopolis · 06/01/2011 19:34

lol at SSB's reply. I got her a bag from Orla Keiley for xmas, but she swapped it. I can't get Christmas right either but I sense that's a different topic.

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BuckingxmasFells · 06/01/2011 19:35

quite frankly being in the same office and living together - I think you need some alone time.

My dh and i have worked together at various points and I love the peace of the journey in and home.

tethersend · 06/01/2011 19:35

Was going to ask what you did then checked your username Grin

Unless I'm wrong. In which case, as you were.

TheMonster · 06/01/2011 19:36

I think she is being unreasonable. You're saving her a drive (and petrol costs) so she should fit in with you if she wants the lift.

tethersend · 06/01/2011 19:36

Actually, I think I am wrong.

cornshilk007 · 06/01/2011 19:36

something to do wth hens?

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hendopolis · 06/01/2011 19:41

Nothing to do with hens.

The office is quite big, and sometimes we work on diferent days, or even nights. I welcome time with her and she with me - that's not the issue really.

Can I take this opportunity to thank everyone who's taken the time to post replies to me, much appreciated.

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WhatsWrongWithYou · 06/01/2011 19:41

What on earth could your job be that it requires you to work from 7.30am to 9.15 at night?

I know long hours are the norm these days, but 14 hours a day every day?

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