DH wants daughter to go to a private school.

[SecretMuslim]

I'm sorry friends, but I can't risk this being found by my DH so I set up a temp account, I hope you understand in the mercy of Allah(PBUH)

For some info, my DS is privately educated at a fine school and I am very happy with him there. But DH wants also for my daughter to attend this school. I think this will not serve her best interest in life, as they do not teach things that will be important to her like home activities, taking care of a family etc. I know its politically correct these days but I don't see why Math and business skills will do her well. We came to this country and with a special community grant can afford sons school while DH looks for a job (I stay at home with DS2 (7 months) and cannot work due to pregnancy), and sending two children to a top school would also give us less disposable income to spend.

Sorry again for the secretive account but it is paramount to cover my tracks. Thankyou to those in the last week who helped with my other problem (You know who especially)

How do you know what will be important to your dd in her life? She may aspire to being a top business woman. Don't restrict HER life to the narrow ideas you aspire to

YABU - not because you can't send one private and one state. You can and we do; because the dc are individuals and schools we chose (chose us) will maximise the academic and social potential of each child. I add, it had nothing to do with money. You are being unreasonable because because you are assuming that your daughter, irrespective of her ability or wishes should be treated differently to your son and should not be given every opportunity to maximise her potential.

This may well be a wind up but in the UK the equality act is now in force - it is a great shame if you do not wish to live in accordance with UK legislation.

BTW our dd's state school was chosen for its ethos and curriculum NOT because it would teach our dd how to run a home or raise a family. This is a wind up - this has to be a wind up.

Should not have posted on this thread.

We lived in Oman, which is a Muslim country. I know that the girls who attended the school were taught more than making bread and beds. If you are real, YABVVVVU.

State schools in the UK don't really teach kids 'home activities, taking care of a family etc' - they may do some cookery and needlework in tech, along with electronics etc - but private schools do this too.

Whether a woman is going to follow a career or be a 'homemaker', maths and business skills are useful anyway. You can easily enough teach your DD cookery etc at home. School is for the things you can't teach. (And while you're about it, teach your DS 'home activities' too - so useful at uni and your future DILs will love you for it)

Do you come from a very poor background in your own country?

Most Moslems coming from more wealthy backgrounds expect their daughters to achieve highly in the UK when they move here - indeed that's usually one of the deciding factors.

Perhaps you could seek advice on this from those in your own mosque. The advice you get here will be far outside your own experience or comprehending.

Perhaps at the very least you want your daughter to have the good computer skills you clearly do?

We came to this country and with a special community grant Grrr!

can afford sons school while DH looks for a job Grrrrrr!

(I stay at home with DS2 (7 months) and cannot work due to pregnancy) Grrrrrrrrrr!

Not to mention the ridiculous gender stereotyping. Please be a troll.

...or Big fat steaming bullshit' as Reality more eloquently puts it

made me laugh anyway. and saved me a trip up the shop for my Daily Fail,.

Is there really anything worse than a tired old formulaic wind up? I think not.

There's no way this is for real. Unemployed immigrants being given enough money to bring up 3 children, pay fees at a 'top' private school and still have plenty of 'disposable income to spend'?

Reality has it right

I am usually loathe to call 'wind up' until I can be absolutely sure, because so many people in this world are actually dillusional pathetic arses that these things could often be for real - but this? - I haven't even read past the OP this time. It's so laughably transparent that it's a very poor effort indeed.

My sister in law is a Moslem from a devout family. 7 of them lived in a two bedroom house and kids went to local comp (as did I). All the girls worked hard, went to uni and have professional careers (and well-brought up children). If this is a wind-up, I think it's a racist one drawing on stereotypes about migrants drawing benefits and sexism in Islam - and insulting to the many Moslem women who contribute to this country. If by any remote chance, it's not, as I am sure you are aware, the prophet was employed by his wife - a prominent businesswoman.