to not want my brother to teach dd how to punch

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My brother looked after dd today and her highlight of the day according to her was that he taught how to punch. I think this is inappropriate as she's only 5 and is going to school tomorrow and I'm now worried she might try and show off her knew "skill". DH says I'm overreacting

i am not twisting. you said "it's worse when a girl does it"

i was asking you why you thought that. i now know. and i never implied that you wouldn't punish a boy, just that you would punisha girl more harshly even if only by judging her more harshly. it is still unbalanced.

OP, so your child has an uncle its mother disapproves of. Every small child should be so lucky, mine took me on motor bike rides. Lots of sucking-on-a-lemon faces, it was great.

You're over reacting. My Dad taught me how to punch when I was small. I have never punched anyone. But if the need should arise

What a very odd thread - not for the OP (yes you're overreacting a bit) but for the rest of it.

My toddler dd is much more violent than her brother ever was - she must be the wrong gender - I'll get her checked out.

Iloveit - you know full well that when a woman/girl is violent then its going against everything that nature and sometimes God intended and therefore its an absolute travesty and the world must end. When men do it its natural and therefore warrants a bit of tutting and eyerolling.

YAB a little U - unless your DD is unlikely to understand not to demonstrate her skill on the rest of the class at school tomorrow....

Suchprospects 'Learning how to punch properly is a really good skill and one that most girls never get taught. It's also not all about fighting. It's about learning how to use your body. Understanding about following through with the force of your movement, for instance, is crucial to being powerful in many situations. '

Agree entirely. My Dad taught me how to throw a punch when I was 6/7. I was very much a girly little girl (lots of pink and ringlets) but being able to physically defend myself - and knowing I could hit harder than most of the boys in my school - gave me a confidence I might otherwise not have had, even though I only ever had to use the skill once :)

Have just thought my dad also taught me some other self defence strategys in my teens like:

(When walking home in the dark) keep your hand in a fist, and carry your keys in your fist, with the long part poking out

plus there was another one about keeping your fingers straight and tense/rigid (maybe this was the hand not carrying the keys) and 'going for the eyes' with them

My dad was a wonderful man

YABU OP you should give your daughter credit for having some intelligence and not assume she'll go around hitting people. And FWIW I wish someone had taught me to punch before I went to my old school... rough area.