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to want my baby to wear babygrows, not little 'outfits'.

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islandbaby · 04/01/2011 18:34

I love my 4 week DS in his little soft baby grows. Why would I want him to wear horrible stiff jeans and shirts? But now I have loads of these 'outfits' from family and friends for his birth and christmas (including the most repulsive stiff Diesel trousers which probably cost stupid money) which they keep saying 'Why isn't he wearing his XXX'.

Don´t want to be ungrateful, but he's just too cute in his baby clothes, and there's plenty of time for all that grown up stuff later. Not so easy to tell that to the gift givers though.

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midori1999 · 04/01/2011 18:37

YANBU. I always think babies must be so much more comfy in babygros and although mine have always had one or two 'outfits' they have spent most of their time in babygros for the first few months or so.

Alibabaandthe40nappies · 04/01/2011 18:39

YANBU.

Put him in each outfit and take a photo and send them out - job done.

Then you can e-bay it all, because weirdly some people like this stuff! :)

allnightlong · 04/01/2011 18:40

YANBU I don't get why on earth anyone want to 'dress up baby' surely with a newborn they have much better uses for their time.
DS is 6 months and still only wears babygrows or soft playsuits.

backwardpossom · 04/01/2011 18:40

Of course little babies should be wearing cute babygros - they spend the majority of their time (during the day - not necessarily at night!) sleeping, and I don't know many adults that sleep in their jeans... Plus, they're only tiny for such a short period of time. Why would you want to make them look older when they're so little by dressing them in Diesel jeans! Arf!

ChippingIn · 04/01/2011 18:41

It's up to you what he wears. If you don't want to put him in 'outfits' then don't - but you should be straight with them else they will continue wasting their money in the belief that you just didn't like 'that' outfit.

Not all 'outfits' are 'horrible' - have you tried washing them? If you don't want to use them - keep them as passing on gifts or eBay them.

RedHeels · 04/01/2011 18:41

I agree. I love my 5 1/2 week old DD in those all-in-one jobs. I will review her wardrobe at 3 months and decide whether the baby grows stay exclusively Grin or will introduce some other (soft) stuff. I, too, don't get jeans and frilly outfits - I mean we take our jeans off when going to bed as they will be digging in so why on Earth do it to a tiny baby Confused? I think people still think that babies are dolls with no touch sense.

PrincessScrumpy · 04/01/2011 18:43

YANBU. I felt the same. I had a soft fleece dress (bit like a pinafore dress) which I sometimes put on dd over her babygro but she lived in them. Also, shock horror, I didn't get her dressed in the morning and changed at night - I just changed her everytime she was dirty (with reflux it was a lot).

She didn't really wear outfits until 3 months (even then she still had pretty babygros) and didn't have jeans until 6 months. I was lucky that my family felt the same (mum thinks jeans are for workmen only which makes me smile as I live in them - maybe she thinks I'm doing jobs around the house!) But lots of people I know with boys put them in jeans and shirts.

Put him in all the outfits and take some pics to put out when people visit so they can see him in the outfit they gave him. Or just tell them "Oh yes he wore it yesterday and had a poo leak so it's in the wash!"

LoveMyGirls · 04/01/2011 18:43

YANBU

deemented · 04/01/2011 18:43

DS3 will be one next week and today for the first time i went out and bought him some clothes. He's been in babygros since he was born - if people think me slack, i don't give a fiddlers fart - he's comfortable!

vintageteacups · 04/01/2011 18:44

I agree but my sister is completely the opposite. She put her ds x 2 in outfits from newborn. She only puts sleepsuits on them at night.

Mine used to sleep in them, get up and stay in that one until they puked or pooed on it, then it would be changed for the next one.

I bought dd her first dress and tights at 4 weeks old and she looked bizaare in them.

Jeans are not ideal and changing a new born out of a vest, shirt, tank top and jeans is a bit Hmm

Mine stayed in baby gros until at least 6 months, with a few exceptions!

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Alibabaandthe40nappies · 04/01/2011 18:45

It is worth dropping a few comments into conversation along the lines of 'oh he's so much happier in just a babygro', especially to the more prolific purchasers (like my MIL!!)

valiumredhead · 04/01/2011 18:45

Awwwwwww little baby grows are lovely and ds was in them right up until about 8/9 months then he wore some cute dungarees. I think 'outfits' look very uncomfy especially as they spend so much time asleep. Just remembered he wore really nice little cotton nighties too with elasticated hems to keep him cosy. he was 2 months prem and they were so easy to change his nappy etc. He's a bouncy 9 year old now so long time ago! You dress your child in whatever you like and if the clothes people buy you don't get worn just pass them on.

BusyMissIzzy · 04/01/2011 18:46

YANBU, but I can see why people buy the little outfits as presents. As impractical as they may be a lot of them are so teeny and cute, and nobody wants to buy babygros as a present because they're too practical and boring. Which is a shame, because it's the practical things that are most useful with a newborn.

LoopyLoopsOfSparklyFairyLights · 04/01/2011 18:46

I think it's perfectly fine to tell people how you feel, the exchange what they buy you for a bigger size, for the baby to wear when it's a bit older. There will come a time when you'll be grateful for little outfits.

A1980 · 04/01/2011 18:46

YADNBU

Babygro's seem so much more comfortable for babies, even older babies. They're warmer and easier to dress baby in. They're also cheaper than all these outfits and the baby doesn't give a shit about looking fashionable or trendy. Far better to keep the money for when the baby's older.

Some babygro's aren't meant to be worn as nightwear anyway. Some of the more fancy ones say on the label: not intended as sleep wear.

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stickersarecurrency · 04/01/2011 18:52

YANBU. With both of mine they've been given tons of gorgeous outfits but they seem so restrictive and lumpy. I was sorting through DD's wardrobe yesterday and at 3 months of age I've already got a box of unworn things to eBay. It makes me feel really sad but what's the point in it? At least if I make a bit of money from selling them on I can get her something appropriate and so it's still in the spirit of a gift. Even allowing for the fact that I find sequins and slogans distasteful, there's no way it can be comfy to lie around all day in something stiff and full of seams and pockets.

Chatelaine · 04/01/2011 18:54

YANBU - what a great design the grow
bag Babygrow is. Very fond memories of some of ours. Comfortable, soft, unrestrictive, ticks all the boxes. I really don't get the mini me stuff. Horrid and expensive when young families have other priorties. Well done you OP.

stickersarecurrency · 04/01/2011 18:57

And FGS don't get me started on shoes ... She's got 9 pairs of shoes, 9, and it'll be a year before she needs any. They're eyewateringly cute but utterly pointless.

FrameyMcFrame · 04/01/2011 19:01

YANBU,
babies look so uncomfortable in 'outfits'.

comfort and warmth is all that matters, dressing them up like little dolls is more about the parent's gratification.

ddubsgirl · 04/01/2011 19:06

i loved mine in babygros,more comfy and easier to keep them warm(ds1 & twins winter babies)easier to change & wash/dry too

toeragsnotriches · 04/01/2011 19:07

YANBU. My DH wants me to buy him an adult version. It's called a 'onesie'. You do get some interesting stuff back if you google 'adult babygro'... Shock!!

WimpleOfTheBallet · 04/01/2011 19:10

I think it's worse for boys..with baby girls you get little soft dresses with cotton bloomers...elasticated waists and all that...hate seeing jeans on a baby!

Even for toddlers I like cord dungarees much better than dresses though...once they get moving, frocks aren't practical!

WimpleOfTheBallet · 04/01/2011 19:12

For the day I like the fancy babygro's without feet in them...especially in summer...little fluted or frilled edges on them and a nice stripe or print...some have a little collar. Gorgeous!